Iām a cishet woman, married twenty years, three kids at home. My marriage is generally happy but itās also sexless. Being ācompanionateā was his decision, not mine. The absence of sex is driving me crazy, so my husband has given me his blessing to get sex elsewhere. It's tricky, though, as itās hard for me to be sexually attracted to someone without feeling a special connection. I've tried the apps, but the thought of discussing the mechanics of sex with someone Iāve just me on Hinge or Bumble or whatever leaves me cold.
The thing is, I periodically develop crushes on male colleagues. I work in a project-based industry where everyone works on three-to-four-month contracts. We come together, work hard, get to know each other quickly, and then head off to new jobs. So, fucking someone I met at work feels like the perfect solution. And there is currently a...
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Workmate Only Wonderland
On the one handā¦ your workplace crush could be flirting with you because youāre a married woman with a husband and kids at home and he assumes your marriage is monogamous ā most straight marriages are ā and regards flirting with you as harmless because 1. he hasnāt been paying attention to evolving standards of workplace conduct and 2. he doesnāt think there could be any repercussions, personal or professional, because [see 1] and youāre a married woman, WOW, and so nothing sexual and/or dramatic and/or actionable can happen. On the other handā¦ your workplace crush could be flirting with you because he wants to fuck you and he may even have his wifeās okay to fuck other people āĀ he may, like you, have the hall pass he needs āĀ but heās kept the flirting within the zone of plausible deniability because 1. he actually has paying attention to evolving standards of workplace conduct and 2. he doesnāt know if youāre allowed to fuck other people and doesnāt want to cause drama or accidentally blow your life up.
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