Comments on Foot In Mouth

"a detail as intriguing as it was mystifying" Now that's good writing. It is pretty rare for something to be both mystifying AND intriguing. Since it's usually one or the other this must be a truly special case indeed. This journalist's prose both sickens and disgusts me.

Timing is everything.

I LOVED the advice Dan gave to that chick: honest and unapologetic.

The pic accompanying this post is giving me a chubby.

Here's the link to the article that you meant to put in the post.
http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove

I think the difference lies in the fact that there was no evidence at all in FOG's letter, as printed at least, that her ex-boyfriend had a foot fetish, as opposed to having a sexual predilection. Many people do have fetishes, but nearly everyone has a predilection or two. As best I can tell, this guy just has a thing for feet.

I think we've watered down the word fetish to cover all kinds of predilections, even ordinary and quite mild ones, leading people like FOG to associate guys who get a boner from feet with psychos like this.

I'm not even fighting it, mind you, language evolves. It does explain all of this, though.

The shoe is on the other foot

*ba da boom...tish*

jonny579

I LOVED the advice Dan gave to that chick: honest and unapologetic

Except for now, when he's apologizing.

But not sincerely, Boomer, not sincerely.

You've always been a misogynistic prick, Dan, and yes, here you "really let her have it." Good thing you're not living with any female in the house or else you'd be beating her silly (though I do worry about your son, with an "adult" in the house with that much repressed rage). The violence inherent in response to this simple query is so over the top that I'm stunned you didn't end up as a Catholic priest -- but you had thought about it, right?

Despite the psychopathic rage toward women you continuously exhibit (sorry about your mom, Dan), your response reveals a deeply ingrained revulsion about your own fetishes. That's what's so ironic about your response -- your own sexual insecurities and flaming guilt are written all over it in neon.

Questions to ladies on the Stranger staff: Does working for a full-blown misogynistic managing editor creep you out? How do you deal with Dan's hatred of women day-to-day on the job? How does he exhibit his psychopathy toward women in the newsroom? I think this unexplored topic would make an revealing Slog post.

Gee, I forgot the very best part: you "beat the living crap" out of her.

Feel better now, Dan?

It's funny how this certain segment of the female population accuses Dan of being a misogynist simply because he doesn't unconditionally proclaim the male in every male/female pairing to be at fault in any given romantic/sexual dispute. And that is generally the reason for the accusation - be not deceived.

Dan, I liked your response even though it was harsh. Or perhaps because it was harsh. But I was wondering how long before somebody called you a misogynist in response.

I see the other shoe has dropped.

This entire thread made me laugh. Good work, peoples.

As for the advice, sound and solid... even in the face of that crazy story. Blacklisting someone you loved just because they have a fetish that you played into perfectly and without effort is silly.

Dan exhibits "psychopathic rage towards women," and is a horrible misogynist? And the only example or reason for this accusation is one reference to his mother? I assure you that not getting along with one's mother doesn't turn someone into a crazy woman-hater, and "Misogynistic Savage" seems to have a lot more unvresolved rage than Dan.

I love my mother.

I don't hate women.

I treat women like I treat men—the same way I treat men, particularly in the column. Have you seen my lay into—beat the fuck out of—gay men in Savage Love?

Treating men and women the same way: That, it seems, makes me a misogynist.