Savage Love Savage Love Letter of the Day
posted by August 18 at 12:01 PMon
Do you have any tips on ending a relationship without being angry? Iíve been in a loving, GGG relationship with an older guy for over a year and a half. Iím only 22 however, and heís very dependent. Iím not ready and donít want to support him for the rest of my life. This is my first real relationship and I am afraid to leave, but know itís best. Itís very difficult to make an inventory of what is wrong with the relationship to justify ending it without becoming angry.
Omitting Violent Emotions Reasonably
You don’t have to talk him into allowing you to leave, OVER, or win a debate before you can leave him, or convince a three-judge panel that you’re in the right. All you have to do is calmly tell him it’s over, inform him that you’re leaving, and… leave. If he insists on knowing why you’re ending it, OVER, you can share your reasonsóright then and there if you can, or later in a letter or an email if you’re afraid the exchange will devolve into an angry scene.
But you’re under no obligation to “make an inventory” of everything wrong with this relationship in order to get out of it.