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Savage Love University of South Carolina - Columbia
Posted by Dan Savage on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 at 9:19 PM
Some of the questions asked by USC students tonight...
What are your chances of getting pregnant if you have unprotected sex 5 days after your period?
How do you ask a guy out without sounding desperate?
How do you finger a girl?
I'm in a fulfilling friends-with-benefits situation with a male friend. Any pointers on how to keep it up without making a commitment?
Is it normal to masturbate three times a day?
Even with penetration I cannot reach an orgasm. I only climax with clitoral stimulation. Why is that?
I think vaginas look like two floppy strips of bacon. What do you think they look like?
What's the procedure if you find out you're pregnant after an orgy and have no idea who the father is?
Do you think there might be something psycho-sexual about thousands of guys and girls screaming "COCKS!" on a regular basis? Just wondering.
Some of my answers: high enough that you might wanna keep a few dozen morning-after pills in a candy dish by your bed; without hesitation because desperation is unattractive and people perceive desperation in hesitation; with great reluctance; but you've made a commitment to him already, i.e., you've committed to not becoming too attached, as this is a friends-with-benefits situation; hope so; because you're normal; canned hams dropped from great heights; it used to be "dilation and evacuation" but now it's RU-486; nope.
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Man, you get points for answering all those questions, Dan. Thanks for the laugh, people make me smile.
I do believe it's RU-486, too.
I do believe it's RU-486, too.
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Dan, have you ever actually SEEN a canned ham dropped from great heights? And if so, why?
(Note: Not that it truly matters... who gives a shit what a pussy or cock looks like as long as you want to suck or fuck it... but still, have you ever actually seen what a dropped canned ham looks like? Just wondering... I haven't seen it, who would?)
(Note: Not that it truly matters... who gives a shit what a pussy or cock looks like as long as you want to suck or fuck it... but still, have you ever actually seen what a dropped canned ham looks like? Just wondering... I haven't seen it, who would?)
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How do you finger a girl?
With permission. Also, with clean, well-manicured hands. Start gently, and ask for directions.
Seriously. Every girl is different and knows her body better than you do.
With permission. Also, with clean, well-manicured hands. Start gently, and ask for directions.
Seriously. Every girl is different and knows her body better than you do.
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Man, if I'd known you were in Columbia, I'd have asked you to help me get my ueber-lib friends out of there.
You'd have said no, but I'd have asked. They want to get out of there too. One works at USC, so she could have gotten in to your event, if she didn't already.
You'd have said no, but I'd have asked. They want to get out of there too. One works at USC, so she could have gotten in to your event, if she didn't already.
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"Do you think there might be something psycho-sexual about thousands and guys and girls screaming "COCKS!" on a regular basis?"
Thousands of?
Thousands of?
10
It's labia that look like strips of bacon. Vaginas look like inside-out vinyl handbags. In the dark.
Also, how do you finger a girl?! Not at all, unless you want to be arrested for child molesting.
Also, how do you finger a girl?! Not at all, unless you want to be arrested for child molesting.
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Go Cocks!
We need a team that can be nicknamed Pussy. Or some similar slang term for female genitalia.
Maybe a roller derby team.
We need a team that can be nicknamed Pussy. Or some similar slang term for female genitalia.
Maybe a roller derby team.
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FeralTurnip, when I was a teen, any woman, no matter how familiar, was called a woman, and any girl, tweens or older that could make a gallant showing indicative of a bust-line was called a young woman, given the term girl was considered demeaning by the feminist movement at the time.
Somewhere in the '90s that all changed. Now, in familiar parlance (i.e. family of nearly the same generation, good friends, paramours or significant others) the term girl is better received since it implies eligibility.
I think woman, as a term of respect, is associated with co-workers whom you do not proposition anymore for fear of sexual harassment allegations. But female friends of mine expressively prefer being called girls to women, regardless of whether we cuddle on occasion.
That said, anyone who I might consider fingering would be a girl, and while I'm fingering her, she's my girl.
And yes, as perverse as it may be, she may even be calling me daddy. But that's because we're a freaky bunch, not because a peach was picked before it was ripe (to coin a metaphor).
Somewhere in the '90s that all changed. Now, in familiar parlance (i.e. family of nearly the same generation, good friends, paramours or significant others) the term girl is better received since it implies eligibility.
I think woman, as a term of respect, is associated with co-workers whom you do not proposition anymore for fear of sexual harassment allegations. But female friends of mine expressively prefer being called girls to women, regardless of whether we cuddle on occasion.
That said, anyone who I might consider fingering would be a girl, and while I'm fingering her, she's my girl.
And yes, as perverse as it may be, she may even be calling me daddy. But that's because we're a freaky bunch, not because a peach was picked before it was ripe (to coin a metaphor).
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@14: I, overall, prefer "lady." My man can call me his lady. A stranger can call me a lady. I call all my female friends and co-workers "ladies."
"Girls" I always thought sounded a little condescending. Also, it's a terrible euphemism for my breasts -- possibly worse than "twins."
(In bed? He still calls me his "woman.")
"Girls" I always thought sounded a little condescending. Also, it's a terrible euphemism for my breasts -- possibly worse than "twins."
(In bed? He still calls me his "woman.")
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As with fingering, check with your partner for preferred terms of endearment or identification. As for the rest of the world, you're always going to piss some of them off no matter what word or finger you use. There are more important things to worry about.
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It's best to start with hugs and kisses before moving on to fingering, but that's just my opinion.
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