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Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Sex The Masking of a Bond

Posted by Charles Mudede on Tue, Jan 24, 2012 at 8:21 AM

The mask is designed by Didier Faustino and for kissing. The mask is not sexy because it limits the danger of a kiss, protects the sexual kissers. Something I wrote last year:

way to break that bond and bring a relationship to an end. True, there is always an element of pain and even aggression in most sexual tests—the playful bite on the lip (eating), the squeezing of a wrist (seizing), the pressing against the body (forcing). Indeed, [evolutionary biologist Amotz Zahavi] believes that a certain amount of aggression is found in every act of sexual love. "Among well-established bond members," writes Zahavi, beautifully, "activities which signal love, like... allogrooming and allopreening, kissing, etc., are often still mixed with genuine aggression as manifested by a reaction which often signals unpleasant feelings from the passive participant. A bout of allopreening among Babblers often terminates when the preened bird moves its head away as if it was hurt. Embraces and the leaning of one member of a couple on another are often terminated when one cannot stand anymore the physical stress involved. These stresses are very appropriate if such an activity is meant to test the bond."

Without danger, the danger of being bitten (a danger that tests the bond), sexual kissing is empty.

Testing a bond with a replicant.

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Without danger, the danger of being bitten

Don't I know it! I've lost track of the number of times I've leaned in for a kiss and blammo! I get bitten instead. Or punched in the balls.

Can I help it if riding on the Metro puts me in a romantic mood?

Posted by seandr on January 24, 2012 at 8:42 AM