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Monday, November 2, 2009

"Dad let me upload this :D"

Posted by on Mon, Nov 2, 2009 at 10:40 AM

"Our 14-year-old son Elliott debuted as Lady Gaga in West Hollywood for Halloween," writes Slog tipper Miss Poppy. "His father accompanied him, dressed as his body guard. Elliott drew a crowd as he lip-synched and danced to Lady Gaga's music. He was ecstatic." Miss Poppy sent along a link to this YouTube montage of photos of Elliott...

A few more details from Miss Poppy: "Elliott is a middle-school student in Los Angeles, and a distance runner on his track team. He has been out for two years. Devoted mother that I am, I made his costume and helped him with his makeup."

This boy has been out to his family since age 12 and when he wanted to go out in drag on Halloween and his mother made his costume and his dad took him to West Hollywood. There's just one comment on the post at YouTube right now and it's from Elliott: "Dad let me upload this :D"

His dad let him post this video to YouTube.

You know, whatever happens in Maine and here in Washington state tomorrow, where marriage equality and domestic partnerships are on the line respectively, we can all take comfort in something as seemingly trivial as a 14-year-old boy's night out in West Hollywood with his folks. I've said it before and I'll say it again: We are winning—despite the setbacks—because our families are on side now. It's almost impossible to imagine an openly gay 14-year-old twenty years ago, much less an openly gay 14-year-old with parents like Miss Poppy and her husband. Moms and dads like Elliott's—parents who aren't ashamed of their gay children, parents who love and support their gay children for who they are, parents who want their gay children to be safe and happy and treated equally—used to be the exception. Not anymore.

We are winning.


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Fenrox 1
Jesus! That kid is 14? I have no idea what children look like at any age anymore. I would google it but im afraid of looking like a pedo.
Posted by Fenrox on November 2, 2009 at 10:48 AM · Report this
Robin Sparkles 2
I saw that kid on Saturday!! Those are some great, supportive parents he has.
Posted by Robin Sparkles on November 2, 2009 at 10:49 AM · Report this
attitude devant 3
This next generation is really amazing. The teens I work with, gay or straight, can't even begin to imagine why someone would deny marriage equality to gays.
Posted by attitude devant on November 2, 2009 at 10:51 AM · Report this
very bad homo 4
Those parents are amazing. This never could have happened when I was 14.
Posted by very bad homo on November 2, 2009 at 10:52 AM · Report this
keshmeshi 5

I think he's unusually grown up looking (and tall) for a 14-year-old guy, but everyone's different.
Posted by keshmeshi on November 2, 2009 at 11:00 AM · Report this
Vince 6
Hooray for us all!
Posted by Vince on November 2, 2009 at 11:01 AM · Report this
Flippin' awesome.
Posted by gloomy gus on November 2, 2009 at 11:03 AM · Report this
You are absolutely right - the culture really has changed and this story is very encouraging. Nice to see some *positivity* from you for a change! There really is reason to be positive about gay rights these days and to have hope about changes to come.
Posted by Confluence on November 2, 2009 at 11:03 AM · Report this
JF 9
I find him more attractive than the actual Lady Gaga.
Posted by JF on November 2, 2009 at 11:05 AM · Report this
I think this level of enthusiasm from parents is still a bit unusually high, but it's still good to see.
Posted by laurelgardner on November 2, 2009 at 11:08 AM · Report this
Baconcat 11
Raise your hand if you were at any party where more than one person was dressed as Lady Gaga. Bonus points if you saw more than two.

Kid gets points for bravery, loses points for originality.

Posted by Baconcat on November 2, 2009 at 11:11 AM · Report this
Michael of the Green 13
So beautiful.
Posted by Michael of the Green on November 2, 2009 at 11:16 AM · Report this
Tina 15
What an amazing and wonderful family!!! We should all be so lucky to have parents that supportive or children that happy and secure with themselves! Way to go Spitz Family, you made my morning!
Posted by Tina on November 2, 2009 at 11:21 AM · Report this
singing cynic 16
Yeah, @12. Seeing a teenager who is proud of who he is, whose parents love & support him, & who isn't full of repression & self loathing is obviously evidence of society going down the toilet.

I'd take "depravity" like that over violence & emotional abuse masquerading as "moral guidance" any day of the week. And most other sane people would too.
Posted by singing cynic on November 2, 2009 at 11:24 AM · Report this
Matt from Denver 18
Poor troll @ 12. If I thought the perfectly natural state of being gay was "perverse," I'd be a confused wreck of a human being like you, LC, and all homophobes. Denying reality will kill you by the time you're 50. Accepting reality - that differing sexual orientations are as the Creator intended, and part of the Divine Plan - will make you a happier and healthier person.
Posted by Matt from Denver on November 2, 2009 at 11:32 AM · Report this

Well said.
Posted by Confluence on November 2, 2009 at 11:34 AM · Report this
Womyn2me 21
after being informed by my much more hip GF who Lady Gaga is, I must applaud Elliot for his cojones, his dad for his righteous bodyguard outfit even though he doesnt look a thing like Kevin Cosner and Elliot's Mom for her mad costuming skillz
(the hip GF says all the kids are using z instead of s these days.)
Posted by Womyn2me http://http:\\ on November 2, 2009 at 11:36 AM · Report this
Mattini 22
I think he looks so tall partly because of the giant awesome platform boots.

Good for this kid and his family.
Posted by Mattini on November 2, 2009 at 11:39 AM · Report this
I love that his dad dressed as his bodyguard. XD

Awesome parents, not just that they support and love him as he is, but also for allowing supervised fun.
Posted by blah on November 2, 2009 at 11:55 AM · Report this
JF 26
@21, ya but you have to be from the streetz to use it.
Posted by JF on November 2, 2009 at 11:59 AM · Report this
I think I'm gonna cry. That's awesome.
Posted by BillRo on November 2, 2009 at 11:59 AM · Report this
Toasterhedgehog 28
@12 This attitude has always fascinated me.

To Right Wing Christians, it's not moral decline to invade foreign countries casually and cheerfully, and spend hundreds of thousands of lives for no good reason. It's not moral decline to allow thousands of poor people to die every year because the richest country in the world can't be bothered to pay for their health care. It's not moral decline to them to torture innocent human beings in horrific prisons. It's not moral decay to them to bankrupt your country with socialism for billionaires.

To them, moral decay is people that would be gay anyway being allowed the same freedoms as they are.

They can't prove any causal effect between any negative consequences and gay rights while in the real world actual horrible immoral acts are being perpetrated in their name and with their approval. How did they get it so backward?

Posted by Toasterhedgehog on November 2, 2009 at 12:05 PM · Report this
runswithnailclippers 29
they must not have seen this:…
Posted by runswithnailclippers on November 2, 2009 at 12:13 PM · Report this
@30 is has hit the nail on the head.
Posted by kmac on November 2, 2009 at 12:26 PM · Report this
I wish I could have been that happy at 14. Kudos to his parents!
Posted by Schweighsr on November 2, 2009 at 12:29 PM · Report this
There's only two photos of dad in the entire video! I guess he was taking the pictures.

Elliot should know that by being sensible and kind, his parents have earned the right to pry about boyfriends, be difficult about visits and phone calls, ask everyone you bring home (even the first time) incessantly about whether they want grandchildren, comment frequently on what a wonderful father you'd be if ONLY you'd settle down, and be horrendously frank about career choices, etc.

Also, if you do have kids, your parents now have the right to embarrass the shit out of you by whipping out these photos unannounced.

Parents have rights too! Go for it Mom and Dad.
Posted by Yeek on November 2, 2009 at 12:44 PM · Report this
And, Elliot, might I add that you are also obliged to someday indulge your parents to some wonderful extravagance that makes no sense but is immensely fun.
Posted by Yeek on November 2, 2009 at 12:49 PM · Report this
This is awesome. The Phelps Family of Hate is picketing in my area today, so seeing this video has made my day. Way to go, Elliott and Elliott's family!
Posted by keeper on November 2, 2009 at 1:06 PM · Report this
This is so heartwarming!

Elliot is so lucky to have parents that can let him be who he is and let him have fun, and yet also be involved enough with his life to make sure that he is safe and supervised. Way too often it seems to be one or the other. I am super glad that at least some parents can have it both ways.
Posted by ricaroo on November 2, 2009 at 1:28 PM · Report this
kim in portland 37
Woot!! This is heartwarming!
Posted by kim in portland on November 2, 2009 at 1:33 PM · Report this
As the lesbian mom of a 13-year-old boy, this story just lit up my day! Every parent should as supportive as his are. What an amazing way to help their son find a safe path into his future community's culture. At 14, he could be sneaking out at night, pretending to be older, and facing potential harm. Their support is so compassionate & reasonable. Way to parent!
Posted by Geek Porn Girl on November 2, 2009 at 1:42 PM · Report this
reverend dr dj riz 40
i wish my dad was happy about me being gay..he's dead now.. but he was never happy about me being anything. ever.
Posted by reverend dr dj riz on November 2, 2009 at 1:45 PM · Report this
kim in portland 41
I'm sorry, Riz. I feel blessed to read you. Thank you for being here.
Posted by kim in portland on November 2, 2009 at 1:52 PM · Report this
Fifty-Two-Eighty 42
Join the club, Riz. No, I'm not gay, but I could never do anything right by my dad either. What a fucking asshole.

Planted him five years ago. I suppose he's feeding the worms by now. At least he was good for something.
Posted by Fifty-Two-Eighty on November 2, 2009 at 2:01 PM · Report this
This SO made my day! In a world where the Religious Right seeks to implement weirdly backward ideals as @28 so spot-on put it, it's nice to see parents who support their kids and who are engaged with their kids. What an amazing example they set for all parents, gay or straight!

Posted by JB in Silver Lake on November 2, 2009 at 2:16 PM · Report this
singing cynic 45
I really think that the earlier kids can come out, the more well-adjusted they become -- and, ultimately, the less risky behavior they engage in sexually as teens & adults. My brother came out at fourteen and it changed him for the better in every way.

In fact, being comfortable with your sexuality at an early age is good when you're straight, too. The less shame you feel about sex, the more ownership you take over your body & your behavior... and the more likely you are to make smart choices.

It's repression that really leads to AIDS.
Posted by singing cynic on November 2, 2009 at 2:43 PM · Report this

It's okay because you're an awesome DJ, so you win now. Parents can really fuck us up if we let them. I got dealt a lousy mom, but I'm overcoming it and you can too.
Posted by Confluence on November 2, 2009 at 3:07 PM · Report this
Miss Poppy and her husband have also done THEMSELVES a favor by being able to accept the truth and stand beside their son. It can't be easy for a dad to give up those "masculine dreams" of the uber-jock mega-stud son (and yes, I know Elliot is a jock, but not in the classic NFL sort of macho way), and it's probably tough for a mom to put aside her own happy stereotypes about prom night, blah blah blah.

But by doing the hard work and coming to terms with the truth, early, they've greatly enriched their son's life and their own. How many gay men are open with their parents about who they're dating, what they want out of life, or even what they did last weekend? How many parents are too uncomfortable to even ask? Or too petrified to give advice or even criticism? By being close with their son and truly knowing him, they are having a more positive influence on him than they will ever know. His odds of being a happy, decent adult have skyrocketed. And since that's what good parents want, they are much more likely to be happy as well.
Posted by Yeek on November 2, 2009 at 3:08 PM · Report this
Cory 53
Aww, I want a gay son!
Posted by Cory on November 2, 2009 at 9:46 PM · Report this
That's so awesome! What incredible parents he has!
Posted by hlr on November 2, 2009 at 11:16 PM · Report this
Mrs. Norris 55
Why not emigrate to Jamaica, Russia, or Nigeria, where more people share your "values?"
Posted by Mrs. Norris on November 2, 2009 at 11:22 PM · Report this
Lanis01 56
That kid is 14?! I guess it's the makeup...

He really does have aweome parents, truely awesome and supportive parents. I just have to wonder about where he's at in those photos - there's an awful lot of men in drag around him o_0
Posted by Lanis01 on November 3, 2009 at 1:07 AM · Report this
MichaelPgh 57
How cool! We have lived long enough to see this.

Oh, and suck it, haters.
Posted by MichaelPgh on November 3, 2009 at 1:54 AM · Report this
Posted by Gray Coyote on November 3, 2009 at 4:38 AM · Report this
Yeah, but he has a mother and a father. That's why he turned out so great.

Posted by Sili on November 3, 2009 at 5:15 AM · Report this
Rob in Baltimore 60
This is a kid who will grow up, not feeling ashamed. He most likely won't suffer from depression, or try to commit suicide. He won't have to try to hide his sexuality, and he'll feel free to actually have boyfriends, rather than covert sexual encounters. He'll see his own life as something worth protecting, and his sexual activity will reflect that self worth. And all of this will be because he's got parents who accept him, and love him.
Posted by Rob in Baltimore on November 3, 2009 at 5:30 AM · Report this
Bruce Garrett 64
Gay or straight taking a 14-year old kid out for a night in West Hollywood is a terrible idea

That's why dad went along...dressed as Lady Gaga's bodyguard, which I thought was the very best part of all this. He's chaperoning, but in a clever way that plays along with his kid's costume and at the same time sends a message to anyone who might try to take advantage of the kid that dad is watching. That was beautiful parenting.

Posted by Bruce Garrett on November 3, 2009 at 9:26 AM · Report this
Yes, we are winning! Big hugs to this family!

My son came out to us a few years ago and then last year, during spirit week at his school, he entered the pagent dressed in drag.

We wanted to go see him perform, but he asked us to not come because "other parents don't go to this and you guys would be the only parents there and that's not cool."

By the way, we live in Texas.
Posted by Sailoreic on November 3, 2009 at 11:34 AM · Report this
singing cynic 67
@60 - way to articulate it more clearly than I did.
Posted by singing cynic on November 3, 2009 at 12:48 PM · Report this
Chris in Vancouver WA 68
@ 65 - We wanted to go see him perform, but he asked us to not come because "other parents don't go to this and you guys would be the only parents there and that's not cool."

Gay or straight, it's still not OK to make your kid look like a dork at school! I love it!
Posted by Chris in Vancouver WA on November 3, 2009 at 4:09 PM · Report this
MikeC in YF 70
"The New Normal"?
Posted by MikeC in YF on November 3, 2009 at 6:25 PM · Report this
Rev.Smith 71
Hey look, Gay = happy again. *swoon*

bout fawkin time.
Posted by Rev.Smith on November 4, 2009 at 1:11 AM · Report this
@45 Spot on. It has been proven over and over again that families and communities that push abstinence and repression with sex and sexuality, have much higher instances of teenage pregnancy, abortion, and STDs. Kids who feel guilty about sex will still have sex, but in a dangerous, unprotected manner.
Posted by kersy on November 5, 2009 at 2:48 PM · Report this

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