"Ask a Crack Hoe! Move over, Dan Savage," says BuzzFeed. "Propecia really couldn't give a shit about you and your stupid love life, but her advice is surprisingly astute."

Yeah, she's good—but she doesn't have the stamina, BuzzFeed, she can't go the distance. I get more stupid questions than that in five freakin' minutes via email and you don't see me storming out of the room.

A bunch of folks sent me links to today's Ask Amy column and directing my attention to the first letter. But it's the last letter that caught my attention. A man—a man who's cheating on his wife—wonders if it's possible to be in love with two people at the same time. Amy's responds...

You don't love two women at the same time. In fact, it's quite obvious that you don't really love either of these women.

Amy can't set aside her feelings about adultery long enough to answer the dude's question: "Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?" You can be in love with more than one person at the same time. It's more complicated, of course, and running around behind the wife's back isn't the path toward a healthy, functional poly relationship. Successful poly relationships are built on honesty and trust, not lies and betrayals. But they can and do exist.

And maybe Amy knows it: she writes that you don't love two women at the same time, not that you can't. Poor word choice? Or tacit acknowledgement that it is possible to be in love with more than one person at at time? The latter, I think. But open relationships—particularly successful ones—make traditional types like Amy uncomfortable. And as an advice columnist, ahem, Amy gets to declare things in or out of bounds; it's her column, the dude sought her advice. So she says it just isn't "done" because she doesn't think people should, and not because people don't.

But I agree with Amy that the adultery in this instance can't be justified. It doesn't sound like the dude has grounds to sneak around: he hasn't been cut off by the wife. If you haven't been backed into a corner—if you aren't getting any at home and can't divorce because of kids or other legit considerations—permissible, ethical adultery requires advance notice and negotiation.

And it has a DRUM LINE?!?!?

I'm speechless.

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Sorry, gang, but I mostly agree with Prudie's answer to Three Is Not a Crowd. Poly is great, poly is swell—but springing a live-in secondary on your teenagers is not. Of course the kids are upset. They have every right to be upset. Mom and dad have a right to their sex lives too, of course, and to pursue their shared romantic interests, and I certainly don't think monogamy is for everyone, blah blah blah, just as I don't think that having children—ahem—precludes non-traditional modes of sexual expression.

But I don't think TINAC should have to "find a couple who had the good judgment not to have children"; TINAC did not target this couple, she's not a home wrecker. But if mom and dad got through the majority of their children's lives without a live-in third, they can get through the next few years without their third living under the same roof. Why not let the kids mature, and move out, before their third moves in? If the mom and dad and their girlfriend are in love now, and if it's true love (poly variety), it'll be true love two or three years from now. And the kids will be more likely to accept the third if she wasn't imposed on them while they were still living at home. Consideration and constancy—kids have a right to both.

I do, however, agree that Prudie was uncharacteristically snarky; she doesn't typically treat people in more traditional relationships, and with more traditional problems, with such contempt.

Has anybody around Seattle recently had their credit card hijacked for purchases on iTunes, "New York Times digital" something-or-other, or Napster? I wasn't aware people were still spending money on the latter until my credit card's fraud department called this morning. Second time in less than a year.

I recently talked to an Apple contractor, friend of a friend, whose job was to track down fraudulent iTunes cards. He said American CCs are often hijacked in bulk to purchase US gift cards, which are then pumped into restricted worldwide markets that would prefer to use US iTunes. Could be as simple as that. But maybe, just maybe, everyone who used a credit card at the Aurora Taco Bell a few days ago is feeling my pain. And not just the cheesy-bean-and-rice burrito kind of pain. Ugh.

Okay, so I didn't make Playboy's list of the "55 Most Important People In Sex in the Last 55 Years"—and neither did Bettie Page, Xaviera Hollander, Larry Flynt, and Shere Hite—but I did make an episode of ABC's One Life to Live this week. This clip is from Tuesday's episode...

The little boy doesn't know who Dr. Ruth is, but he knows who I am. As a parent that concerns me. But thanks, ABC!