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Monday, November 19, 2012

For the Woman Betrayed by the General; for the Man Betrayed by the General's Lover

Posted by on Mon, Nov 19, 2012 at 8:53 AM

My advice to the victims of this sex scandal is found in the exact way Grace Jones sings these words: "Don't cry, it's only the rhythm." Don't cry and be silent is what I have to say. But this position is not, I must admit, the very best. There is one that's even higher and more perfect than it. That position is expressed by the great American Billie Holiday in a tune she wrote called "Don't Explain"...

Quiet, don't explain
You mixed with some dame
Skip that lipstick
Don't explain

What these lines clearly show, and what so many people failed to see in my own position (seeing it only as something to do with gender), is existential ice and resolve. Because it's not possible to control and predict the courses of life, it's best to form a philosophy for these vicissitudes. Holiday's philosophy is not like mine (silence and ice), but the silencing/icing of the betrayer. No stories, no tales, no excuses—all you must do is stop explaining, shut up, and go to bed. There is grandeur in this view of life.


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Knat 1
Thank you for further clarifying your position. I can understand where you're coming from now.

In the same situation, I'd probably adopt a similar response: no crying, at least not in front of the woman who wounded me; that's for later, when I'm alone. Though I don't think I'd be able to keep myself from crying indefinitely. While still in her presence though, I don't think I'd be able to be silent and stoic, as you advocate. I think it'd be a more hostile response. (link most definitely NSFW if you have speakers)
Posted by Knat on November 19, 2012 at 10:06 AM · Report this
Theodore Gorath 2
I cried for you
Now it's your turn to cry over me
Every road has a turning
That's one thing you're learning
I cried for you
What a fool I used to be
Now I've found two eyes
Just a little bit bluer
I've found a heart
Just a little bit truer
I cried for you
Now it's your turn to cry over me
Posted by Theodore Gorath on November 19, 2012 at 11:08 AM · Report this
dangerousgift 3
Men can make crying tough. Get into it
Posted by dangerousgift on November 19, 2012 at 2:39 PM · Report this

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