I'm a bi female who tends to lean a little more towards the guys than the girls. About a month ago, I went to a show at a local bar and struck up a conversation with a really funny, intelligent, captivating guy. This exchange really excited me since we seemed to have a very similar outlook on life, while most people in our town tend to be a little too conservative and/or right-wing minded for my preference. We spoke for about an hour and a half... and then he introduced me to his girlfriend (cue the music: wah, wah, waaaaah). At first I was disappointed (of course a guy this great would have a girlfriend already), but then I struck up a conversation with her, and she was just as great!

Fast forward two weeks: They bring me home with them for his birthday. After an amazing night he makes caramel apple pancakes for us all. Fast forward one more week: after becoming best friends with the girl, I find out that their relationship has gotten a little rocky over the past week. We all go to the same party, but he doesn't talk to her since he's currently upset with her. At the end of the night he goes home alone but first says to me, "Without saying too much, I really enjoyed seeing you tonight." Fast forward another week to the present day: she breaks up with him after he ignores her attempts to resolve their situation, and then calls the "friends rule" on me, saying that she doesn't even want me hanging out with him since he may come on to me and it would crush her if him and I started dating.

So now my question is, when there's a breakup in a menage a trois, who gets custody of the odd man (or woman) out?

Thank's so much for your input!

Bro Or Ho, Friend Or Foe

My response after the jump.

So... you've known this girl for a month and you're already best friends? That was fast.

I don't put much stock in the "friends rule" generally, BOHFOF, and I certainly don't think you're obligated to observe it under these circumstances. If dating this guy—and the possibility of a future with him—is worth sacrificing four week's worth of best friendship, then date him. If it's not, don't.