You once wrote that you're glad you've been partnered for so long because you never had to deal with the nightmare of online dating. So I understand why you're so clueless about it. But you were dead wrong when you said it's OK to lie to people on Craigslist to get your rocks off. And your absurd, cavalier exaggeration that only 0.02% of people on CL are for real excusing deliberate deception is even more wrong.

I'm 40, gay and kinky. Meeting compatible guys and—dare I hope someday?—a boyfriend is hard. So I use CL. I go in knowing there are liars, scammers and flakes. So I've developed a decent bullshit detector. But I'm pretty trusting and I want to take people at face value so I get fooled from time to time. It's bad enough when real guys say they're interested in me then flake because really they just wanted to beat off to the idea of me. But let me tell you Dan, when a liar cons you into wasting hours and gets you excited for days about maybe meeting someone, only to vanish after you discover his photos were all stolen... IT FUCKING SUCKS. I try not let the disappointment turn me into a cynic. In the mean time I've had plenty of sexy adventures with guys from CL who most definitely are for real, are sincere, and don't deserve to get jerked around any more than I do. I keep putting myself out there and hoping for that one special guy who makes me want to log off forever. Your ill informed advice will make it even harder.

Jerking people around for your selfish sexual pleasure is no more OK online than it is in the real world.

I'm For Real On CL