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Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Savage Love Savage Love Letter of the Day

Posted by Dan Savage on Tue, Jul 14, 2009 at 3:30 PM

Regarding the latest Savage Lovecast: as always, great show. But I wanted to comment on the girl whose boyfriend loved blowjobs. He needed an hour to recover, which meant she didn't get off. My experience is that most woman can come in far less than an hour with the right combination of oral and manual stimulation. Maybe she should get him a couple of toys and stop suffering?

I also wanted to say that anyone who writes you wanting to be a sex columnist should be forced to listen to that call from the guy with a jizz-eating dog. Ahh, the glamor...

Drew

Thanks, Drew—I'd almost forgotten about the jizz-eating dog. Now it's all coming back to me. Ugh.

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An hour? 10 maybe 15 minutes, but an hour?

He's yanking your chain. He's just about himself and doesn't want to reciprocate cause he's selfish.

Posted by Will in Seattle

on July 14, 2009 at 3:44 PM

Yeah that call bothered me a lot too. It's like...girl, just rub yourself while you're going down on him or get him to eat you out after he finishes. Sex doesn't have to stop when he does!

Posted by Rzep on July 14, 2009 at 4:01 PM

Sit Ubu, sit!

Posted by The Amazing Jim

on July 14, 2009 at 4:21 PM

wait, so all he can do is lay there for an hour? most men need some time to recharge their boners, but i, for one, can get my tongue moving less than 30 seconds after i've come, and i suspect this guy could too.

Posted by douglas on July 14, 2009 at 4:24 PM

Please tell me the caller was really young and, thus, naive. Because that's just pathetic.

Posted by keshmeshi on July 14, 2009 at 4:28 PM

That's the one thing I don't miss about the straight world...the assumption that sex is over when the male ejaculates. I see it in movies/books, too. It's a strange cultural phenomenon, and I appreciate Dan's work in educating the folk who need it.

Posted by Tizzle on July 14, 2009 at 4:40 PM

my lady has typically come once or twice (at least once) by the time i come, so she thinks sex is over, too.

Posted by Max Solomon on July 14, 2009 at 4:47 PM

I think he's yanking her chain, too. And, the dog thing was sick.

Posted by kim in portland

on July 14, 2009 at 4:49 PM

@4 - he's definitely not motivated.

Dump his ass.

Posted by Will in Seattle

on July 14, 2009 at 4:50 PM

uh, penetration, folks. some women really like it.

Posted by onion on July 14, 2009 at 5:37 PM

It sounds like this guy could benefit from several weeks or months of being girlfriend-less and jerking off alone in his room. That way he'll get all the alone time with his dick he needs.

Posted by yucca flower on July 14, 2009 at 6:04 PM

10: Sure, I dig it, too. But I'm also single AND can get penetrated re: dildo. Heck, fingers'll to the trick, even. Dude's just being a douche making her wait. Heck, how about fucking her first, then getting a blow job. Or get sucked off and NOT ejaculating before fucking her.

Way too many options for his sorry excuse. DTMFA.

Posted by blah on July 14, 2009 at 6:18 PM

Nah, women are just cum buckets for men's pleasure./s

Posted by stevema14420

on July 14, 2009 at 6:21 PM

Dan, I'm in the middle of listening to the current SavageCast, an' I had to stop, because I WAS LAUGHING SO GODDAMNED HARD I WAS CRYING!! No shit! Your response to the cum-eating-dog guy was absolutely-no-bullshit FUCKING HILARIOUS!! Thank you! Best wishes, and keep up the great job. I'm going back to the 'Cast now. From northwest PA, I'm...

Posted by Timmytee on July 14, 2009 at 6:52 PM

Thanks, Drew—I'd almost forgotten about the jizz-eating dog. Now it's all coming back to me.

*RIMJOB*

I mean

*RIMSHOT*

Posted by Gomez

on July 14, 2009 at 9:28 PM

The is the first time in ages I've actually laughed my ass off during the Lovecast.

Posted by UNDE on July 15, 2009 at 12:10 AM

As a general rule, I try to make sure my gal has an orgasm or two before her lips (or her mouth) even get to my dick. Hands, mouth, vibrator, dick- whatever it takes to make sure she gets hers.

Posted by memorex on July 15, 2009 at 2:44 AM

It looks like almost everyone, Savage included, is forgetting the caller's comment that its not to easy for her to come. It was a short sentence and very vague but if she's anything like a lot of girls out there, the advice being given isn't worth anything since she has very specific needs when it comes to enjoying herself.

Posted by Trippwire on July 15, 2009 at 11:22 AM