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Monday, February 11, 2013

SL Letter of the Day: Longterm Lockup

Posted by on Mon, Feb 11, 2013 at 5:16 PM

Hi Dan, I'm a long time reader but first time writer. My girlfriend and I read your column religiously, and I have that in part to thank for being comfortable with telling her about my interest in BDSM. She is very GGG and has been more than happy to indulge all my kinky fantasies and she's discovered some of her own.

Our latest adventure has been having her lock my dick in a CB6000 (male chastity device) and holding on to the key. The play/sex has been super fun so far, but we both want to be aware and informed about any health and safety concerns from this type of play/restriction, specifically in regards to risk of damage to my penis. We've had the device for almost a week and I've been doing a ton of research on the net. There is no shortage of information on proper hygiene and cleaning while locked, and there is lots of information about effects of infrequent ejaculation/orgasm denial.

However, what we're most concerned about is not the effects of not coming, but whether the restricting of the penis and of erections can cause nerve damage, erectile dysfunction, or any other issues. I've read conjecture and opinions online, but nothing that would be considered comprehensive and reliable medical information. Specifically, I want to know if I should be concerned by having my erections constricted by the device while being teased in sexual play, or by wearing the device overnight (my research tells me that in REM sleep the typical male will get 3-5 erections).

We certainly plan on taking off the device for sexual play, which we do about 5 times a week, so there would certainly be plenty of opportunities for my guy to stretch out and get some exercise. Besides worrying about limiting erections, I'd also like to know if there's any issue with having the device on long term while soft, specifically in regards to the cock ring that serves as the back end of the device. If it is fitted properly, are there any negative effects to having this on for a day? A week? A month?

I find it odd that there isn't more information about this provided by manufacturers; it seems like a toy that you should be well informed about before experimenting with. From what I've read online, there seem to be a lot of guys who stay locked way more long term than I'm planning on doing, and I hope they have had questions like mine answered before engaging in that.

Lock On Cock Kausing Erectile Dysfunction?

My response after the jump...

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There are scores of male chastity bloggers out there whose wives and girlfriends keep their cocks locked up in male chastity devices for extended periods of time. It's difficult to put a number to exactly how many locked up guys are out there. But we can safely say this: there are more guys out there blogging about their locked up cocks than there are guys out there whose cocks have ever been locked up.

By which I mean to say: don't believe everything you read online. While there are plenty of kinky guys who've had their cocks locked up for extended periods of time, LOCKED, their numbers are small. I'm thinking most of what you've read by guys claiming to have been locked up for months or years is pure fiction. Best not to take health-and-safety advice from anonymous and potentially fictional male chastity practitioners, okay? (And here's a pro tip: guys who do wear male chastity devices for extended periods typically invest in custom devices that are fitted to their dicks. Their cocks aren't locked up in clunky, semi-adjustable, one-size-fits-all, easy-to-escape-from devices like the CB6000, which is fine for short-term play. Their cocks are locked up in shit like this.)

Manufacturers of things like CB6000s and other male chastity devices don't provide information about risks because they're not required to. Cock cages and male chastity devices are sold as "novelty items." They're not medical devices and the FDA doesn't regulate them. Still, so long as your CB6000 isn't so tight that it's cutting off circulation, pinching nerves, or rubbing you raw, you should be fine. I wouldn't recommend wearing it to bed, LOCKED, and not just because you'll be awakened by painfully constrained nocturnal erections three-to-five times per night. You know how you sometimes sleep "funny" on one of your arms and then it's completely asleep when you wake up in the morning? I don't think you want to risk doing that to your dick.

One guy I know who got into chastity play stopped wearing his cock cage after he realized that it was interfering with his ability to get an erection when he wasn't wearing his cock cage. As you're no doubt aware by now, LOCKED, erections are painful when you're wearing a CB6000. (Imagine how much it hurst to get one wearing this.) My kinky friend realized, some months into playing around with his CB6000, that he was essentially training his cock not to get hard at all—with or without his chastity device on, his dick was erring on the side of not getting hurt.

My advice: wear your CB6000 when you're away from your girlfriend. She can keep you chaste by locking up your cock when you're not together and keeping an eye on you—and your cock—when you are together.

 

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lolorhone 1
All of the high-end cock cages on display here looks like some Aeon Flux shit.
Posted by lolorhone on February 11, 2013 at 5:24 PM · Report this
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"While there are plenty of kinky guys who've had their cocks locked up for extended periods of time, LOCKED, their numbers are small."

Huh?
Posted by portland scribe on February 11, 2013 at 5:31 PM · Report this
lolorhone 3
All of the high-end cock cages look like some Aeon Flux shit.
Posted by lolorhone on February 11, 2013 at 5:32 PM · Report this
lolorhone 4
Sorry for the repeat :)
Posted by lolorhone on February 11, 2013 at 5:34 PM · Report this
eclexia 5
Dan--

I sincerely hope that your "kinky friend" got his boner back. We wouldn't want your "kinky friend's" Canadian husband to be frustrated.
Posted by eclexia on February 11, 2013 at 6:28 PM · Report this
Granny Smith 6
I tried a couple of the '000 cages and found them to be unsatisfactory. It ends up hanging off the end of ones cock in an unflattering mix of ball and head. Currently, I am instructed not to masturbate and that is actually much hotter and makes me more horny than having junk in my trunks. If you can not follow the simple instruction not to play with yourself you really are not a good boy.
Posted by Granny Smith on February 11, 2013 at 6:40 PM · Report this
undead ayn rand 7
@2: Perhaps he means that the info on long-term usage and health is still patchy?
Posted by undead ayn rand on February 11, 2013 at 6:41 PM · Report this
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Very useful info, thank you!
Posted by Marrena on February 11, 2013 at 7:11 PM · Report this
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I own one of the steelworks devices. They are awesome. The manufacturer is a super nice guy too. Great stuff! Still get hard despite very extended wear, so not having the issues of Dan's friend, but as I mentioned I am wearing something pretty high grade.
Posted by Spike1382 on February 11, 2013 at 8:04 PM · Report this
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@9 how many digits does something like that run?
Posted by Marrena on February 11, 2013 at 8:40 PM · Report this
Anne18 11
@10 - Only one.
Posted by Anne18 on February 11, 2013 at 10:22 PM · Report this
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@10, $1200-$3000, depending on your options. He was pretty surprised I was under 30.
Posted by Spike1382 on February 12, 2013 at 12:35 AM · Report this
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@11: hahahahahahahahahahaha
Posted by heatherly on February 12, 2013 at 1:57 AM · Report this
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LW: For some people tissue damage to the penis does *not* recover and the penis is more easily damaged than in others. Physicians have no way to know your body's response, so be careful of *extended* wear. The weight alone of the device may cause this.

Applying strong pressure / pain (within reason) on the penis for an hour of sex once a day may seem worse than slight compression for 23 hours every day, but the former can be harmless and the latter can do damage over time.

Surgeons find substantial differences in exactly where nerves run and how far under the shaft the corpus cavernosa and spongiosum are, differences in tissue density, etc. Dan's friend may well have had a classical conditioning issue of training his dick to stay soft, but could also have been manifesting some cumulative tissue damage / changes.

Dan -- if you know Steelwerks' owner tell him/her/them that their cool website is giving a 404 error on most links -- including "contact us"! So they're missing out on the publicity. Steampunk is amazingly cool.

@9 several questions for you and your resilient dick :-)
- How heavy is your chastity device?
- Would you please provide detail on your wear schedule:
1. avg hrs/day?
2. total hrs/week?
3. typically how many hours uninterrupted at a stretch?
4. typically how many hours/days "off" for each recovery period?
5. typically how many recovery periods in a week/month?
Posted by delta35 on February 12, 2013 at 7:50 AM · Report this
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This letter came at the perfect time for me. My owner and I just started exploring chastity play and I've been wearing it on and off for the past week. Plan was to wear it till the end of the month (with some exceptions such as being allowed to remove it daily up to 1 hour for cleaning purposes). However, I'm now thinking we need to rethink our arrangement. Btw if anyone is wondering, I'm using the CB Curve.
Posted by consensual_nonconsent on February 12, 2013 at 8:27 AM · Report this
zivilisierter Wurm 16
Yup. That's classic conditioning.
Posted by zivilisierter Wurm http://peregrinari.tumblr.com/ on February 12, 2013 at 8:49 AM · Report this
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Hey Dan thanks for link! This is the owner of SteelwerksExtreme.com, we are having some major site issues with our host right now and will have it resolved within 24 hours!! We are REALLY sorry about this, however for now, please enjoy the front page and and follow the arrows until we are all fixed up!
Posted by Christopher Miers on February 12, 2013 at 10:42 AM · Report this
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Hey Dan thanks for link! This is the owner of SteelwerksExtreme.com, we are having some major site issues with our host right now and will have it resolved within 24 hours!! We are REALLY sorry about this, however for now, please enjoy the front page and and follow the arrows until we are all fixed up!
Posted by MrSteelwerksExtreme on February 12, 2013 at 10:53 AM · Report this
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AWESOME article! Dan, thank you so much for being a wealth of healthy information.

And thanks for giving a nod to Steelwerks Extreme! I had a custom cage made for me and I couldn't be happier with the results. There are lots of chastity cages out there, but Steelwerks was exactly what we were looking for. Dollar for dollar, they make the best cage you can buy, and they gave us all the information we needed to have happy, safe, and healthy adventures.
Posted by LastManStanding on February 13, 2013 at 8:44 AM · Report this
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I'm not convinced that your info - which, unusually, doesn't actually source any medical pros or such - is much more useful than the known-to-be-90%-bullshit chastity writing out there.

I'm certain there are people doing long-term chastity. I'm certain that there are some doing it and still getting hard, and getting off from time to time.

I'm not at all sure that _anyone_ actually knows what the issues look like, but it WOULD be great to know what's known.
Posted by Jailbait on February 13, 2013 at 1:41 PM · Report this

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