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Sex Mario and Princess Seek Deanna Troi For PAXXXy Times
Posted by Dominic Holden on Thu, Aug 26, 2010 at 6:12 PM
Slog tipper Matt Hickey directs us to this ad from a nearby-but-unlinked corner of the internet:
Nerd Orgy At PAXOkay, I thought it might be fun for a bunch of us like minded adults to get together in a hotel room and have a friendly adult party. This will be Friday night, with a possibility of a Saturday encore. Any who are interested please email me so we can get this set up. All sizes and shapes welcome! Please respond with either geek or nerd in the subject line. MW4MW MW4W
Update: Getting too many responses from single males, so will not be accepting any more for now. If you are a single male and you already replied, I need to see what we have for couples and single females before you get an invite. No single males have an actual invite yet.
No more Commander Rikers, you guys, jeez.
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crap, & i was just gonna fire this one off to 'em...
From: ewok69@manscapedforestofendordotorg
Subject: sexxy nerd and/or geek request
i am one of those rare but much coveted well hung ewoks willing to serve or be served by any manner of being, from tolkien elven goddess to avatar blue chick...
bring on the freaky babes!!! they will be more satisfied than Minerva @ an Apulian orgy.
i will accept your call/e-vite.
From: ewok69@manscapedforestofendordotorg
Subject: sexxy nerd and/or geek request
i am one of those rare but much coveted well hung ewoks willing to serve or be served by any manner of being, from tolkien elven goddess to avatar blue chick...
bring on the freaky babes!!! they will be more satisfied than Minerva @ an Apulian orgy.
i will accept your call/e-vite.
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Oh geez, sure, just post it to Slog, why don't you. Now EVERYBODY'S going to want to show up. PAX orgies were way better before it got big. Now it's all industry reps and gladhanding and "celebrity" geek bloggers trying to network. I mean, I was at last year's orgy, and I was just trying to have a good time with this couple who were in costume as Final Fantasy 4 characters, I mean they weren't that hot but it was a fun time, right, and I ask somebody to pass the lube, and next thing I know Eddy Webb from White Wolf is trying to talk to me about the upcoming World of Darkness MMO as he hands me the Liquid Silk and I have to free up my mouth from more important things to tell him that, no, I'm not going to be able to make it to the Vampire Grand Masquerade in New Orleans this year.
Ugh, the whole thing has just gotten too commercial. I think I'm going to pass on the orgy completely this year and maybe try to make one of the smaller gaming community invite-only convention sex parties instead.
Ugh, the whole thing has just gotten too commercial. I think I'm going to pass on the orgy completely this year and maybe try to make one of the smaller gaming community invite-only convention sex parties instead.
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hey gamers- remember all those fags you like to make fun of on chat rooms and message boards?
Yeah... they're laughing their asses off right now.
Yeah... they're laughing their asses off right now.
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So. There are many variables involved, I agree, but in the end, men are publicly declaring they want orgies and women are not.
Again, many variables, yes I understand, but are there any women out there who claim that women "want sex just as much as men" who can provide any evidence for this? And not just porn stars, who are a tiny minority? Apparently, some men are willing to throw away whatever amount of dignity they might have (and that amount might be none) in order to simply stick their things in whatever woman wanders by. But some women are not the same. Some men will fuck anything, but some women won't. (or at least, the ratio is WAAAAAAAAY off). Or am I wrong?
Are women as open, sexually, as men? Some men will fuck anything. Will women? I'm only interested because I hear so often about how women are SO sexual and open and that they're no different than men. Is that true. Are there lots of women who will fuck anything... are there even a few dozen women who will fuck anything?, just like men will?
I've never heard of a woman-organized fuck-fest in which they find some guy, any guy, to have an orgy with. I've heard of men doing this. Many times actually. Perhaps I just haven't looked enough?
I'm sorry, but I simply don't buy the idea that women want sex as much as men do. They want something different than sex, something extra. And that's ok, there's nothing wrong with that. But to say that men and women are no different when it comes to sex simply seems ignorant of reality to me.
Again, many variables, yes I understand, but are there any women out there who claim that women "want sex just as much as men" who can provide any evidence for this? And not just porn stars, who are a tiny minority? Apparently, some men are willing to throw away whatever amount of dignity they might have (and that amount might be none) in order to simply stick their things in whatever woman wanders by. But some women are not the same. Some men will fuck anything, but some women won't. (or at least, the ratio is WAAAAAAAAY off). Or am I wrong?
Are women as open, sexually, as men? Some men will fuck anything. Will women? I'm only interested because I hear so often about how women are SO sexual and open and that they're no different than men. Is that true. Are there lots of women who will fuck anything... are there even a few dozen women who will fuck anything?, just like men will?
I've never heard of a woman-organized fuck-fest in which they find some guy, any guy, to have an orgy with. I've heard of men doing this. Many times actually. Perhaps I just haven't looked enough?
I'm sorry, but I simply don't buy the idea that women want sex as much as men do. They want something different than sex, something extra. And that's ok, there's nothing wrong with that. But to say that men and women are no different when it comes to sex simply seems ignorant of reality to me.
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I do believe that women want sex just as much as men, and I say this because of my 7 closest girlfriends, 6 of them have been in relationships where there was a significant sexual incompatibility, namely that they wanted sex way more than their partners, eventually leading to the relationships disintegrating, while none of them have ever been outmatched. Perhaps I just randomly happen to know a lot of women with higher than average sex drives, but i don't think so. I think that the falacy that men are always ready to go, while women have lower libidos is super harmful, especially for men with low libidos who are made to feel like lesser men for not wanting it all the time, and for women with high libidos who have to repress it and don't feel free to do shit like attend orgies, even thought they might really want to, because women are judged harshly if they have lot's of meaningless sex. I'd love to go to an orgy, and have lot's of crazy sex with strangers, but in order to act on that I'd have to work really hard to overcome a lot of conditioning, saying that women who do that have no self-respect, and that no man would ever want to be partners with a woman who gives it up so easily. and in the end we all want to be loved, right?
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Think about the kind of porn guys like.
Now think about the kind of porn girls like.
You should now have your answer on why girls don't troll craigslist for random hookups.
Now think about the kind of porn girls like.
You should now have your answer on why girls don't troll craigslist for random hookups.
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Cory: The porn favored by the girls I know consists mainly of the guys from their favorite TV shows gettin' it on with each other. Which you are not going to find on Craigslist.
My personal experience of the differing libidos of straight men and women: straight women want lots of sex with the same man. Straight men want less sex with more women.
My personal experience of the differing libidos of straight men and women: straight women want lots of sex with the same man. Straight men want less sex with more women.
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HAHAHAHA
Well, I have some straight, married friends in the Denver area that belong to a swingers group, and they have told me that if they were to allow single men to attend it would be a total sausage fest, so they limit it to couples and/or single females.
So, I take it this is a reoccurring problem for swinger groups...
Well, I have some straight, married friends in the Denver area that belong to a swingers group, and they have told me that if they were to allow single men to attend it would be a total sausage fest, so they limit it to couples and/or single females.
So, I take it this is a reoccurring problem for swinger groups...
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@13: I don't think "lack of opportunity/desperation" is the same thing as "sexual openness." There are men who love sex, fuck a lot, but will sneer at particular types of women. I doubt anyone questions their libido.
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Dominic, It is no longer Commander Riker, he was promoted to Captian in the last movie. Do try to keep up.
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@13: Even if women do want sex as much/as often as men do, they usually won't show it that openly. Society, sexism, etc etc... women are still not supposed to be that sexual, they're often still taught from a young age that they're supposed to not want sex and be the gatekeepers for men - you know, "there's only one thing boys want", stuff like that. Obviously this isn't the 1800s anymore, women are much more comfortable and open, but it's pretty hard to find any woman who hasn't gotten quite a few messages about what they're 'supposed' to be like while growing up. Some get past that or ignore it, many don't.
So even if a woman does want to fuck a whole bunch of guys, there's a pretty good chance she'll feel like that's something she can't tell anyone about.
Basically, what sari said.
So even if a woman does want to fuck a whole bunch of guys, there's a pretty good chance she'll feel like that's something she can't tell anyone about.
Basically, what sari said.
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I'd say there are some women out there that will fuck about anything, but in comparison to the number of guys that do the same? Huge difference.
Women having the 'goodies' get to be a little more choosy about the guys she hooks up with, and can pretty much walk into a bar and yell, 'Free sex here, come and get it,' and she'll get an offer. A man doing that will get laughed at, or get some really undesirable results.
So yes there are some girls out there with zero morals. I know a few. They aren't super models, and they are completely psychotic. If they were in Seattle when this was going on, yeah, they'd probably be there.
Women having the 'goodies' get to be a little more choosy about the guys she hooks up with, and can pretty much walk into a bar and yell, 'Free sex here, come and get it,' and she'll get an offer. A man doing that will get laughed at, or get some really undesirable results.
So yes there are some girls out there with zero morals. I know a few. They aren't super models, and they are completely psychotic. If they were in Seattle when this was going on, yeah, they'd probably be there.
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Wanting sex and wanting to preserve one's dignity and safety are not mutually exclusive. Women have a keener understanding that bad sex or a bad partner could lead to a devastating encounter.
"You can't always get what you want, and if you try sometime, you get what you need."
"You can't always get what you want, and if you try sometime, you get what you need."
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Thanks for the bump, Dom. I hope to have 3 rooms of sexual delight for all of our yiffing friends.
This orgy will be better than last years, I promise.
This orgy will be better than last years, I promise.
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Geeks are my people...but sometimes...gawd. I mean it would be one thing if it were an orgy for anyone with any orientation, but no of course it's only for single women and straight couples willing to swing. These boys really need some exposure to the outside world.
Me and a squad of gaymers will do our best to queer up the convention a bit. Maybe next year I'll see if I can get any of the Sisters to go with us to do a little, ahem, outreach. I'm sure the cosplayers would love them.
Me and a squad of gaymers will do our best to queer up the convention a bit. Maybe next year I'll see if I can get any of the Sisters to go with us to do a little, ahem, outreach. I'm sure the cosplayers would love them.
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@20, actually, the last Star Trek movie rebooted continuity so that the "Next Generation" might have never happened. Oddly, it left the worst Trek series, "Enterprise" as the only one still in continuity.
Speaking of alternate histories, this Craigslist tragedy was only the second best Trek post yesterday. Warren Ellis posted an early casting list for "Next Generation" that shows that Paramount was testing Yaphet Kotto for Picard, Wesley Snipes as Geordi and Denise (Tasha Yar) Crosby as "the only choice" for Troi...
http://www.warrenellis.com/?p=10442
Also, anyone else working all Labor Day weekend because of PAX?
Speaking of alternate histories, this Craigslist tragedy was only the second best Trek post yesterday. Warren Ellis posted an early casting list for "Next Generation" that shows that Paramount was testing Yaphet Kotto for Picard, Wesley Snipes as Geordi and Denise (Tasha Yar) Crosby as "the only choice" for Troi...
http://www.warrenellis.com/?p=10442
Also, anyone else working all Labor Day weekend because of PAX?
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@28, you have a point, the last movie was the ULTIMATE "Kill Wesley Crusher" episodode EVER!!! :)
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@14 Spot on. Just because I don't reply to a craigslist calling to an orgy doesn't mean I don't have a high libido or wish to participate in an orgy. You mention social conditioning, which is a bit part of it, but there is also safety concerns. I do not feel SAFE fucking a bunch of strangers. But my vag would love to.
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@24 You said it better than I did :) Unfortunately I doubt people like @13 will ever understand that and attitudes like his will continue to prevent women from truly being sexually open.
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@32,
I would love women to be more sexually open and understand why they aren't, that's the whole reason I posed the question I made @13 in the first place.
I would love women to be more sexually open and understand why they aren't, that's the whole reason I posed the question I made @13 in the first place.
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@33 So do you change your stance that you "simply don't buy the idea that women want sex as much as men do?" And maybe realize that the person who is ignorant to reality is you?
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@18- I'd rather have a Ferengi at my orgy than Riker. Honest greed is much sexier than pompous self-importance.
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Don't be angry kersy. Everyone is ignorant until they start asking questions and exploring their surroundings.
Still, women wanting sex just as much as men do.... I don't know what the stats are. One would think that when a woman is in a relationship, she feels safe (usually) with the person she's with and thus have no qualms about avoiding sex due to safety. However, Dan has said frequently that one of the most common complaints he receives is from people in relationships where the men want sex more than the women. Sure, that's not proof, but it's something.
I have no doubt at all that lots of women out there want sex way more than men. But to say that ALL men and women, on average, both want sex an equal amount? I actually hope that's NOT true because if it is, I genuinely feel very sorry for women and the incredible frustration that would surely impose. Regardless, I wholeheartely agree that women everywhere should feel comfortable and safe and free and open about their sexuality.
Still, women wanting sex just as much as men do.... I don't know what the stats are. One would think that when a woman is in a relationship, she feels safe (usually) with the person she's with and thus have no qualms about avoiding sex due to safety. However, Dan has said frequently that one of the most common complaints he receives is from people in relationships where the men want sex more than the women. Sure, that's not proof, but it's something.
I have no doubt at all that lots of women out there want sex way more than men. But to say that ALL men and women, on average, both want sex an equal amount? I actually hope that's NOT true because if it is, I genuinely feel very sorry for women and the incredible frustration that would surely impose. Regardless, I wholeheartely agree that women everywhere should feel comfortable and safe and free and open about their sexuality.
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Feeling safe in your relationship does not undo a lifetime of sex shaming and restrictive gendered expectations of sexual context blasted upon us the moment we are deemed "female." Often times we don't feel frustration despite our libido because we don't think we deserve to be sexually satisfied. Or that it's even possible - sex in media is always shown as vaginal penetration which is not the majority way women cum. Few women know that because female sexuality is not openly talked about - all sex is through the male gaze and paradigm. Not to mention sex is very dangerous as it can lead to pregnancy. Pregnancy is not a romantic notion but a medically serious issue. We have to be very careful with it. In the days before (mostly) accessible abortion and bc, women would become practically chaste after so many kids as pregnancy would mean death.
These are some of the many many things you do not understand. I'm glad you're trying, but I'm angry that you are looking at it through a male pov. It isn't that men and women are different biologically when it comes to sexual desire, it's that we are treated and represented and need differently.
These are some of the many many things you do not understand. I'm glad you're trying, but I'm angry that you are looking at it through a male pov. It isn't that men and women are different biologically when it comes to sexual desire, it's that we are treated and represented and need differently.
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Well, the male pov is the only one I have... I can't look at it through your eyes because I haven't lived your life (that is to say, I haven't lived as a female). I can try to look at it from a woman's pov, but it wouldn't be accurate, which is why this entire topic is difficult to understand.
In any case, I certainly agree that women have been treated pretty poorly all throughout history, and it's wonderful that things are getting better (although the change is far too slow and there's still a long way to go). And yes, I agree I could have worded the last paragraph in my comment @13 better.
In any case, I certainly agree that women have been treated pretty poorly all throughout history, and it's wonderful that things are getting better (although the change is far too slow and there's still a long way to go). And yes, I agree I could have worded the last paragraph in my comment @13 better.
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Urgutha Forka, I'm a woman who has a way higher libido and/or is more open sexually than my boyfriend. It's hard to actually tell how sexual he is because he's kind of private about it. I know he watches porn but he won't divulge how often, and I can tell he's into sex with me, but I'm always the one who initiates it.
It's just a lot harder for me to orgasm with new guys. I honestly don't think it has to do with being less open. I have a high self esteem and am totally confident going into sex with new partners. It's just that a lot of guys really need to be told how to make you come, and not all guys are able to do it the first two or three times you have sex.
So I think that's one reason you'll find fewer women excited about having one-night-stand sex with totally strangers.
It's one thing to have a one night stand with a hot guy you've been flirting with at a club despite the fact that you might not end up having an orgasm. It's a complete other, way less desirable thing to go to a party full of people you haven't even seen yet to have sex where you might not orgasm. Most guys I've known can come easily. It's harder for women. Doesn't mean we don't want sex just as much. We just DO ultimately tend to want it with people who know what we like and how to do it.
It's just a lot harder for me to orgasm with new guys. I honestly don't think it has to do with being less open. I have a high self esteem and am totally confident going into sex with new partners. It's just that a lot of guys really need to be told how to make you come, and not all guys are able to do it the first two or three times you have sex.
So I think that's one reason you'll find fewer women excited about having one-night-stand sex with totally strangers.
It's one thing to have a one night stand with a hot guy you've been flirting with at a club despite the fact that you might not end up having an orgasm. It's a complete other, way less desirable thing to go to a party full of people you haven't even seen yet to have sex where you might not orgasm. Most guys I've known can come easily. It's harder for women. Doesn't mean we don't want sex just as much. We just DO ultimately tend to want it with people who know what we like and how to do it.
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If the male pov is all you have, then don't make assumptions about women!
Sorry if I'm coming off defensive or attacking, it's just super fucking frustrating. I'm really tired of being told how I am by men. Just the other day I was told by a coworker that base (sexual desire) for men is more than woman at their worst. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do more - stab him in the face or ask him if he also jerked off in the bathroom every other day at work as I did.
Sorry if I'm coming off defensive or attacking, it's just super fucking frustrating. I'm really tired of being told how I am by men. Just the other day I was told by a coworker that base (sexual desire) for men is more than woman at their worst. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do more - stab him in the face or ask him if he also jerked off in the bathroom every other day at work as I did.
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I heard about this last night from a friend but now it has been deleted, I'm a hot young female. I like dorky dudes in costumes, WTF???????
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I want lots of sex.
But I don't want to get pregnant.
Or an STD.
Or to be physically injured.
Or emotionally injured.
Or to have people think I'm a "slut."
And I don't want sex with people I don't find attractive.
So I'll skip the orgies with strangers, thank you very much.
But I don't want to get pregnant.
Or an STD.
Or to be physically injured.
Or emotionally injured.
Or to have people think I'm a "slut."
And I don't want sex with people I don't find attractive.
So I'll skip the orgies with strangers, thank you very much.
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