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Monday, July 30, 2012

Another $21,328 from MommaPAC

Posted by on Mon, Jul 30, 2012 at 11:52 AM

Progress for Washington, the super PAC funded by Laura Ruderman's mother, just reported another $21,328 expenditure for printing and postage in support of Ruderman in the crowded WA-01 primary, bringing the PAC's total to $298,454. I guess that sounds like a lot of money, but it's nothing compared to the $2.3 million of personal funds Suzan DelBene has now spent on her own campaign.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Ruderman's Mom Spends Another $37,864

Posted by on Thu, Jul 26, 2012 at 12:29 PM

Progress for Washington, the Super PAC funded entirely by Laura Ruderman's mother, reported spending another $37,864 on postage and printing today, bringing its total reported expenditures to $277,126.

Today's report included two expenditures reported as "supporting" Ruderman. A previous mailer allegedly supporting Ruderman included attacks on Darcy Burner and Suzan DelBene, but I'm told that yesterday's supporting mailer included entirely positive messages.

Too bad for Laura, because negative advertising works.


Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Ruderman's Mom Strikes Again

Posted by on Tue, Jul 24, 2012 at 5:15 PM

Progress for Washington, the Super PAC that as far as we know is solely funded by Laura Ruderman's mother, reported another $21,328 printing a postage expenditure today, this time for a mailer "supporting" Ruderman. (That said, their previous mailer "supporting Ruderman" included attacks on Darcy Burner and Suzan DelBene.) This brings the PAC's total reported expenditures to $239,262.

In other 1st Congressional District news, DelBene received endorsements today from Representative Adam Smith and the Everett Herald, while Burner announced that she has received her 9,000th campaign contribution. Burner is averaging only about $40 per contribution, DelBene likely many times that, but it's impossible to calculate from the FEC reports.

Also in the 1st CD there have been numerous reports of an alleged "push poll" attacking DelBene. Some people say it includes positive messaging about Ruderman; others say it has positive messaging about Burner. Maybe they are two different polls? And alleged "push polls"—disguising messaging as a poll—usually aren't. Rather they are usually efforts to test potential messages for effectiveness. But nothing would surprise me in this race.

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Ruderman's Mom Mails Another Attack Flyer

Posted by on Thu, Jul 19, 2012 at 12:55 PM

Progress for Washington, the super PAC funded by Laura Ruderman's mom, today reported spending another $21,328.38 on a sixth mailer in Washington's closely contested 1st Congressional District race. This mailer, like four of the previous five, is reported as opposing Suzan DelBene, and brings the PAC's total reported expenditures to $217,934.

That total could be smaller, as reports indicate that the PAC may have pulled its anti-DelBene TV ad before the $75,544 buy was complete, so it's not clear whether part of the money is being repurposed to mail, or whether this represents additional resources.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

It Does not Run in the Family

Posted by on Thu, Jul 12, 2012 at 3:53 PM

We were raised under the same roof. We are only two years apart. Yet, we are, politically speaking, a world apart.


Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Why Are American Kids So Spoiled?

Posted by on Tue, Jul 3, 2012 at 7:29 AM

A distressing look at the state of kids these days:

So little is expected of kids that even adolescents may not know how to operate the many labor-saving devices their homes are filled with. Their incompetence begets exasperation, which results in still less being asked of them (which leaves them more time for video games). Referring to the Los Angeles families, Ochs and Izquierdo wrote, “Many parents remarked that it takes more effort to get children to collaborate than to do the tasks themselves"...

Today’s parents are not just “helicopter parents,” a former school principal complains to Marano. “They are a jet-powered turbo attack model.” Other educators gripe about “snowplow parents,” who try to clear every obstacle from their children’s paths. The products of all this hovering, meanwhile, worry that they may not be able to manage college in the absence of household help. According to research conducted by sociologists at Boston College, today’s incoming freshmen are less likely to be concerned about the rigors of higher education than “about how they will handle the logistics of everyday life.”

Or maybe that should be parents these days?

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Baby Boxes: Yay or Nay?

Posted by on Tue, Jun 26, 2012 at 3:26 PM

Or, today in humorously overwritten articles...

This BBC piece on the controversy (imagine that all British-like, con-TRAH-versy) surrounding "baby boxes" (public receptacles in which one can deposit a baby) is mostly straightforward:

Boxes where parents can leave an unwanted baby, common in medieval Europe, have been making a comeback over the last 10 years. Supporters say a heated box, monitored by nurses, is better for babies than abandonment on the street—but the UN says it violates the rights of the child.

Then it ends on this gem of a paragraph:

There is no clear right or wrong in this. It is an argument between well-meaning people. The one voice never heard is that of the mother who walks the path with the baby she bore secretly hours earlier, to return without the bundle. Her tears can barely be imagined.

Either way, pro ("the warmth is safe and reassuring") or con ("The baby hatch is so anonymous, and so removed from the availability of counselling, that it creates a damage and a danger to the mother and child."), who doesn't want to read a letter that begins "Dear Mother of a foundling"? A good use of 10 minutes on a rainy afternoon.

Thanks, the Hairpin!

Headline Of The Day: "Bob Kovachik Removed As Principal After Students Eat Moose Poop On School Trip"

Posted by on Tue, Jun 26, 2012 at 2:35 PM

"Everyone laughed at me and made fun of me. So I went up to my tent and started crying."

One word: BULLY. And/or: BRACES.


Thursday, June 21, 2012

Lunchtime Quickie: Waterslide Of Death?

Posted by on Thu, Jun 21, 2012 at 12:20 PM

Is this the neatest, most fun thing to build in your backyard for summer—or the most dangerous kid killer (or at least "back-breaker") ever invented?
Rad Dad, or Bad Dad?

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Downtown Seattle Association Proposes Creepy Ghost Playground at Westlake Park

Posted by on Thu, Jun 14, 2012 at 1:21 PM

Artist rendering shows diaphanous half-embodied spirits haunting proposed playground at Seattles Westlake Park.
  • Downtown Seattle Association
  • Artist rendering shows diaphanous half-embodied spirits haunting proposed playground at Seattle's downtown Westlake Park. (Click image to enlarge.)

Anybody who followed my skeptical coverage at the time Ye Olde Chihuly Gift Shoppe & Catering Hall was proposed, knows that I'm a passionate advocate for making Seattle more family-friendly. Far from a glass "museum," I insisted, what Seattle truly needs is a Really Kick-Ass Playground™.

Eventually, in a belated acknowledgment that clear-cutting the Fun Forest (and replacing it with a building made of and filled with breakable objects) would be a net loss to families with children, Chihuly's backers sweetened the deal by kicking in $2 million to build and maintain an "art playground" elsewhere on the Seattle Center campus. That's something, I guess, though it's not nearly enough to build a Really Kick-Ass Playground™ along the lines of the "rainbow nest dome" at Takino Hillside Park in Sapporo-shi, Japan, or the 130,000 square foot rooftop playground, amphitheater, carousel, skating rink and water feature at Yerba Gardens in San Francisco.

So I'm thrilled to see the Downtown Seattle Association (DSA) take up the charge in advocating for a children's play space within the downtown core... if not exactly thrilled with their anemic proposal: an 800 square foot playground in the middle of Westlake Park.

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Tuesday, June 12, 2012

The Death of a Horse Groomer

Posted by on Tue, Jun 12, 2012 at 8:45 AM


A Texas father caught a man sexually assaulting his 4-year-old daughter and punched him in the head repeatedly, killing him, authorities said.

The father was casually acquainted with the alleged abuser, said Lavaca County Sheriff Micah Harmon.
Neither has been publicly identified.

The girl was left inside the family's house during the social gathering, while other members of her family were tending to horses, the sheriff said.

The alleged abuser was known for his horse-grooming abilities, Harmon said.

My mind returns to a faded memory of a story that appeared on a TV screen somewhere between 81 and 83. The story was about a mother who, after a bad crash on a country road (ditch, smoke, spinning wheels, crunched metal), lifted a whole car to save the life of her trapped child. This supernatural strength was attributed to a sudden forgetting of self and limits. The woman was not herself when she lifted the car to save the child's life. She was someone who could only be liberated when her panicked mind forget who she was. She amazed herself.
[Lavaca County Sheriff Micah Harmon] described [the father of the molested girl] as "very remorseful," adding that he didn't know the man was going to die.


Monday, June 4, 2012

A Fact about Teen Mothers

Posted by on Mon, Jun 4, 2012 at 1:51 PM


A Phoenix, Ariz., woman put her 5-week-old baby on top of her car in his car seat and drove away, apparently forgetting he was there, not even noticing when the seat fell off the car and landed in an intersection, police said.
Neighbors discovered the baby on the roadway, still strapped to his safety seat, which was lying on its side. Luckily, the baby was unhurt.
The baby’s mother, 19-year-old Catalina Clouser, who allegedly had been smoking marijuana, was arrested and charged with aggravated driving under the influence and child abuse, police said.
Do not blame marijuana. Blame instead the weakness of sex eduction. Two things pointed out by the sociobiologist Sarah Hardy: One, young mothers are usually not the best mothers (this is true also for chimps and other primates). An infant who has a teen or child mother has entered life through a bad door. Death and abandonment are closer to its life than the life of a child raised by a mother who is older and prepared. Two: In the old and dark days, the chances of a child or teen becoming a mother were not as great as they are today not because of changes in morality but major changes in nutrition.
Looked at comparatively, rates of teenage pregnancy (which happen to be higher in the United States than in any other developed nation) have less to do with moral decline than with changes in the nutritional status of human beings over the last tens of thousands and hundreds of years. Teenage pregnancy, then, is very much a human-made problem, a human-solvable public health issue, not a moral one.

As in all apes, human ovaries evolved to factor how much fat a woman’s body had stored. For a still partially dependent girl living among nomadic hunter-gatherers, this indicator of nutritional status would have been synonymous with how much social support she had. Among nomadic foragers, where youngsters depend on shared nutritional subsidies from other group members, a young girl’s fat reserves provided a fairly good indicator of how much social support she could expect from parents, grandparents, boyfriends, her mate perhaps, as well as other group members.

By and large, the plumper a girl is, the sooner she matures. Girls growing up in nomadic foraging society on the African savanna remained active, intermittently fed, and very lean, menstruating for the first time closer to sixteen than twelve, the average age of girls today in sedentary, hypernourished Western societies.

We are humans. Humans are the cultural animal. We use culture to solve adaptive lags and physical defects. In the way we use glass to correct flaws in vision, we need contraceptives to solve this unexpected shift in human sexual development. That mother should be happily smoking pot and not sadly raising a child.

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Friday, May 11, 2012

Breastfeeding and Time Magazine

Posted by on Fri, May 11, 2012 at 10:51 AM

The controversial cover?


A part of it is saying that this is an excellent and natural form of birth control. The longer he (the big boy) sucks; the harder it is for (attractive) mom to get pregnant again. You must remember that this business of having one baby after another is not old but new to our world, the human world. Women who lived in the early, mobile, and communal societies did not have the time or energy to pump babies out at a yearly (or biyearly) rate. Breastfeeding helped place/space a good five years between each dangerous pregnancy.

And, yes, the image is, with good reason, erotic. Once again, Sarah Hrdy:

The baby sucking on the receiving end of this let-down reflex brings with it pleasurable sensations, bordering on and blending into the erotic. Whether or not the earth moves, these are powerfully conditioning sensations. To classify maternal sensations as "sexual," and therefore in puritanical minds to condemn them, is to privilege sexuality in a very non-puritanical way, implying that sexual sensations are more important than the equally powerful sensations that reward women for caring for babies.
This statement, like so many in Hrdy's papers and books, is simply profound. Please read it again, if you missed its substance. You need to impress its meaning on your mind. These are the kinds of insights that only talented sociobiologists can provide, and there aren't too many of those in the world.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Africa Is Not a Great Place to be a Mother

Posted by on Tue, May 8, 2012 at 1:33 PM

But Northern Europe is the best place for such a person. This fact, however, should not be ignored: Belgium is in the top 8; DR Congo is in the bottom 8. Reflect on that for a moment.

As for the US? It's 25, between Belarus and the Czech Republic.

Lunchtime Quickie: Killer Clown For Hire!

Posted by on Tue, May 8, 2012 at 12:25 PM

Hey, did you know you can pay Dominic Deville, a Swiss actor, to help your child lose his or her mind in honor of their next birthday? It's true!

Just reading this book changed my child-brain forever.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Me and Pastor Harris

Posted by on Thu, May 3, 2012 at 9:47 AM

The pastor who advised the dads of effeminate four-year-old boys to "man up" and crack their sons' limp wrists and punch those little pansies apologized yesterday and claimed that he was only joking. (His congregation did laugh at the thought of a four-year-old having his limp wrists broken by his dad.) Today Pastor Harris tweets...


Well, Pastor Harris, I'm having a similar problem with those who are supposed to turn the other cheek, love their enemies, forgive "not seven times, but seventy-seven times," etc. Maybe you and I should start a support group? (Via JoeMyGod.)

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Friday, March 23, 2012

Breakfast of Champions?

Posted by on Fri, Mar 23, 2012 at 9:08 AM

I've been sitting in a Starbucks in West Seattle for much of the past hour, and I'm kinda stunned by the number of parents bringing their kids to Starbucks for breakfast before school. I'd noticed this before at a Starbucks on Mercer Island, and presumed it just an I'm-a-busy-wealthy-time-crunched Mercer Island thing. But no... Starbucks appears to be America's new breakfast nook.

On the one hand, there's something social and vaguely Parisian about the cafe breakfast thing. On the other hand, how hard is it to toast your kid a fucking bagel?

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Father of the Year

Posted by on Wed, Mar 21, 2012 at 12:51 PM

Slog tipper Fnarf emailed this tip: "Remember this story? And everyone said 'fake, no way she actually went'? Compare this."

"You asshole," I wrote back. "We're all traumatized now."

Fnarf's rejoinder: "Too hard core for Slog? You posted a dildo. How traumatized do you think I am now?"

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Re: Every Child Deserves a Mother and Father

Posted by on Tue, Mar 6, 2012 at 10:58 AM

Dear Kevin,

Get away from your parents! They have become dependent on you for some twisted escape. They are crazy and this is not healthy for anyone involved. Maybe you could "cut the cord" on that hot air balloon and then float it on over to Child Protective Services.

Your friend,


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Friday, March 2, 2012

Today in Parental Puppeteering

Posted by on Fri, Mar 2, 2012 at 10:00 AM

The creepiness commenced when Barry Hinckley, a Republican Senate candidate from Rhode Island, released a campaign ad featuring his five-year-old son explaining what's wrong with the economy and why people should vote for his dad.

This was creepy enough even FOX News was driven to question Hinckley on his motives, which brings us to the interview below, conducted and broadcast yesterday. As Mediaite's John Bershad writes,

"Look, I don’t even need to talk about the uncomfortable, Balloon Boy-esque moment where Cavuto asks Hudson if he actually cares about the economy, the boy replies “no,” and Hinckley looks furious. That’s weird enough. But the only thing I can see during this segment is the fact that, every time Hudson talks, Hinckley MOUTHS EVERY WORD HE IS SAYING SIMULTANEOUSLY."

It is really, really weird. Enjoy!

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Friday, February 17, 2012

Who Is the Biological Mother?

Posted by on Fri, Feb 17, 2012 at 7:37 AM

I have to share this passage from a book, Mother Nature: Maternal Instincts and How They Shape the Human Species, by a sociobiologist, Sarah Hrdy, whose most recent book, Mothers and Others: The Evolutionary Origins of Mutual Understanding, provided a foundation for my own thoughts on human sociality....

It is profoundly incorrect to equate "genetic" with "biological," a term that covers far more than just genetic processes. It is also incorrect to treat nature and nurture as separable entities, as in saying "The genes interact with the environment," or "Nurture does not matter." This is why it is unfortunate to hear the label "biological mother" applied to a woman who has given birth to a child and given it up for adoption, or, worse, just provided the donor egg. Such a woman is more nearly the genetic or gestational mother. By contrast to a genetic donor, the biological mother nourishes, nurtures, and provides the environment in which the infant develops both physically and psychologically.
In this intelligent picture of things, care of a child is more biological than giving birth to a child. Perfect sense can be made of this with only a moment of thought; yet how uncommon it is to see things in this practical way. If you see human sociality (care, friendship, concern, cooperation) as the actual biological process, you will see even better how empty and worthless the concept of "pro-life" is.
Two young humans cuddling on the 48 bus.
  • Two young humans cuddling on the 48 bus.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

The Eagle Dad

Posted by on Wed, Feb 8, 2012 at 2:44 PM

China Daily:

BEIJING / NANJING - A man calling himself "eagle dad" recently stirred up a public controversy after he uploaded a video of his 4-year-old son, whom he had forced to run naked in the snow, to the Internet.
The father He Liesheng, 44, considers himself a new Chinese parental archetype in the tradition of the so-called "tiger mom".
"When the old eagle teaches its young, it takes the young eagles to the cliff side, beats them and pushes them to teach them to use their wings, and I believe I am helping my son in this way - to force him to challenge limitations and exceed his own expectations," said He.
There is also a "wolf father" in Hong Kong. The "wolf father" supports the "eagle dad" in Nanjing. Next? A "grasshopper grandmother"? What kind of grandmother would that be?

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Why Overpraising Children Is Bad

Posted by on Tue, Jan 17, 2012 at 8:26 AM


Overpraising children is under attack, which is interesting because almost exactly a year ago, one mother’s philosophy of withholding praise was receiving the same treatment.

Yesterday, The Post’s Michael Alison Chandler wrote about a trend in which teachers refrain from showering kids with “Good try!” at every turn.
Studies show that easy, unearned praise interferes with students’ learning.

“A growing body of research over three decades shows that easy, unearned praise does not help students but instead interferes with significant learning opportunities. As schools ratchet up academic standards for all students, new buzzwords are ‘persistence,’ ‘risk-taking’ and ‘resilience’ — each implying more sweat and strain than fuzzy, warm feelings,” Chandler writes.

Wrong! This has nothing to do with "unearned praise" and teaching them a more meaningful reward system (market thinking is always contaminating American thinking). We do not want to overpraise children because they are uninteresting, and excessive praise may lead them to think they are what they are certainly not: interesting. Children don't know anything interesting and so they bore us to tears when they're much too talkative. It's fine for them to talk among themselves, but when in the presence of adults, they must know they are not in our league, that what comes out of their mouth is to us as tasteless as a carrot.

There is, in short, no such thing as "earned praise" when it comes to a child. A child is a dry loss, which is why it's better to see the family as a form of communism. At the end of childhood, a person must rate his/her family not by how much praise or rewards they received but by the quality of the communism.

Friday, January 13, 2012

Monster Trucks Celebrate at the Tacoma Dome This Weekend

Posted by on Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 1:33 PM

From the 2012 press release:

Monster Jam is heading back to the Tacoma Dome from January 13 – 15. The engagement in 2012 will mark a special celebration as the 30th Anniversary of the monster truck icon Grave Digger® ! That celebration kicks off in Tacoma as the first stop of the West Coast tour!

I don't even have kids, but wouldn't it seem a little spooky to take your little ones to the Monster Jam at the Tacoma Dome? I mean, this just happened a couple of years ago. I guess money talks and [terrified] parents walk?

On American Teenage Pregnancy

Posted by on Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 10:27 AM

Let's return to Sarah Hrdy's marvelous paper "The Past, Present, and Future
of the Human Family," and examine two passages. One:

Looked at comparatively, rates of teenage pregnancy (which happen to be higher in the United States than in any other developed nation) have less to do with moral decline than with changes in the nutritional status of human beings over the last tens of thousands and hundreds of years. Teenage pregnancy, then, is very much a human-made problem, a human-solvable public health issue, not a moral one.

What is this brilliant sociobiologist getting at?

As in all apes, human ovaries evolved to factor how much fat a woman’s body had stored. For a still partially dependent girl living among nomadic hunter-gatherers, this indicator of nutritional status would have been synonymous with how much social support she had. Among nomadic foragers, where youngsters depend on shared nutritional subsidies from other group members, a young girl’s fat reserves provided a fairly good indicator of how much social support she could expect from parents, grandparents, boyfriends, her mate perhaps, as well as other group members.

By and large, the plumper a girl is, the sooner she matures. Girls growing up in nomadic foraging society on the African savanna remained active, intermittently fed, and very lean, menstruating for the first time closer to sixteen than twelve, the average age of girls today in sedentary, hypernourished Western societies.

We should never forget, and Americans are always taught to forget, that we are highly social animals. And, most important of all, our sociality is not just cultural but profoundly biological. From the sclera, the white part of our eye, to the strange fact that our facial and head hair grow indefinitely (more about this in another post), our bodies reveal adaptations, selections for social life, life with others, group living. The body is not isolated; it is tuned to our social worlds. For the body, fat is a sign of social support, a sign that others are there for you. Agreed, in certain societies (rich post-industrial societies), this reading is a little screwy (adaptive lag can be a bitch), but it still reveals the core of our "species being" (I do not uses this term in the same way as Karl Marx—more about this in another post).

I will now leave you with another passage (this time by the primatologist Richard Wrangham—I highly recommend his book Catching Fire: How Cooking Made Us Human) that I think connects well with Hrdy's insights:

I was impressed to learn that raw-foodists are thin compared to those eating cooked diets, given that in most cases they are eating domesticated foods with lots of nutrients, are processing them in machines like electric blenders, and of course, living as most do in the developed world, never suffering through seasonal food shortage. Yet despite all these advantages over anyone who might try eating wild foods raw, the average woman on a 100% raw diet did not have a functioning menstrual cycle. About 50% of women entirely stopped menstruating! When a raw-foodist’s reproductive system does not allow her to have a baby even when her diet is composed of processed, high-quality, agricultural foods, the obvious explanation is that she is not getting enough calories.

Monday, January 9, 2012

Fisking Rick Santorum's Remarks on Gay Rights at the New Hampshire GOP Debate on Saturday Night

Posted by on Mon, Jan 9, 2012 at 11:12 AM

Santorum was asked if he would be speak out for gay rights in the GOP. After the audience finished laughing, Santorum responded...

SANTORUM: I would be a voice in speaking out for making sure that every person in America, gay or straight, is treated with respect and dignity and has equality of opportunity. That does not mean that I would agree with certain things that the gay community would like to do to change laws, with respect to marriage or respect to adoption, and things like that.

Nothing says "respect and dignity" like comparing people in loving, consensual, same-sex relationships to dog fuckers and child rapists. If that's how Rick Santorum defines "respect," I'd rather be dissed, thanks. And contrary to efforts to tolerance-wash Santorum's position on gay rights and wish away his infamous 2003 interview with the AP, Rick Santorum hasn't changed his position on gay rights or the dignity of gay people in the eight years since that interview. Santorum has not gone soft (not even runny) on gay rights, says TPM: "Santorum’s famous 2003 'man on dog' comment, which still follows him to this day every time someone Googles his name, wasn’t made while just discussing gay marriage. He was also arguing that people of the same sex shouldn’t have the right to be physically intimate in their own homes....There’s nothing to suggest Santorum has changed his tune there. In fact, he’s still using anti-sodomy laws as a wedge issue, this time against his fellow Republican candidates instead of Democrats."

Rick Santorum respectfully suggests that states should be allowed to arrest, prosecute, and imprison gays, lesbians, and bisexuals. Just in a dignified way. And if Rick Santorum had his way everyone, regardless of sexual orientation, would enjoy an equal opportunity to be arrested, prosecuted, and imprisoned for engaging in homosexual acts. The completely heterosexual Ted Haggard would go to jail just the same as the completely homosexual Neil Patrick Harris. Equality under the law! God bless America!

As for who wants to change laws: Rick Santorum supports efforts to change the marriage laws as they currently exist in New Hampshire, where same-sex marriage is legal, and he wants to change marriage laws in Massachusetts, New York, Connecticut, Vermont, Iowa, and the District of Columbia. Santorum also wants to change adoption laws: it is currently legal in almost all US states for gays and lesbians to adopt children. Adoption laws vary from state to state, and there are unique legal hurdles in many that gay couples have to jump through, but adoptions by gay and lesbian individuals and couples is only illegal in four US states. Rick Santorum wants to change that—even if it means harming children. From a must-read post by Joel Mathis at the Philly Post:

Talk to adoption experts about gay parents, and you’ll hear a frequent refrain: While many—even most—prospective parents are looking for “healthy white babies” to adopt, it is gay couples who most often take the children no one else wants: Children with disabilities. Older children. Children with problems. “Overall,” one 2001 study found, “gay men and lesbians are more willing to consider and accept children with a broader range of difficulties.” More recent numbers affirm that observation. A 2007 study by the Urban Institute drew on Census numbers to suggest that 21 percent of children adopted by gay men have a physical disability—compared to 2 percent of children adopted by the population at large. That’s an astonishing gap. And an October report by the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute showed that more than 10 percent of children adopted by gays and lesbians are 6 years or older—”a population,” researchers noted, “generally perceived as more difficult to place.” Half the adoptees had spent time in foster care.

In other words: Gay and lesbian parents are doing damned hard work, providing loving homes to kids that few other people seem to want. They’re doing those kids—and society—a tremendous service. But you don’t hear even the tiniest acknowledgement of that from Rick Santorum.

Changing the law to ban adoptions by same-sex couples—despite a mountain of evidence proving that we are just as fit to parent as heterosexuals—would result in more kids languishing forever in the cruel limbo of foster care. Santorum's election would, writes Mathis, "[harm] tens of thousands of children hoping for a home of their own. But it would be quite a boon for orphanages."

SANTORUM: So you can be respectful. This is the beautiful thing about this country. James Madison called the First Amendment—he called it the perfect remedy. And that is, people of all different backgrounds—diversity, opinions, faith—can come into the public square and can be heard and can be heard in a way that’s respectful of everybody else.

R E S P E C T: You gay people are like dog fuckers and child rapists—but, hey, I say that with the utmost respect! It's not like I have anything against people who fuck dogs and rape kids!

SANTORUM:But just because you don’t agree with someone’s desire to change the law doesn’t mean you don’t like them or you hate them or you want to discriminate against them, but you’re trying to promote —excuse me, promote things that you think are best for society.

Again, Rick Santorum, is the one who wants to change laws.

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