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Friday, October 5, 2012

Last Night, Some Straight Guys Were Out on the Hill Campaigning for Gay Marriage

Posted by on Fri, Oct 5, 2012 at 2:40 PM

Chris Burke is a 31-year-old straight guy who'd never been inside the new nightclub Q before walking in last night to register voters and spread the word about approving Referendum 74. Burke used to be a hydrogeologist, now works in advertising as a web developer, and he's donating his free time to the gay-marriage issue because: "It's fundamental that people should have equal rights. My best friend is queer and the idea that I can get married and she can't is just upsetting." So where was this queer friend of his? Why wasn't she out volunteering, too? There was an awkward pause. "I'm going to make her volunteer. And I can get people at work to volunteer, too."

It was Burke's first night volunteering. After reading this Slog post earlier in the week, he joined this Facebook group, which is meeting up at Lobby at 7 pm every Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, and then going on a bar-hop together. About half a dozen volunteers did the bar hop last night, including another straight guy, Waseem Quraishi, 28, a programmer at a tech startup. Burke and Quraishi had never met before. And obviously, as straight guys, they have nothing to gain if gay marriage becomes legal—they just think it's the right thing to do. Cuz they are just awesome dudes.

Anyway, after a couple drinks at Lobby, Burke walked into Q and gamely started talking with... well, let's see, what's the nice way of putting this? An unenthusiastic homosexual person. Sitting at the bar. I couldn't make out what they were saying, but it was pretty amazing watching a straight guy try to talk a gay guy into giving a shit about gay marriage. After a valiant attempt to engage with the guy—who wasn't even registered to vote!—Burke walked away, without success. "That was difficult," Burke said. "He wants to vote but he's not interested in dealing with it right now."

Then Burke walked up to a guy who said he'd just moved here from the East Coast six months ago. This guy didn't think he was registered to vote. But he also didn't know if he could register: "Do I have to have a Washington license?" he asked.

This stumped the volunteers for half a second, but Burke rolled with it: "Why don't we take down your information just in case?" he said. And good thing he did. You don't need a Washington license to vote; you just need to be a legal resident of the state and you need to be registered to vote. "So, what's your name?" Burke said, and happily took down the guy's name and address and other information while this lucky dude stood there drinking a vodka cranberry and dictating his information.

If you don't have a Washington State license/state ID #, you can provide the last four digits of your social security number instead. When Burke got to that part of the form, he said, "Want to write it down and I won't look?"

"I don't have any money, so I don't care."

"I could hold your drink," Burke said, handing him the clipboard to fill in the SSN and the signature.

"OK. Don't slip me anything," the guy said. He probably didn't realize he was talking to a straight guy.

Burke mentioned that the gay marriage initiative was called Referendum 74, and that to support marriage equality he should vote "approve."

"Duh, really?" the guy said sarcastically.

"Well, it's confusing the way it's worded," Burke said.

"Yeah," the guy said, sincerely this time. "OK, so approve? I've been worried about it. You should get my partner too." The guy pointed at his boyfriend across the bar, who'd moved with him from the East Coast and was also not registered to vote.

Then Burke encouraged the guy to volunteer to register voters or even do some phone-banking, but the guy declined, saying, "I'm just not very outgoing and talkative."

"Neither am I!" Burke said. "This is taking lots of drinks. Well, it's so nice to meet you." As he walked away, Burke said, "I was just in a bike accident and my hand's still fucked up. So holding a clipboard is kind of hard." Then he looked at the lights and the dance floor and said, "I can't believe this place is in my neighborhood. This is so not Seattle."

A little while later, the volunteers moved to R-Place, and then to the Baltic Room for a ElektroPOP, a queer night with drag performances and lube wrestling. I asked Burke for his impression of the show, and he said, "Good fun. And maybe just a bit sexually suggestive. Just a bit." I asked Burke what it was like watching two guys wrestling in lube, as a straight guy. "I'm not really about definitions. I'm a vegetarian but I would never describe myself that way. We're people. We should be able to do whatever the fuck we want. That's what freedom is."

I asked Quraishi, that other straight guy, what he thought of the lube wrestling spectacle, and he said, "I was honestly talking to a lady, so I didn't see much. But from what I saw it looked very difficult. I like how everybody's so lively, you know?"

The group meets up again tonight for their bar crawl starting at Lobby at 7 pm. Those straight girls I met at Pony earlier in the week will be joining tonight. You should join in, too. Gay guys, gay gals, straight guys, straight gals—anyone who gives a shit. Now is the time. It's fun. It's important. You'll meet people. There are only three more days to register to vote—the deadline for voter registration is October 8—and only about a week left before millions of dollars of negative ads about gay marriage start flooding the airwaves. As Ed Murray put it when he visited The Stranger's offices earlier today, California's gay-marriage initiative was 11 points ahead in the polls and then lost by 8 points on Election Day. If we want to be the first state ever to pass gay marriage by popular vote, it's going to take a helluva lot more work.

 

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"And obviously, as straight guys, they have nothing to gain if gay marriage becomes legal"

Living in a more just and equitable society is a gain in my book.
Posted by doceb on October 5, 2012 at 2:45 PM
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Way cool :) I just wanted to take issue with this line, though:

"And obviously, as straight guys, they have nothing to gain if gay marriage becomes legal—they just think it's the right thing to do."

I'm straight (not a guy though ;-) and while I surely have less to gain with marriage equality becoming the law, I do have *something* to gain: I'm a mom. I have two kids. They're probably straight, but we don't know that yet. If I'm lucky, one day I'll be a grandmother. No telling what the orientation of those hypothetical grandkids will be. I have gay friends and relatives who would get married if they could. I don't want to miss out on any of those weddings!!
Posted by So-called Claire on October 5, 2012 at 2:46 PM
Pope Peabrain 3
On the hill? I appreciate the effort, but we won the hill. Maybe they should work Yakima.
Posted by Pope Peabrain on October 5, 2012 at 2:50 PM
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@3: it's about making sure your base gets out and votes, not swaying swing voters.
Posted by doceb on October 5, 2012 at 2:53 PM
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We're also working voters out in other areas, including West Seattle, Ballard, the U District, etc. In fact, tonight, from 5-7ish there will be a super visible "flash rally" put on the West Seattle Junction (California & Alaska) by the Unitarian Universalists. They were out there last week during the Farmer's Market, and will be out there a few more times bringing visibility and awareness to Ref 74.

Lots of great things are happening all over- not just on the hill, although the bar crawl is a super fun event.
Posted by no_such_number on October 5, 2012 at 3:16 PM
TotesFierce 6
"Why aren't your gay friends volunteering? What do you mean you're a gay person who doesn't give a shit about gay marriage?"
-liberal straights and boring gays

Ugh y'all. Get over it. Some gays just don't give a shit or give a shit about something else more.
Posted by TotesFierce http://fag4life.com on October 5, 2012 at 3:17 PM
heyMrDJ 7
I'm a gay guy -- volunteer phone banker, canvasser and of late (minimally) paid canvasser. Since February when this law was signed by the Governor I've been amazed that 8 out of 10 volunteers I've met are straight allies. Its heartening and meaningful, but I can't help wondering where are all the other gay & lesbians?!

I was invited to a March for Marriage this Saturday on FB today, please everyone who is attending that spend as many hours phone banking or canvassing. We NEED EVERYONE to help... please volunteer for just 1 phone bank, 1 canvas event after the march. WE NEED EVERYONE to help. http://washingtonunitedformarriage.org/g…

And by all means join the March:

Calling ALL LGBTQ and allied communities in WA state: Social Outreach Seattle and defend the freedom to marry Saturday, October 6, 12 - 2 p.m. for the Social Outreach Seattle (SOSea) MARCH FOR MARRIAGE!
Why October 6? Because the first round of ballots are sent through the mail and SOSea believes that a strong showing of support is necessary as that happens. THE MARCH AND RALLY will include:

11:30am: meet at Cal Anderson Park.

11:30am - 12pm noon: RALLY #1 with Rep. Jamie Pedersen confirmed as guest speaker.

12pm noon - 12:35pm: SOSea will lead a good ol' fashioned MARCH down to WESTLAKE CENTER. Along the way marchers will chant, wave their flags, and so on.

12:35pm - 2pm: RALLY #2 with Shaun Knittel, Joshua Friedes,Marsha Botzer, George Bakan, and Sarah Toce confirmed as guest-speakers.

Here are a few things to keep in mind: INVITE EVERYONE you know! This MARCH AND RALLY is not about anger, divisiveness, etc., instead our goal is to motivate and energize participants, remind the voting public they must ACTUALLY VOTE if we are to APPROVE REFERENDUM 74, and be BOLD, LGBTQ/Allied, and FUN!
More...
Posted by heyMrDJ on October 5, 2012 at 3:44 PM
very bad homo 8
Apathy is our worst enemy in this fight. Those people who hate us and don't want us to live happy lives? THEY ALL VOTE! If we lose this, it's because of assholes who can't even be bothered to care about voting.
Posted by very bad homo on October 5, 2012 at 3:51 PM
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Ref 74 and John Urquhart for Sheriff were also at Lobby Bar last night holding a joint fundraiser. Sen. Ed Murray spoke at the event and thanked Urquhart for his support.
Posted by Lisasanswer on October 5, 2012 at 3:58 PM
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It's fundamental that people should have equal rights.
My best friend is a polygamist and the idea that I can get married and she can't is just upsetting.
Will Chris work for her rights?
Posted by We're very upset right now.... on October 5, 2012 at 4:05 PM
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@10: Everyone would be entitled to one, consenting, live, human spouse of legal age, even fuckwits like you.
Posted by duh.heard.it.before on October 5, 2012 at 4:25 PM
thelyamhound 12
@10 - Start your own movement, and I will consider supporting it.
Posted by thelyamhound http://thebayinghound.blogspot.com on October 5, 2012 at 4:34 PM
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12

You are very kind.
But I am too upset right now to start a movement.
Because the idea that I can get married and she can't is just upsetting.
Posted by We're very very upset right now. on October 5, 2012 at 5:51 PM
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Slog needs to write more posts with headlines counting down the days left to register, and telling people where and how to do it. It's too important an issue to assume people are going to figure it out on their own.
Posted by mitten on October 5, 2012 at 6:39 PM
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Do it Washington pass Gay Marriage.
Posted by Machiavelli was framed on October 6, 2012 at 1:03 AM
16
Tell them to volunteer for me as I am currently deployed.
Posted by jiberish on October 7, 2012 at 2:16 AM

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