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Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Ever Sent Me a Letter at “Savage Love”?

posted by on October 1 at 10:03 AM

And not gotten a response? Well, now there’s a way—for two weeks only—to make sure you get a response. From this week’s column

A NOTE TO MY READERS: I get more letters at Savage Love than I could ever hope to respond to personally and infinitely more letters than I couldå ever hope to fit in this space. There’s really no secret to getting your letter into the column: I just have to find your problem somewhat interesting, basically. (You are, however, better off e-mailing me on Tuesdays, when I sit down to write, than you are on, say, Fridays, when I sit down to drink.) The fact that I can’t respond to every letter leads to a lot of hurt feelings. Every day I get complaints from readers who can’t believe I replied to the dude with shit on his dick and not to them.

Well, dear readers, for two weeks—and two weeks only—you can get a guaranteed response from me. Just go to, click “Donate Now,” and do your part to help preserve marriage equality in California. On the left-hand side of the donation page, there’s a spot where you can indicate that you’re making your donation in someone’s honor. Type in “Savage Love,” put my e-mail address——in the space provided, and then send me your question in another e-mail along with the e-mail confirmation that No on Prop. 8 sent you after your donation cleared. The six biggest Savage Love donors get their letters in the October 16 and 23 installments of Savage Love. Everyone who makes a donation of $25 or more by October 16 gets a personal reply to their question from yours truly. The cutoff dates for donations that qualify for a letter in the column are October 9 for the October 16 column and October 16 for the October 23 column.

So, Cake Fart Fetishist, you’ve been badgering me with inane e-mails for years. This is your chance to finally get a letter in the column. You too, David in Brooklyn. Put up or shut up. But you don’t have to be a stalker to participate. Got a good question and wanna help fight the good fight? Make a donation at, send me your letter along with your receipt, and you’ll hear from me in print or privately.

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Not everybody is retarded in bed. What if we have no sex problemos and we just want to say some horrible shit in SL?

Posted by someone | October 1, 2008 10:15 AM

Go for it. Top donors get in the column—so long as the letters are legal, i.e. you can't libel or defame anyone. Besides me, of course.

Posted by Dan Savage | October 1, 2008 10:18 AM

Dan, some days you are irresistibly wonderful. Great idea.

Posted by PopTart | October 1, 2008 10:35 AM

Purely Brilliant.

Posted by fARTing | October 1, 2008 10:41 AM

Oh man, $25 is a low bar. Good luck Mr. Savage.

Posted by Anon | October 1, 2008 10:52 AM

I don't have a question, but I donated. Maybe I'll think of something. Something really horrible, like inflating my scrotum with a needle, a hose, and a gallon of tapioca pudding. Or something.

Posted by Fnarf | October 1, 2008 10:56 AM

You are the wind beneath my wings.
Great idea.

Posted by Eric in Boulder | October 1, 2008 11:12 AM

Dan, You rock!

Posted by You_Gotta_Be_Kidding_Me | October 1, 2008 11:21 AM

I don't want to libel or defame you, Savage. But yeah, I do want to libel and defame.

Posted by someone | October 1, 2008 11:32 AM

i got a response from you one time that lost me the best pussy of my life. and your answer was fucking dumb as rocks.

Posted by max solomon | October 1, 2008 11:36 AM

out with it max, we need the details

Posted by traxxd | October 1, 2008 11:51 AM

"Everyone deserves an advice columnist" should be a regular SLOG feature, profiling people who deeply regrets ever having listened to an advice columnist. Max Soloman's story could lead.

Posted by David Wright | October 1, 2008 12:21 PM

The whole premise of asking a gay guy about advice for straight chicks/dudes is absurd.

Posted by no offense, mr. savage, but | October 1, 2008 1:11 PM

yeah, what's the story, max?

Posted by infrequent | October 1, 2008 1:45 PM

The poor man is going to be inundated! I've already sent in mine.

Posted by Marrena Lindberg | October 1, 2008 2:28 PM

I think Dan is going to have a nervous breakdown after all the crap he's going to have to deal with.

Just keep up the podcast, that's all I ask.

Posted by Paul | October 1, 2008 3:17 PM

What if you already donated? I still have the email confirmation from a few weeks ago...

Posted by A | October 1, 2008 3:46 PM

Yeah, great idea, but how about spreading the love around?! California isn't the only state voting on this issue. If Prop 102 passes in Arizona, the state constitution will define marriage as only between one man and one woman. Current polls show 49% in favor and 42% against, but it has to pass by over 50%, so there's a real chance to defeat it. The folks pushing for passage have raised over $3 million, and the folks against have a whopping $100,000. Floridians are voting on this too.

Posted by nightlifejitters | October 1, 2008 6:03 PM

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