All the homosexuals in the building are so frantic getting A&P, our quarterly arts magazine, off to the printer that no one remembered to put up the news: Jinkx Monsoon killed it last night. Gawker called it "the best-ever impression of Little Edie Bouvier Beale," and they have a highlight reel right here. But whatever with highlights, you ought to watch the whole thing. The alternate headline for this post was "Hometown Hero Outsmarts a Pack of Wolves."
I'm not going to defend former Port of Seattle commissioner Rob Holland against the hit-piece the Seattle Times ran on him a couple weeks ago. Holland resigned rather than toughing it out, so I won't waste the effort defending a politician who won't defend himself.
But Holland's friend and former campaign manager, Michael Martin, was also maligned in the piece, and unfairly so. And he's fighting mad at Emily Heffter and her editor Matthew Kreamer for refusing to retract a factually incorrect assertion that implies inappropriate behavior:
The report also turned up a lewd photograph on Holland’s work cellphone and found that Holland once allowed a friend, Michael Martin, to use his Port credit card to buy camera equipment at Fry’s Electronics.
Except that's not what happened and that's not what the report found. Martin did not use Holland's credit card to purchase anything, and the report Heffter cites actually found this particular allegation to be "unsubstantiated" (PDF, page 25). Martin has repeatedly asked Heffter and Kreamer to issue a correction, and they have repeatedly refused.
"At the end of the day, all you have is your reputation," Martin told me. And he desperately wants his reputation cleared. The Seattle Times has yet to respond to a request for comment.
I'm a 30-year-old straight female. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because we weren't very sexually compatible (reading your column helped me reach that decision). I want to be more adventurous and explore new things with a partner who is interested in sex (I feel like my last bf wasn't interested at all).
So I've recently begun talking to this new guy, but we haven't had sex because we live so far away from each other. I like this, in fact, because I feel like I don't have to worry about doing something I'll regret. We've known each other for ages and we've been flirting pretty heavily through text message and video chat. Talks have been very sexual and exciting in nature. We've been talking about Dominant/submissive stuff a lot with me being the latter and him being the former.
Then last night he said he wanted to blindfold me. I think that sounds hot, but then he took it one step further and said that I wouldn't know who I was having sex with or who was touching me after I was blindfolded. I panicked and said I wouldn't want to be with anyone else, and he said that was the point. He said that the fact that I wouldn't want to do this was what made it hot. I sort of think that's not hot at all. In fact, it turned my stomach.
And here's why. When I was 4-5, I was molested by a 12-13-year-old girl. She would pin me down and make me do things. Then, in high school, I was held down in a public place and groped and fondled by two guys I thought were my friends. People saw me crying for help but nobody helped me. I felt so ashamed that it happened, and I felt like my other friends wouldn't believe me if I said anything, so I stayed silent. In both of these situations I felt like it was my fault—that I must have asked for it somehow. I was raised Southern Baptist and there was a whole lot of sexual oppression and shame loaded on me growing up. I think this is what leads to a lot of the sexual dysfunction I feel in relationships. I never feel like I can fully trust anyone.
So this guy saying that he wanted to force me to do something like that made me feel sick and angry with him. I feel like it would be a violation of trust. And it brought up all these old memories that I'm usually able to keep at a reasonable distance. Normally I don't feel like crying when I think of them, but the other night I actually did. And we were planning on meeting up in the near future but now I don't want to see him because I think he would actually do that to me. I feel like I can't trust him.
Am I wrong to feel like he is an asshole for saying that? Is this a thing some people actually like? I feel like he must not like me very much to want to do that to me. How do people navigate through power dynamics in D/s relationships? Is the submissive really not supposed to set limits and actually do everything the Dominant wants even if she feels like its traumatizing?
I feel like I can't even talk to him now because I just keep thinking that I can't trust him.
Swamped Under Big Sad
My response after the jump...
I'd love to see someone create a montage of film clips to go with this.
For a long time now, the publishing industry has been struggling with the proper way to format poetry e-books. The problem is that if you change the size, font, and spacing of a poetry book, you could throw whole poems out of whack, creating page after page of unreadable word salad. But in the process of formatting their back catalog into e-book form, Port Townsend publisher Copper Canyon Press has devised an elegant solution to this problem. As soon as you open the e-book, you come across a page that reads:
And that's it. Rather than obsessing over some confusing technological solution that won't work on all platforms, this is a direct and obvious answer to the problem. It works on e-ink readers and tablets. Plus, I love the idea of "calibrating" an e-reader before launching into a book, it feels at once old-fashioned and future-thinking, like the way people in the 1950s thought we'd be reading books in the future. This is a problem that has plagued the industry for years, and Copper Canyon bested it with a line of placeholder text.
Yesterday, I posted about a hearing regarding the grand jury refusers, in which Judge Richard A. Jones will announce his decision on some motions filed by attorneys for Matthew Duran and Katherine Olejnik. (The attorneys filed motions asking for their clients' release, the government will have a chance to respond, and Judge Jones will do what judges do.)
That hearing has been moved from Friday at 10 am to Thursday at 9 am at the federal courthouse, 700 Stewart St.
1. Despite all the bluster, Chuck Hagel has been confirmed. This makes Senate Republicans look like a bunch of whiny babies.
2. Chris Christie announced that he is going to allow the Dreaded Obamacare Medicaid expansion in New Jersey, joining seven other Republican governors around the country. He's really not invited to CPAC now.
Andrew Sullivan reacts to the amici brief signed by 75 prominent Republicans in a very moving post at The Dish. If you've ever wondered why he feels so passionately about marriage rights for same-sex couples...
But I never stopped making the conservative case for marriage equality for the simple reason I believed in it. I never thought it would happen to me, but I knew it would have protected so many of my friends who didn’t have to just die agonizing deaths from AIDS but did so stigmatized and alone, their spouses treated often like dirt, their loves publicly repudiated, their dignity grotesquely violated. This was, I believed, a matter of core humanity. It became for me the defining cause of my life.
A friend recalled visiting a man dying of AIDS at the time. A former massive bodybuilder, he had shrunk to 90 pounds. "Do I look big?" he asked, with mordant humor. In the next bed, surrounded by curtains, my friend heard someone singing a pop song quietly to himself. My friend joked: “Well not everyone here is depressed!” Then this from his dying, now skeletal friend: “Oh, that’s not him. He died this morning. That’s his partner. That was their song, apparently. The family took the body away, threw that guy out of the apartment he shared with his partner, and barred him from the funeral. He’s stayed there all day, singing their song. I guess it’s the last place he’ll ever see where his partner actually was. His face is pressed against the pillow. The nurses don’t have the heart to tell him to leave.”
You want to know why this became a life-long struggle? You have your answer.
...yeah, you have your answer.
The freedom to choose your next-of-kin—the right to say this person is my nearest and for your choice to be given the force of law—is an important right for all adults, but it's an absolutely crucial right for LGBT people. So many of us have family members who are homophobic and hostile. To have to live in fear of a parent or a sibling or a distant cousin bursting in and brutalizing your partner after your death is too horrible to contemplate. And soon we may not have to contemplate it anymore. Fingers crossed.
In a sign of serious trouble, electric car services company Better Place is winding down its operations in Silicon Valley and Australia.As you can see, this problem—developing an infrastructure for a new medium for a mode of transportation—is too huge for the market, its resources, and its very nature. The sheer scale of this kind of transformation can only be supported by an institution or social form that has a completely different set of priorities. The formation and maintenance of an electric car infrastructure needs something like an industrial policy, an approach to economic development that neoliberal theorists totally reject. But, as the economist Ha-Joon Chang has pointed out, if the Japanese state had not absorbed huge losses in the long and expensive development of its automobile industry, it would not have a Toyota to talk about. It is the business of the state to fund and sustain an infrastructure for electric cars. If the state is not there all the time, then we are just dreaming.
The company will focus on Israel and Denmark, where the company’s electric vehicle charging and battery-swapping infrastructure is already in place, Better Place says in a statement.
Israeli software executive Shai Agassi founded Better Place in 2005 to tackle one of the main problems with battery-electric vehicles—the limited driving range. From its base in Palo Alto, Calif., the company developed a business model where customers buy monthly driving plans that cover the cost of charging at home and at public stations. Customers can also drive up to automated battery-changing stations that remove depleted batteries for fresh ones in about the same amount of time it takes to fill a tank of gas.
Thank God. I feel like some part of me is still watching the Oscars, somehow. I wish I could kill that part of me, just to give it a kind of relief.
Posted by news intern Jocelyn Macdonald
On February 20th, security cameras at the downtown shopping mall Pacific Place recorded a fascinating sight: a young man in the mall's deserted AMC movie theater "behind the popcorn counters... trying to open money drop boxes attached to cabinet doors and trying to open cash register boxes," according to a Seattle police report.
The action began around 7 a.m., hours before the mall was scheduled to open. With no sign of forced entry, "there is a possibility that he slept in the [theater] over night after it closed down," the report speculates.
According to the "medium to poor quality surveillance footage" viewed by police, the hooded suspect allegedly struggles to open money boxes and cash registers in the theater. After several unsuccessful attempts, he's then seen "going to a lower level and getting a tool to assist him in his efforts at getting these money boxes and cash drawers open," the report states. "He fails get the money drop boxes open but succeeds in forcing the cash register boxes open, damaging them."
"He obtains no money."
Another set of cameras then captures the bored and/or undeterred suspect wandering upstairs, to a restricted area of the theater reserved for employees. According to the police report, the suspect "is seen pulling out a Mt Dew soda from the employee refrigerator. He starts to drink from the bottle then places it with a pair of Air Jordans he had found into a plastic bag. Suspect takes an employees North Face Jacket. He finds an employees bicycle and starts to ride it around on the floor."
"He eventually takes this bicycle with him," the report adds. It's unclear from the police report how the suspect might've exited the building, allegedly with the shoes, soda, and bicycle taken from the theater's employees, but police were able to lift several fingerprints from the theater that they hope to match with the suspect soon.
It must have seemed a bit of a stretch when Anthony Sonnenberg and Rodrigo Valenzuela pitched a collaborative exhibition called Self to Gallery4Culture. The middle of the Venn diagram describing the way their selves overlap is pretty much limited to the fact that they both found themselves at the University of Washington's art grad school in the 2010s. And that neither of them is from Seattle. Otherwise, think up a bunch of differences and they probably apply, starting with gay/straight, Texan/Chilean, native English speaker/native Spanish speaker.
Sonnenberg's from small-town Texas. As an artist, he performs in costumes and gives taxidermied animals new baroque skins. And as his quilted, sparkly self-portrait in the front window of Gallery4Culture reveals, he's both a cherub and a bear of a man. An out gay bear of a man, working up the gumption to be proud of it, from the looks of it.Saint Veronica, the woman who wiped Jesus's face with her cloth as he made his way up to the cross. Jesus's face stayed on the cloth, a true or "vera" in Latin icon, as well as a testament to the truthfulness of images, an icon of truth.
On this quilted surface the nude Sonnenberg is outlined in white and off-white beads and shells and freshwater pearls, with flower buttons for nipples. Because the fabrics are every color and pattern, his figure is somewhat camouflaged, his flesh (referred to specifically as white by the choice of beads and buttons) also becoming the quilt. His pose is based on a Roman sculpture of Hercules, the ultimate figure of something way beyond pride: power, unlabored-over. Sonnenberg's trying on the pose. Throughout Self you see Sonnenberg trying something on, as if trying something on is an intrinsic part of who he is.
But at the same time, he's perching on top of a deflated car tire. It's been discarded in the desert. His airplane, apparently, is going nowhere. Plus, he's playing for the camera, it's a kid move to make an airplane on top of the legs of a parent. This isn't the serious stuff of classic male performance art or classic male land art. It hasn't entirely abandoned those muscle-bound bullish traditions, either. In contrast to Sonnenberg's trying-on self-portrait, Valenzuela pictures himself doing something (even though the effectiveness of this doing is in question), while taking clothing off.
The sequester budget cuts start rolling on Friday. Here's an overview of how you could be affected. John Boehner seems to be losing his shit over this. And here's a PDF explaining how the cuts will affect Washington State. What do you think about all this?
Last night the Chicago Blackhawks came SO CLOSE to breaking their record-breaking points streak. Their game against the Oilers went into overtime, and all the Oilers had to do was put one into the net. Easy peasy. Done deal. But Hossa came in after a bit of a scramble and won the fucking game. Again. The Blackhawks have yet to lose a game in regulation.
I know I was all "LOSE, BLACKHAWKS, LOSE!" But I've changed my mind. I still hate you, Patrick Kane, but now I just want to see this go on forever. It's too cool and ridiculous to hate.
As Dylan Matthews writes: "Interestingly, many blue collar professions—such as cafeteria work, security guard work, and warehouse stock clerking—are the most egalitarian in their compensation, while female white collar professionals like doctors, stock brokers, and insurance saleswomen face among the worst pay gaps around."
The one that surprises me is "retail sales." Women earn 64.3 percent what men earn in that field.
Sounds familiar, right? You already knew about this study, right? Wrong.
The findings... were based on the first major clinical trial to measure the diet’s effect on heart risks. The magnitude of the diet’s benefits startled experts. The study ended early, after almost five years, because the results were so clear it was considered unethical to continue...
Until now, evidence that the Mediterranean diet reduced the risk of heart disease was weak, based mostly on studies showing that people from Mediterranean countries seemed to have lower rates of heart disease — a pattern that could have been attributed to factors other than diet.
Bethany Jean Clement, who is sitting next to me as I type, was just put on the spot for some Mediterranean-restaurant recommendations in Seattle. Off the top of her head:
• Golden Beetle, Maria Hines's restaurant in Ballard
• Vios on Capitol Hill and in Vios in Ravenna
• "People love Yanni's in Greenwood but I've never been there, and same with Gorgeous George's in Greenwood"
And they feel the same way about child rapists, enabler of child rape, and accomplices to child rape. That's what I took away from this Washington Post piece:
When Prime Minister David Cameron unveiled his plan to legalize same-sex marriage last year, Britain’s highest Roman Catholic cleric took to the national pulpit. Cardinal Keith O’Brien decried a “tyranny of tolerance,” calling gay marriage “grotesque” and saying no secular government had the moral authority to legalize such unions.
On Monday, O’Brien, one of the church’s most strident voices against homosexuality, abruptly stepped down amid allegations of “intimate” acts with priests. His fall underscored perhaps the greatest challenge for the Roman Catholic hierarchy as it moves to elect a new pope: regaining its own moral authority. Nowhere is that more true than here in Europe, the continent where the global church is losing the most ground. The taint of scandal here was far fresher than in United States, with a new wave of revelations of sex abuse by European clergy emerging in 2010. Since then, evidence suggests that a long and gradual exodus from Roman Catholic pews has only accelerated, with tens of thousands of Europeans abandoning the faith....
But the nature of the allegations against O’Brien has already led others to call them—if proved true—an example of the kind of hypocrisy that is eroding the church’s influence, particularly on the globe’s most socially liberal continent. Fresh scandal now, observers say, could undermine the church’s current battle to restore its voice in the region, which it has waged by rallying against a bevy of liberal causes from legalized abortion in Ireland to gay marriage in France.
Poor Cardinal O’Brien. Someone needed to be the church's voice in the region and he quite selflessly pulled the dick out of his mouth long enough to condemn gay marriage and then—bam—he's exposed as another closeted Catholic hypocrite. Sucks to be him, huh?
Daily Kos has everything you need to know about Republican Senator Eric Cantor's valiant and ongoing battle against overtime pay:
In Eric Cantor's February 2013 speech, he said he wanted to propose Federal Law that would end overtime pay for hourly workers. Currently, the Fair Labor Standards Act of 1938 (FLSA), signed into law by President Franklin D. Roosevelt, mandates that certain workers get paid "time + 1/2" for overtime work. Eric Cantor wants to eliminate that law. Because — ya know — workers not getting paid for overtime hours worked out so good for workers before FDR enacted that Law.
And the Republicans are back to cartoon villain territory, especially when you consider that a majority of Americans are in favor of raising the minimum wage. We're a nation that understands that the government needs to provide some protection for its workers.
We have Diana "My Gay Students Have No Purpose In Life" Medley to thank for this: people in Indiana who were upset by the actions of anti-gay bigots in Sullivan—including Diana "My Gay Students Have No Purpose In Life" Medley—came together and created the You Have a Purpose Project, "a collaboration of the Interfaith Coalition on Nondiscrimination, Indiana Equality Action, FairTalk, and Indiana PFLAG."
Maybe Diana "My Gay Students Have No Purpose In Life" Medley's purpose in life was to inspire hoosiers to speak up in defense of LGBT kids in Indiana. The Lord works in mysterious ways, right?
A butch dyke explains why she hates the TSA.
Amy Seimetz, a series regular on AMC's The Killing and the star of Megan Griffiths's The Off Hours...
"Plant peas on Presidents' Day," that's what they say around here, advice I've been following with good results for more than a decade. Though due to a brief vacation, I didn't manage to get my peas in the ground until this Sunday, along with a half a bed of lettuce and arugula seeds.
Chances are a lot of these seeds won't make it. But time is precious and seeds are cheap, so weather permitting I'll just fill in the gaps in a couple weeks, both enhancing and extending the harvest. I can always buy more seeds, but February only comes once a year.
FYI, it's actually been a relatively dry winter by Seattle standards, leaving the soil light and workable with few large clumps. So now is the perfect time to turn over your beds and mix in a few inches of compost.
This was posted a few weeks ago in the Atlantic's blog Cities:
Last week, on a Seattle winter evening, my dog and I stood at a neighborhood street corner in a spontaneous meeting with an urban coyote who, for several moments, owned my neighborhood pavement with conviction. Upon rounding a corner and coming face-to-face, the coyote cast a long stare (with those "I am not a pet" eyes I once saw in Africa), turned around, and moved on. For this feral, walkable urbanist, the city sidewalk was clearly as customary a migration route as wooded paths or the open plain.The point the blogger Charles R. Wolfe makes in the post is that cities are being transformed into their opposite, nature, by two mediums: self-domesticated humans and wild animals. Humans are deliberately returning parts of their built environment to nature, and nature in the form wild animals is more and more becoming a part of the urban. (The other day I saw a whole bald eagle in a tree above Magnolia Park.) My only problem with Wolfe's post is the distinction he makes between nature and the urban. The urban is as natural as nature, as a beaver's dam, or the soil of worms. The city is just a niche constructed by and for the human animal. The most amazing thing in the post, then, is not its insight but that a coyote was seen on the sidewalk. This is amazing because sidewalks were made with only humans in mind. Yet they also appear to afford coyotes.
As for the "eyes I once saw in Africa" comment, today I will give it a rest.
An Amicus Brief for the History Books: Both Eli and Dan report below on the letter submitted to the Supreme Court by 75 prominent Republicans "arguing that gay people have a constitutional right to marry."
Wondering Why Cops Were Swarming Bellevue Ave Last Night? SPD tweets about it: "Officers respond to 1700 Blk Bellevue for argument between roommates. One threatened other w/ gun, shot fired into ceiling. Suspect arrested."
Well, There's a Headline: "SPD monitor asks city to pay for his cable bill, meals and booze." Take it away, KOMO:
Since starting the job, [Merrick] Bobb's spending habits have raised eyebrows. He has turned in receipts for expensive dinners at top restaurants that cost $113, $92 and $191. He has also turned in receipts for his monthly cable bill, an Egyptian cotton pillow case and alcohol. While no one blames Bobb for having expensive tastes, few seem happy that he's asking taxpayers to foot the bill.
Those Weird Gray Nudie-Pic Machines at Sea-Tac: They "should be gone by mid-April, according to a staff memo sent to Port of Seattle commissioners on Sunday."
Sacramento Wants to Keep Its Kings: In a counteroffer to the Seattle bid, private investors promise to build a new arena in Sacramento.
Weigh In Here: Will you pay the Seattle Times $4 a week to read it on the web?
America Looks Dumb, the World Laughs: The Guardian is now live-blogging our political and budgetary disaster. "Good morning and welcome to our live blog coverage of the sequester. Just three days to go now until the axe falls."
Speaking of Sequestration: House Speaker John Boehner tells the Senate to "get off their ass."
A Blizzard in the Heartland: A writer in the bathroom? "Gobs of wet, heavy snow plopped to the ground early Tuesday in the Kansas City area," begins CNN.
So Does He Get to Keep the Hat? The Vatican explains what the pope's new title, outfit, and jewelry will be after he quits.
Ohhhh, Morrissey. He just really loves ducks, okay?
Sure, the horn loop has merciless haunting power, but Pat Robertson's concerned about actual demonic possession, via demons that may attach themselves to clothes purchased from Goodwill. Enjoy!
Thank you, Right Wing Watch.
Because so many people have positive feelings for that heap of bad ideas on Beacon Hill, I have decided to post a few samples of what good local architecture feels like. Yes, it is all about feelings. Images are feelings. And this image of the Rainier Pump Station feels good...
Next Sunday, Mitt Romney will do his first major post-election interview with, unsurprisingly, Fox News. This means it's time for any number of retrospective news pieces on what went wrong, featuring Republicans who took part in the Romney campaign. Now, most of these are going to be boring, intellectually lazy rehashes that concede one or two points to the Obama team, like this clip, in which Romney strategist Stuart Stevens admits that the media wasn't strictly "in the tank" for Obama...
...but there's a lot of subtext that we're going to have to keep an eye on, because it's going to tell us a lot about the future of the Republican Party. If Romney continues to blame his loss on the 47% of Americans who he thinks Obama gives gifts to, and if other Republicans agree with that assessment, they'll have effectively learned absolutely nothing from their loss this time.
The fact that GOProud and the Log Cabin Republicans aren't going to the Conservative Political Action Conference this year is a bad sign; the rumors that Chris Christie won't be invited are even worse. For Republicans to win elections, they're going to have to concede some ground. Mitt Romney's carefully groomed-and-edited Fox News interview would be a good place to begin that process. If that doesn't happen, the Republican Party will be stuck in teabaggy 2012 for at least the next two years.
Donnie Collins, an Emerson College sophomore pledging the Phi Alpha Tau fraternity, is finding out a lot about the meaning of brotherhood. Collins is a transgender male whose health insurance does not cover his female-to-male top surgery which involves the removal of the breasts. He has paid for his hormone treatment himself.
Now his his new fraternity brothers have stepped in to help raise money for the operation through a page on IndieGogo.com.
"We care deeply about each and everyone, and rely on the entire active brotherhood to stand behind any one individual when they are in need," members state on the page. "We as an organization are told from day one to use our resources. You may not know this gentleman like we do, and we might not even know you, but if it speaks to you then we want to present you with an opportunity to give."
Collins' top surgery is scheduled for May and his frat bros are just $40 short of their $4800 goal. He made a video thanking his frat brothers for their support. It's after the jump.