Life On Pregnant Sex
posted by October 20 at 13:54 PMon
One of the big holes in the culture of this society is on the matter of sex and pregnancy. Meaning, we have answers for things like drinking and driving (the answer is no), for public sneezing (cover your mouth), clearing a clogged nose (must be done with a disposable tissue—the other day in Chinatown I saw an old Chinese man shut one his nostrils with a finger and blow the mucus in the open nostril out onto the street, in middle of the afternoon, in public, and he did it as if this was an OK thing to do in American society, which, of course, is not the case).
But when it comes down to the question of sex with a fully pregnant woman, there is silence. What should a couple do in this situation? Is it right? Is it wrong? And if a woman’s pregnancy is far along the way, having sex with her must mean having sex with the baby. Is this acceptable? Here is my personal answer: Sex with a pregnant women is not right or wrong but dishonest. It’s an act that is close to pity. One does it because one is trying to be nice, and not being honest about how much their partner’s body has changed.
The body that had the sex that resulted in the pregnancy is not the same as the body that is in the process of producing a whole new life. The first body was attractive (like a flower is attractive); the pregnant body, on the other hand, is used up by the function of the pregnancy. What a woman loses in the long process of a pregnancy is precisely what made the pregnancy possible, the flower of her body.