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Friday, September 19, 2008

Savage Love Letter of the Day

posted by on September 19 at 15:55 PM

You’ve gotta clear up some erroneous shit, por favor. I’ve got a buddy who’s got a buddy who has a girl who says that she comes—she has a goddamn orgasm—just from sucking dick. Like, she sucks his dick, and she climaxes as a result. That shit can’t happen, right? Right? RIGHT?

Looks Infinitely Exaggerated, Sir

It’s never happened to me, LIES, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. (I mean, cunnilingus has never happened to me either.) Sex advice professionals are always saying that the biggest sex organ is the brain, of course, and I suppose it’s possible that this woman is so turned on by sucking dick that her great big sex organ overwhelms her lesser sex organs and she somehow climaxes without touching herself.

But how does that Occam’s Razor thing go again? Oh, right: “All other things being equal, the simplest solution is the best.” Or as I’ve often put: the likeliest and most obvious answer is usually the right answer. And it seems likelier that this guy is either a braggart out to make his friends jealous—”My girl gets off just sucking me, man, I don’t even have to touch her!”—or that his girlfriend brings just as much gusto to servicing his ego as she does to servicing his cock.

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All I'm saying is that it's possible. Ahem.

Posted by Carollani | September 19, 2008 4:03 PM

Or that she's quietly servicing herself with a finger and he's too blissed out to notice, and of course she's not going to point this out to him or anything.

Have you ever noticed that it's more fun to pronounce "Stranger" to rhyme with "banger"?

Posted by breklor | September 19, 2008 4:04 PM

@1 Agreed. Rare, but possible.

Posted by Marla | September 19, 2008 4:11 PM

I've had an orgasm just from sucking dick. It only happened once and was not the most rocking orgasm I've ever had but it did happen and I have felt that oh so close feeling countless times just from having a nice cock down my throat. I also had an orgasm when I gave birth to my third and final 9.5 pound child so who knows maybe my vagina is broken. And why would a lie be a more simple explanation than an unlikely truth?

Posted by good vagina | September 19, 2008 4:13 PM

Wait, wait, wait...

You're telling me "Deep Throat" wasn't real?

Posted by Collin | September 19, 2008 4:23 PM

I love sucking cock. Love, love, LOVE it. Nevertheless, I have never had an orgasm over it with no other stimulation. Possible? Maybe. Likely? No.

I'm with Dan on this one. I think it is far more likely that the guy is a simple braggart. I've heard countless guys make far more unlikely claims of their sexual prowess. By the time you get to my age, you realize that 90% of those stories are bullshit. Or, at best, wild exaggerations.

Posted by Reverse Polarity | September 19, 2008 4:24 PM

I love that anyone who hasn't experienced it for themselves believes that it's not possible, heh. Different people have different talents.

Posted by Carollani | September 19, 2008 4:39 PM

If you look back through the old old old sex research from the mid 20th c, you'll see some "orgasm" physiology research on people who can orgasm without manual stimulation... because manual stimulation is dirty and not scientific and therefore can't be part of scientific research. Orgasm from fantasy alone. Mary Roach cites bunches of it in Bonk (which you HAVE read, Dan, right?)

So, orgasm from mental stimulation only? Then orgasm "from" sucking cock is possible...

Posted by L | September 19, 2008 4:44 PM

Well, not having a female sexual response, I can't be sure, but I'm willing to believe it, mostly because I've had orgasms while sucking cock with minimal or no stimulation. You've got to be having really good sex at the time, but it's not outside the realm of possibility.

Posted by usagi | September 19, 2008 4:49 PM

I am a gay man who always has an orgasm when deep throating.. in fact.. it's quite frustrating because my partner doesn't cum from just being sucked. And no, I don't touch myself when giving head... and it only happen during deep throat sessions.

Posted by Frank | September 19, 2008 4:59 PM

In tantric sex books they tell you that on a woman's upper lip is a nerve pathway that connects directly to the clitoris. So just as you can actually stimulate a woman's clitoris by rubbing on it from inside the vagina (the clitoris is actually pretty long, and extends farther than just the tiny part that usually sticks out in front) I suppose you could stimulate this "nerve" inside a woman's mouth too. Assuming you believe in that.

I know a woman who has orgasms in her sleep sometimes, from no other stimulation but her dreams.

I think it's totally possible that the woman in the letter could have orgasms just from giving head. Isn't that the simplest explanation anyway?

Posted by toadmommy | September 19, 2008 5:09 PM

I'm a lesbian and I've had a couple of orgasms going down on my wife. However, back on the time I was straight (yup, been there, done that), I never had an orgasm while sucking my males partners. (I guess it was just a pre-lesbian phase.)

Indeed, the brain (and how it processes all the senses) can be the most enticing center of pleasure and, for sure, my clitoris has a «direct line» to it.

Posted by Cassandra | September 19, 2008 5:10 PM

@7: Seriously. I mean, this guy's buddy's buddy's second wife's cousin once removed or who the hell ever might well be full of it, but that don't mean it can't happen.

Posted by Darcy | September 19, 2008 6:06 PM

on occasion, when I've been really turned on and my hands have been otherwise occupied, I've been able to come without touching myself by simply tightly rubbing my legs together in delightfully spot-specific way. I'm with carollani on this.

Posted by grace | September 19, 2008 6:17 PM

@11, I am pretty sure there is no nerve pathway between the two any different from say the forehead to the asshole. Now that is not to say that lips are not sensitive and that preforming oral sex is pleasurable to both parties.

Really though if people, men and women, can cum in their sleep, it does not seem outside the realm of possibility that they could cum form giving oral sex, or kissing, or whatever.

Hell when I was a teenager touching breasts damn near made me cum in pants.

Posted by Giffy | September 19, 2008 6:33 PM

It's absolutely possible. That's not to say that there is no friction involved in such an orgasm. The right kind of squirming while giving head can be very stimulating, and enough squirming during such heightened arousal can definitely lead to climax. On the flip side: my boyfriend was once going down on me, and I was just lightly holding his penis, but there was no movement at all, and no attentiveness on my part, because I was focused on *me* and all of a sudden he came. And god that was such a turn-on!

Posted by Christy O | September 19, 2008 7:00 PM

I've got to back up some of the other people with vaginas here, it's definitely possible. I wouldn't say every single time, or even that often, but it happens. It's like an appetizer orgasm on the way to the main course.

Posted by PopTart | September 19, 2008 9:42 PM

Yup. Me & my vagina often (50% of the time) have an orgasm while blowing my husband. Maybe we're just lucky...

Posted by winna | September 19, 2008 9:47 PM

It is a rare medical condition, where the clitoris is located at the back of the throat.

I saw a documentary about it in the seventies.

Posted by Rain Monkey | September 19, 2008 10:54 PM

I have to agree with #11 and 12 posters here. It may be possible, I can get really juicy while giving head, but only will orgasm if I rub my legs together a bit. I also can get off from nipple manipulation though. I am "easy" I suppose.
Gay boys? Can you come sucking off your lover? I would love to hear a "Yes" here. Grrr. Really.

Posted by Alligator | September 20, 2008 4:03 AM

Since most sex is actually between your ears, anything that turns you on upstairs will rapidly translate to a turn on down stairs if you let it.

Posted by Gindy | September 20, 2008 6:42 AM

Is it possible that a girl can climax from giving head? Sure why not? However, I think buddy's buddy is talking out of his ass.

Posted by formerly OR Matt | September 20, 2008 12:03 PM

Call me old fashioned, but it waters down the experience and its no longer any fun when you BRAG about it.

Posted by formerly OR Matt | September 20, 2008 12:04 PM

Dan, did you think to ask a chick about this? I can come in any number of non contact situations. It's a nice advantage to have.

Posted by M | September 20, 2008 3:21 PM

Happens all the time... some of us girls can cum easily.

My wife and our mutual husband have three-way simutanious orgasms when one partner might only be giving pleasure in the traditional sense. But that's after ten years of practice.

Practice, practice, practice.....

Posted by miss em | September 20, 2008 3:42 PM



Yeah, I'm not one of those lucky girls who can come from catching a breeze up the skirt or whatever, and I've gotten really, really close while giving head, so. . . I don't find it to be so implausible. As was said, a bit of squirming can go a long way.

Posted by violet_dagrinder | September 20, 2008 9:24 PM

um i get super wet from face fucking.. and giving head. some woman are pretty oral people.. but i think mine is just because of a big ego trip.. hehe.. everyone tells me im the best. so giving head gets me off knowing that im doing something very well for them. but then again.. i date very sissy man so.. who knows.

Posted by Jess | September 21, 2008 11:50 AM

Women can have orgasms without any contact so it seems possible that a woman could have an orgasm while giving a blow job. I've had orgasms in my sleep and from flexing my muscles. I have multiple orgasms too. I've also read an article that said that women can come by fantasy alone. The author called it: "thinking off." Female sexual response is criminally underestimated.

Posted by gifted | September 21, 2008 12:50 PM

As a submissive, I learned to cum from my dom's voice alone. No other physical stimulation. And, yes, a real, full-blown orgasm. I also cum from giving head, but it is because the sub in me gets really turned on from serving and knowing I am giving pleasure. The mind is the biggest sex-organ.

Posted by sb | September 21, 2008 5:43 PM

I can orgasm from playing Madden

Posted by Bellevue Ave | September 21, 2008 11:04 PM

Without going into a lot of detail, I have had orgasms without any touching, but it was a lot of damn work.

Having said that, I'm not I could do it while I was focussed on pleasuring someone else.

Posted by Charm | September 22, 2008 10:34 AM

It's possible.

'nuff said. (:=

Posted by subwlf | September 22, 2008 2:19 PM

It can happen. Happens a lot at my house. I think plenty of people on Slog would agree that I'm a bitch and hardly the type to bolster someones's (my husband's) ego just for kicks....

Some people are just really oral:)

Posted by Julie Russell | September 22, 2008 8:26 PM

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