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Friday, September 26, 2008

Savage Love Letter of the Day

posted by on September 26 at 14:52 PM

I wrote to you a while ago—I’m the first letter in this column—about dealing with being out in a crappy little school, in a crappy little town. You helped a lot and I kept in mind much of what you said on bad days. I thought you might like an update: tomorrow I’m starting university—great course, big city, high queer population. I have officially escaped, and I’m just about to start that better life you talked about. (I would ask advice about making friends, but I already have this whole plan of look hot and be drunk, which is pretty comprehensive.) The icing on the cake is knowing most of the fuckers who made the last year so shitty screwed up their A levels or just plain don’t have enough aspiration in them to even want to have any kind of interesting life. Actually no; that’s a petty and vindictive and gets nowhere near my collegey goodness cake—thoughts like that are left behind as of tomorrow.

The important thing is that months after getting cast out, I’m finally able to fucking leave, and I couldn’t be happier. I hope if I ever have cause to write to you again, it’ll be about some sweaty kinky fun.

No Longer ‘Tired And Losing It’

Thanks for the update, NLTALI, it made my day.

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Gives me chills because I could have written that myself. I'm so happy for us all.

What an exciting time he is embarking on with the most empowerment he has ever had

Posted by Non | September 26, 2008 3:04 PM

He's a she. Still, it applies.

Posted by Dan Savage | September 26, 2008 3:07 PM

It's ironic that he stands at the threshold of happiness at the exact time that the world economy tumbles into an abyss of no return, while the Earth's climate begins, at last in earnest, to wipe out humanity completely. No doubt he'll join in a mass suicide before he feels even a taste of the sweet, sweet joys he dreamed of.

Unless he has a motorcycle. Post-Apocalypse, bikers will rule.

Posted by elenchos | September 26, 2008 3:10 PM

Hearing her say things like "I'm starting University", and "screwed up their A levels" makes me think this shitty little town of hers is not in the United States... so it's Savage Love International Edition!

(Or am I being presumptuous and there are places here where this is standard lexicon?)

Posted by UNPAID BLOGGER | September 26, 2008 3:14 PM

She. Or whatever they call them in UKia. Birds?

Posted by elenchos | September 26, 2008 3:16 PM

I have a lump in my throat. She survived! Way to go, honey! And good luck in university!

Posted by moonknee | September 26, 2008 3:19 PM

In the UK, "escaping" from a small town means driving 50 miles, at most. Still, good for her.

Posted by David Wright | September 26, 2008 3:22 PM

Dan, I suspect that there a lot of people like NLTALI who have made it through their adolescence because of YOUR guidance. You once said I was going to try and save the world, but you have been saving lives all along. That is why you are one of my heroes.

Posted by Lawrence Molloy | September 26, 2008 3:40 PM

Ah she's a he. I wad projecting much.

Posted by Non | September 26, 2008 4:11 PM

It just goes to show you that it isn't necessarily saving the burning busload of nuns from crashing into a nursery that makes one a hero. Saving a life, any life, makes one more than worthy to wear the spandex (although in most cases, it's still a fashion no-no because it shows EVERYTHING!)
You will always be hero to me, Dan, ESPECIALLY because you make mistakes and own up to them. And though I think you rarely question it, remember this:
"If I were to try to read, much less answer, all the attacks made on me, this shop might as well be closed for any other business. I do the very best I know how - the very best I can; and I mean to keep doing so until the end. If the end brings me out all right, what's said against me won't amount to anything. If the end brings me out wrong, ten angels swearing I was right would make no difference."
Abraham Lincoln

Posted by MirrorMan | September 26, 2008 4:20 PM

Good luck kid! With a wit like that, you'll have some fun with life

Posted by Jubilation T. Cornball | September 26, 2008 5:04 PM

I'm wondering if she's gone to the university of Sussex at Brighton. Which can be a lot more than 50 miles...

Posted by miriam | September 27, 2008 1:14 AM

To make a friend, be a friend. College will be the fondest of memories as you grow older. Make every moment count. And good luck and congratulations. Life is an adventure.

Posted by Vince | September 27, 2008 8:28 AM

Aw. I love Dan Savage!

Posted by Mike in MO | September 27, 2008 11:18 AM

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