The advice you gave to SIS—the woman who wanted to hire an escort for her "mentally ill" brother—was quite good.

I suffered a spinal cord injury years ago and I have some additional advice for SIS about hiring sex workers.

Many sex workers are more at ease speaking with another woman. Since a female will be calling for the young gentleman referenced in the column, SIS will be able to have a slightly more in-depth discussion. During those discussions SIS should bear in mind that one pays for a sex worker's time, not for any specific acts. Also, it might be worthwhile to contract for 90 minutes to two hours for her brother's first time. This allows for a more relaxed pace and it will give SIS's brother some time to recover if he reaches his goal prematurely. Also, meeting a new client can be anxiety-producing for a sex worker, as the sex worker is concerned about negative possibilities (cops, robbery, hygiene, etc.). The client in this case will be nervous also, as it's his first time. Booking a little extra time so that both parties can get to know each other a bit will help both parties relax.

It is not usually possible to ask about specific acts or prices for particular activities. The price is the price and if it is higher than one is willing to pay then look elsewhere. This is all negotiated in advance and is not to be mentioned in person. Compensation should be exact and in a plain envelope that is left without comment on a flat surface in sight of the sex worker at the beginning of the appointment. This alleviates any concern about a sting and ensures the undivided attentions of the sex worker for the rest of the appointment. SIS's brother should be aware a sex worker will normally leave the client's presence for a moment to ascertain that the contents of the envelope amounts to the pre-agreed sum.

While it is not required, tipping is warranted when service is good. Keeping an extra twenty or two in one's pocket can cover a tip.

Finally, SIS and her brother should both go with their guts. If it feels wrong for whatever reason, it is. SIS shouldn't make an appointment with someone that her gut tells her isn't right, SIS's brother should get out as quickly as is reasonably possible if he senses that something is off. SIS's brother should also leave his wallet and any excessive cash at home. There are some real saints out there doing sex work but not everyone is. The big head needs to do the thinking until one is reasonably certain that all is as it should be and then the little head can take over.

One Loyal Customer

Thanks for sharing, OLC. More bonus advice for SIS after the jump.

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This is about SIS, the woman who is looking to hire a sex worker for her disabled brother. I haven't seen The Sessions, but for a real-life example, see Scarlett Road. I saw it two years ago at Hot Docs, the documentary film festival here in Toronto. It's about Rachel Wotton and other sex workers who work with the disabled community in Australia. You can watch it here. Enjoy!

Kate