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Tuesday, August 29, 2006

Every Child Needs a Mother and a Father

Posted by on August 29 at 11:03 AM

Three year-old Marcus Fiesel was placed in a foster home—and luckily for Marcus, he had opposite-sex foster parents. Only a foster mother and a foster father, you see, can provide a young boy with gender-appropriate role models he needs. Placing Marcus with a same-sex couple would amount to “state sanctioned child abuse,” according to religious conservatives.

So how’s Marcus doing in the home of his opposite-sex foster parents? Not as well as you might hope.

The foster parents of Marcus Fiesel, a 3-year-old boy, have been charged with involuntary manslaughter, according to WKRC Local 12.

Hamilton County Prosecutor Joseph Deters, Sheriff Simon Leis, Jr and Clermont County Prosecutor Donald White held a news conference at 3 p.m. to announce the arrest of David and Liz Carroll, Marcus Fiesel’s foster parents. They are charged with involuntary manslaughter, but more serious charges are expected.

Deters said David and Liz Carroll placed Marcus in a closet for two days, before going to a family reunion in Williamsburg, Ky. Aug. 4. When they returned, he was dead.

David Carroll is accused of burning the boy’s body in Brown County…. The Clermont County Children’s Services has taken charge of the Carroll’s four children.

People get upset when I post these stories—and people should, as they’re pretty fucking upsetting. As a parent and a human being, I take no pleasure in reading these stories. Frankly, they freak the hell out of me—it’s impossible to read about a child suffering without imagining your own child suffering. So why post ‘em? Blogger Pam Spaulding has been posting similar tales of horrific hetero child abuse over at Pam’s House Blend. Says Pam

None of these horrifying cases has anything to do with heterosexuality, of course. But there is no call to regulate the rights of straight folks to have children based on the fact that some heterosexuals, clearly do not deserve to be anywhere near a child. One cannot judge a person’s character or ability to care for and love a child based on orientation alone, but that’s exactly what goes on in many states where the rights of gays and lesbians are constantly under attack when it comes to their ability to adopt of foster children who need loving homes.

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I'll refrain from making some sort of tasteless "closet" pun here. Instead I'll suggest that you and Schmader make a new blog for all child abuse related topics. Sorta like how you kicked all the music posts over to line out so the rest of us didn't have to read them.

What I take from these stories -- and they are horrific -- is the sense that it's damn easy to find bad parents of any stripe. So it makes sense, for the sake of children -- not to get all Greatest Love of All on you -- to allow for the largest possible pool of good parents, so that the bad ones, as much as possible, aren't allowed to raise anyone.

Don't you dare move these posts into some bad-parent ghetto, Dan. Keep posting them and posting them. People need to hear this and have it thrust into their faces: THIS is what you're asking for, THIS is what you're sanctioning. What's the Ohio law on gay parenting and adoption?

I say keep posting them, Dan. The posts ask us to look at how our assumptions are not working. They also help me remember to stop and say a prayer for those most innocent amongst us who just wanted to be loved.

Move the posts to another blog? you mean one that's separate...but equal?

how's this story to balance out the idiocy of some parents about 2 parents, who happen to be hetero's, and their fight to save their son's pretty flag:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/po/20060829/co_po/phelpsclanprotestsmeadesrainbowflag

Ohio actually allows openly gay couples to adopt jointly as well as second parent adoptions.

Keep posting them, Dan. I'm sure you saw this one, too: http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2003233268_forder29m.html

Disturbing doesn't even cover it.

Why do they hate my parents so? Both were fatherless after the age of 13 ...

Sigh. Meanwhile New Orleans is on Year 2 of inaction and lies/promises.

I wasn't serious about a separate blog. I meant it more as a dig on Line Out. Plus I was eating a sandwich at the time. Not that that matters. Eh?

I think the only fair solution--the only solution that makes any sense whatsoever--is to deny parental rights to everyone, regardless of orientation or ability. Run wild, lil' nippers! Run free!

Definitely keep posting them. This country likes to talk a big line about children, but essentially views them as yet another groupt to market shitty products to.

Miserable schools, no healthcare unless you're born lucky, an underfunded foster care system, a slutty/prudish societal message that says sex is loads of fun, but don't you dare do it, a good chunk of parents who refuse to be adults, politicians who cynically micro-manage the education curriculum to curry favor with religious zealots. It's a pretty bleak picture.

And most offensive of all: The pious message that even the sickest heterosexual fuck is preferable to the most nurturing homo.

It's a wonder that children don't hate us for the way our society behaves.

Catalina, you rock!

Catalina: I think they do. Hate us. I know I did when I was small.

Ditto (except, I still do).

I didn't hate adults. I remember the occassional Oedipusal rage, and the distinctly indignant thought that "when I had kids" I would never treat my kids that way, but other than that, I guess I was pretty oblivious.

But then again, I freely admit that I had a near Rockwellian upbringing. I was very lucky. The very worst I could ever accuse my parents of was a slight case of benign neglect - but I was the youngest, and quite unexpected at the age they were at when I was came along. Looking at how my friends micro-manage every facet of their children's lives, I've come to the conclusion that a little benign neglect is not a bad thing. :-)

Keep hitting on it Dan. There is one area not touched and that is single parenting - for whatever reason.
Jimbeau

Keep going with this. Not only does this show that opposite sex is not always the answer, but also shows the repeated failings of child protection services.

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