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"Kimberly Bemis and other relatives have said the little girl's death was a terrible accident. They could not be reached for comment."

Priceless. After the dude admits to holding the little girl's face in front of the bath jets till she went limp, the fiancee has the gall to call it a "terrible accident". My heart died a little bit reading that.

Posted by Mittens Schrodinger | November 14, 2007 4:35 PM

Hey Dan, you missed this one...

Posted by Westside forever | November 14, 2007 4:39 PM

Well, if you want to get technical about it, "mother and father" don't really play into the story here. I mean, besides the "unfit to parent" part--which was of course relevant to the girl's life and living situation--but ultimately irrelevant to her actual death.

That said, how horrifying sad. A wholly little life, frivolously and violently destroyed.

Posted by Rose Red | November 14, 2007 5:18 PM

Er, make that "wholly innocent."

Posted by Rose Red | November 14, 2007 5:19 PM

But, Rose Red, these M&F posts are a response to folks who insist that a child, if it can't be raised by its opposite-sex biological parents, simply must be placed in a home with opposite-sex foster or adoptive parents. It is, according to Mitt Romney, Gary Bauer, Michael Savage, et all, "child abuse" to place a child in a home with two gay male parents or two lesbian parents.

Posted by Dan Savage | November 14, 2007 5:40 PM

Where are "Daddy Dobbie", "Suck my Peter LaBarbera", and "Phuck me Phelps" when these things happen?

Posted by Johnny | November 14, 2007 5:44 PM

One has to bad does it really have to be for *THIS* to be the "better option"....?????!!!! Anybody have some information?

Posted by cunei4m | November 14, 2007 8:08 PM

Dude. That's cold.

Posted by JenK | November 14, 2007 9:49 PM

Reason number ZILLION that I am hapy that I moved from New London to Seattle. That whole place is FUCKED.

Posted by Tha Munny | November 14, 2007 9:58 PM

Dan, you wanna do us all a favor? Quit simply linking to outrageous stories, and start giving us facts and dirt on the inadequecies of the agencies that are placing these kids and the judges signing off on them.

As a former placement kid myself, I can tell you that as much culpability for these tragedies lies with the poor investigations into allegations/suspicions, poor background checks, poor supervision, and poor follow-up as anything.

Oh, and for those of you that are disturbed by these kinds of tales, three things: If you've got a law degree, join CASA. If you have deep pockets, donate to CASA. Otherwise, give hell to your county and state lawmakers.

Dead kids are sad, but most of those of us that live are fucked up forever.

Posted by JAM in PA | November 14, 2007 10:26 PM

This child had only an aunt and a fiance. The conservatives would say if the child were with her mother and father, this would not have happened.

What are you trying to prove Dan, straight men should not be left alone with children?

Posted by Psyche | November 15, 2007 3:54 AM

*sigh* I just. Don't. Get it.

I just can't imagine the head space of someone who can hold a kid underwater until she's drowned. I mean really do it, and not have it just be one of those random, horrible thoughts which is immediately dismissed in disgust from one's own head.

I guess its good that I can't. I guess that's why we call folks who do that stuff "monsters".

Posted by Toby | November 15, 2007 10:42 AM

However hard I tell myself not to blame all male stepparents/boyfriends etc. for these things; sometimes the thought flickers through my mind that *only* lesbians should be foster/step/adoptive parents. It seems that in most of these cases it's an unbiorelated adult male who does the killing. I hope it's just confirmation bias, but I do wonder sometimes.

And I had a wonderful stepfather myself.

Posted by SpookyCat | November 15, 2007 11:21 AM

@13: Unfortunately, this kind of thing might be predisposed. It's common in animal groups to see a male kill the female's children from another male.

Posted by Greg | November 15, 2007 11:30 AM

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