Homo Another Public Sex Sting
posted by October 30 at 9:38 AMon
Twenty men were arrested for seeking “gay sex” in a public restroom of I-684 in Bedford, New York. Betcha can’t guess how many are gay identified.
A sting aimed a men who cruise a rest area off Interstate 684 for gay sex resulted in charges against 20 men in the past month, including a Catholic priest and a registered sex offender.
The sting, which also netted a local Rotary Club president and a 72-year-old man, was prompted by a complaint from a man who stopped to use the rest area with his 10-year-old son, said Capt. Robert Meyer, state police commander in Westchester County….
Most of the men were charged with either loitering or trespass violations or both. One was charged with forcible touching, a misdemeanor.
But first let’s try and guess who was charged with forcible touching.
Among those arrested was the Rev. Gary Mead, a Catholic priest from Millwood assigned to St. Gregory Barbarigo parish in Garnerville. Police said he fondled an undercover officer and was charged with forcible touching.
The Catholic priest, of course! Those dude have serious entitlement issues. But now the main event: Out of the 20 men arrested seeking gay sex in a toilet off I-684, how many do you think were openly gay?
With the exception of Mead, all of those charged are married, police said. Although most of the illegal activity takes place at night, the crimes occur throughout the day, Lutz said.
The correct answer was none!
How does the same story get written after every public “gay sex” sting? “Hey, all the men arrested are married or priests! What’s up with that!” What’s up with that, of course, is that squalid, anonymous toilet sex isn’t something most openly gay men engage in. It is, for the most part, the preferred mode of sexual expression for closeted gay and bisexual men. Cruisy toilets and parks, while frequented by some openly gay men (none of whom ever seem to get caught, however), are primarily patronized by straight-identified closet cases, married men, losers, and priests—hell, the existence or cruisy toilets and parks make it possible for many of these men to remain closeted.
Yes, yes: some gay men go in for public sex. Hell, I’ve had sex in public. (with a boyfriend, but still: full disclosure and like that.) Please note that I carefully qualified the statements I made above. (“…anonymous toilet sex isn’t something most openly gay men engage in. It is, for the most part, the preferred mode of sexual expression for closeted gay and bisexual men.”) I’m not trying to paint openly gay men as sober, monogamous, sexually repressed saints that only get it on at home with their lifepartners. Hardly. But facts are facts: whether the public sex sting is conducted in a big, liberal place like Seattle, or a presumably conservative backwater like Bedford, New York, most of the men arrested are straight-identified.
Unless the police are careful to avoid arresting men with rainbow stickers on their cars, the arrest records prove what most gay men know to be true: cruisy toilets and parks are for messy closet cases, not healthy, sexually adventurous gay dudes.