I'm a straight 18-year-old girl, in my first sexual relationship. Neither of us has much of an idea of what we're doing—things are a little awkward, but it's fun enough. I could just chalk the awkwardness up to to inexperience, but here's what I feel really conflicted about: I have a vore fetish. It was a fascination to me as a young child, and became a sexual thing to me around the time I hit puberty, but I'm wondering now whether it's something I need to get off. It works well when I'm on my own but I always thought regular stuff would work too once I was actually getting some. I've told my boyfriend about it, and he's more than willing to role play with me if I want him too. But these fantasies are in-my-head-only as my they rarely feature human beings (think anthropomorphic monsters and dragons, strange as this may seem) that I don't know if I could actually do this. And besides, it was hard enough putting it into words when I told him, and I can't just contemplate role playing it.

Maybe we just need to hold out a little till we know what we're doing and maybe regular stuff will cut it after all? But I have a mounting suspicion that it won't, Dan. And I'm having trouble coming to terms with what seems to me, on most days, to be a really warped, messed-up fetish. What if this is the only thing I can get off to? Am I doomed to solo sex forever?

Vore Only Really Excites

My response... after the jump.

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Quickly:

Vorarephilia (often shortened to vore) is a paraphilia wherein an individual's sexual arousal occurs in response to a fantasy of themselves, another person or an object eating or being eaten. "Because this sexual interest cannot be enacted in real life, vorarephilic fantasies are often composed in text or illustrations and shared with others via the Internet." The fantasy sometimes involves the victim being swallowed whole, though in some occasions the victims are chewed up, and may or may not include digestion.

Kinda makes you wonder how many of the people who furious with the Discovery Channel after that guy wasn't "Eaten Alive" by a snake were secretly vore fetishists.

Anyway, VORE, you're not the only person on earth whose sexual fantasies revolve around or are completely dominated by the impossible or the unrealizable. The centaur fetishist is not and never will be a centaur; the guy into giant women has not and will not ever meet a fifty foot tall woman on the subway; you are not a never will be a monster capable of swallowing another monster whole. While many people with unrealizable fetishes or fantasies are capable of enjoying "regular stuff" all by itself, VORE, a great many are not. Most of the latter type—people who can't get off to the regular stuff alone—allow their impossible/unrealizable fantasies to play out in their heads while they enjoy the physical sensations of regular/non-vore/centaur/giantess stuff. And most aren't "checked out" on their partners during sex, VORE: they're enjoying the regular stuff and irregular stuff simultaneously—they're in the room, present and plugged in, getting into and getting off on their partners, all while the their impossible/unrealizable fantasies play on a tape loop in their heads.

So while you may be "doomed" to go through life with this fetish, VORE, you are not doomed to solo sex. You can have your fantasies and partnered sex too. And I don't think you've been at this sex stuff long enough to conclude that you're incapable of enjoying regular stuff all on its own. Everyone has their go-to fantasies and years and years of solo masturbation can carve a deep groove in a person's erotic imagination. Since vore was where you always went when you were aroused prior to your boyfriend coming along, VORE, your brain may have automatically gone there when when you got aroused with your boyfriend. Don't mistake what may have been "force of habit" for "complete dependence" or what you fear most—complete dependence on your vore fantasies—could become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

As for your shame about your kink ("a really warped, messed-up fetish"), VORE, you gotta shake that shit off. Take it from a fellow kinkster...


You didn't choose your kink, VORE, your kink chose you. Give yourself a break. Stick with sex- and kink-positive partners, incorporate your kinks carefully and consensually (remember not neglect your partner's interests and kinks), and consider exploring the furry/scalie community—because that's a space where you can be the anthropomorphic monster and/or dragon of your dreams. Good luck.