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Wednesday, July 6, 2005

Not so fast, Josh…

Posted by on July 6 at 9:31 AM

Americablog has the dirt on Bailey, and he does seem dirty, but Bailey is the study’s “senior author,” not its lead author - that would be NU grad student Gerulf Rieger. I’m going to interview Rieger today at 12, and I’ll bring up John A.’s points.

The study also wasn’t conducted just at NU, where John A. asserts that Bailey has difficultly recruiting subjects. It was done at NU and the Center for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto, which would seem to dilute the influence and impact of the Bailey issue.

So I wouldn’t so quick to dismiss the study - it does seem to jibe with most gay men’s real world observations: male bisexuality is rare, rare, rare, whereas female bisexuality is more common. Men and women are very different animals, sexually speaking. To take just one example, there are more than twice as many gay men as lesbians. Why? Dunno, but it merits study. That there might be a difference in the occurrence of bisexuality in males and females isn’t quite so absurd as Josh or John A. would like to believe it is.

And, finally, no one is arguing that there aren’t a lot of guys out there having bisexual experiences. I think that there’s difference between sexual orientation and sexual capability. Some mostly straight men do respond to other men sexually, and experiment, yadda yadda yadda. But the vast majority of these “bi” men are not emotionally available to other men — in other words, they may have sex with other men, but they only have relationships with women.

This is why dating bi guys — and girls — has such a bad rap among gays and lesbians. Even if the bi guy you’re dating is single, you’re still just a piece on the side.