Thursday, July 2, 2009
At Large Summer In The City
Posted by Dan Savage on Thu, Jul 2, 2009 at 2:40 PM
This guy gave an amazing and impromptu performance in Westlake Park yesterday. He's visiting Seattle from Ireland with a few of his soccer-mad buddies. He and his friends weren't officially busking—they briefly set out a hat—but he did let me give him money for a beer after he entertained me and my kid for nearly an hour while we waited for the boyfriend.
Talking to him I got the impression that he's straight. So ladies? There's an impossibly handsome Asian dude—excuse me: there's an impossible handsome Irish dude of Asian ancestry—with a beautiful smile and an amazing body and an Irish accent (swoon) running around Seattle for at least another week. Go get him.
A few more pictures after the jump.
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You were probably trying to find out if he'd be into cheating with you on your ~husband~ aka your "open relationship" with Terry when you found out that he is straight.
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Asian plus Irish accent? Are you sure he's not gay? Cause if he's even curious, I'm totally hunting him down and dragging him to bed.
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You are so fucking CREEPY, Dan. Does he know that you're posting this shit online? God you're a loser.
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Yes, I totally tried to pick him up—in front of my kid and everything. That's how it's done.
It's possible to note that someone is handsome, appreciate his skills with a soccer ball, and answer his questions—he asked me if he needed a license to busk in the park—without making a pass at him.
But, yeah, I reserve the right to post whatever the fuck I like to my blog. And if I know Irish boys—and I do—if this post gets him laid he'll be thanking me.
It's possible to note that someone is handsome, appreciate his skills with a soccer ball, and answer his questions—he asked me if he needed a license to busk in the park—without making a pass at him.
But, yeah, I reserve the right to post whatever the fuck I like to my blog. And if I know Irish boys—and I do—if this post gets him laid he'll be thanking me.
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You can post whatever you want, but we can still call you out for your moronic tendencies. I feel so, so bad for your kid and boyfriend. What a terrible role model. You are an old, creepy, loser with no sense of privacy or integrity.
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My comment @2 comes of a little snarky now that there's more pics in this post. Anyways, the additional pics better show his hotness, which has led me to not care so much what his exact talent was....
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@7 Dan, I don't know if you're aware, but at the top of the comments there's a button you can click to turn off unregistered comments. Save you the time of reading and responding to comments like @3, 5, 6 and 8.
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So when you cheat on your kid's other dad, with Terry's permission, that's usually behind DJ's back, as opposed to "in front of him", yeah?
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Oh Dan... us straight girls totally appreciate you hunting down hot heterosexual Seattle guys (or visitors), even if it's just to stare.
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Dan, I love you, but why do you even engage with the troll(s)? You don't need to defend or explain yourself to a few annoying, smug, and willfully obtuse Beliefnet peons, or whoever they are.
The dude is yummy. Alas, I am on the other side of the country. Any chance he'll turn up in Park Slope?
The dude is yummy. Alas, I am on the other side of the country. Any chance he'll turn up in Park Slope?
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Terry must either be the strongest guy on earth or the biggest doormat on earth not to internalize you digging up guys you think are hot and posting pictures for the intertnetz. How humiliating. And, admittedly, in front of your guys' kid no less.
I champion progressiveness, but there must be a psychological immunity to humiliation and suspicion there that most relational partners can never dream of achieving.
Wow!
I champion progressiveness, but there must be a psychological immunity to humiliation and suspicion there that most relational partners can never dream of achieving.
Wow!
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Hey trolls -- remember, one of the benefits of being gay and in a relationship (open or not, doesn't matter) is your S.O. can point out hot people to you.
One of the benefits of being in a HEALTHY relationship (straight, gay, open, whatever) is that you don't care if your S.O. looks at someone hot.
One of the benefits of being in a HEALTHY relationship (straight, gay, open, whatever) is that you don't care if your S.O. looks at someone hot.
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Dan again proves it's possible to call a man attractive without making a pass at him, something a lot of straight folks and creepy co-dependent gays are too insecure and untrustworthy to do.
"Do you think she's pretty? Well? Do you? Answer me, do you think she's pretty? OH GOD, YOU DO, DON'T YOU? BAWWWWWW! YOUR NON-EXISTENT LUST FOR THIS PERSON CUTS ME TO THE BONE!"
"Do you think she's pretty? Well? Do you? Answer me, do you think she's pretty? OH GOD, YOU DO, DON'T YOU? BAWWWWWW! YOUR NON-EXISTENT LUST FOR THIS PERSON CUTS ME TO THE BONE!"
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@10: thanks! I never noticed that before. Now I can read SLOG without getting all pissed off (or I can click the button again when I want to be pissed off...it happens)
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so many douchetards, so little time...why am i guessing that the majority of the troglodites on here giving Dan a hard time for admiring an attractive man are either single, straight, ugly or some combination of the three? One of the many advantages of This Big Gay Life is that us same-sexers get the fun of admiring other men we find attractive. It doesn't mean we're wanting to "cheat" it just means we enjoy looking at things we aren't in the market to acquire...sadly, opposite sex couples don't have the same opportunity, unless they're very openminded and/or free of dumb hangups and jealousies.
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@20 If you are in a relationship where your partner commenting that someone else is attractive is "humiliating", then you are in a bad relationship.
If your conception of being in a relationship is that no one can ever comment about the attractiveness of others, then you are just stupid.
If your conception of being in a relationship is that no one can ever comment about the attractiveness of others, then you are just stupid.
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It's just amusing because some prance around like they are immune to the HUMAN PSYCHOLOGICAL DISPOSI5ION to be greedy, protective, nurturing, guardians of stability.
To ignore it is only to bury it under tons of denial and pride.
But go ahead and do your thing.
I don't say this as a right winger [I am lib]. I say this as somebody who is schooled on volumes of interpersonal relationship research.
Good luck with your poly. But I can assure you, it is only a matter of time.
Anybody who vouches for this lifestyle vouches for it in a matter of idealism, not in a matter of practice.
awww
To ignore it is only to bury it under tons of denial and pride.
But go ahead and do your thing.
I don't say this as a right winger [I am lib]. I say this as somebody who is schooled on volumes of interpersonal relationship research.
Good luck with your poly. But I can assure you, it is only a matter of time.
Anybody who vouches for this lifestyle vouches for it in a matter of idealism, not in a matter of practice.
awww
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@23
Don't kid yourself -- if Dan's gaydar picked up that dude was gay, he'd be all over that. He ain't no hero. That being said, if he wants to post a photo of a hot guy he met on his blog, fine. Might be kinda creepy though for the guy if he found out that some dude he casually chatted with turned out to be a gay American sex columnist who ended up posting his pics online, gushing all over him.
Don't kid yourself -- if Dan's gaydar picked up that dude was gay, he'd be all over that. He ain't no hero. That being said, if he wants to post a photo of a hot guy he met on his blog, fine. Might be kinda creepy though for the guy if he found out that some dude he casually chatted with turned out to be a gay American sex columnist who ended up posting his pics online, gushing all over him.
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I can only speak for myself, but I notice beautiful humans, just like I notice a beautiful sunset, dog, guitar, rose, hummingbird, lily, autumn foliage, sunrise, etc. The world is a surprisingly beautiful place when you take time to notice. And, it all makes me smile.
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Kim, you are lying to yourself if you truly believe that your husband would take it in stride if you featured on your blog the images of another man you considered to be beautiful.
You're saying that he, unlike 99% of the men on Earth, would not develop a complex that his seemingly very attractive wife (the guitar, really?!) relished some other dude?
Would you put pictures of another guy on Soulfource? would you?
f your husband did not feel resentment, pangs of inferiority, or questions of your taste, I truly hope he gets off on watching you fuck other guys, being the cuckold that he is.
You're saying that he, unlike 99% of the men on Earth, would not develop a complex that his seemingly very attractive wife (the guitar, really?!) relished some other dude?
Would you put pictures of another guy on Soulfource? would you?
f your husband did not feel resentment, pangs of inferiority, or questions of your taste, I truly hope he gets off on watching you fuck other guys, being the cuckold that he is.
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Uh.. Dan? And other commentors? I don't think those are really trolls. I think that's just one guy who is obsessed with Terry, or the idea of Terry. Not to be paranoid, or anything, but it sounds like someone has a crush on Terry and I would keep track of any weird incidents to make sure it doesn't lean towards stalkerish behavior.
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Nope Alisun, sorry, I know Terry only by reference and would really rather not obsess over the damaged goods that is Dan's permissive wifey.
In fact, I don't know who else is commenting other than myself, #12, but if it helps you negotiate this topic by attributing all dissent to one person, so be it.
In fact, I don't know who else is commenting other than myself, #12, but if it helps you negotiate this topic by attributing all dissent to one person, so be it.
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Officially potentially better than that Churchnut HaterHottie.
I'm having the hardest time imagining an Irish accent from an Asian Irishman, though... . That would be fascinating. He should work just that for all it's worth.
I'm having the hardest time imagining an Irish accent from an Asian Irishman, though... . That would be fascinating. He should work just that for all it's worth.
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Whoa, psycho-troll.... Why is anyone else's personal life your business, let alone their FEELINGS of jealousy or security? Are you seriously saying that if someone doesn't feel secure enough to recognize that there are other attractive people in the world, that there's something wrong with them?
If that's the case, seriously doubt that your "volumes of research" are sound -- more likely your "volumes of research" include your own diaries & self-pitying hating.
And by the way -- it's not "cheating" if both partners agree to it. Cheating is about deception.
P.S. I am monogamous, always have been. I've been cheated on (much like it seems you have) and I am currently married and in a completely "closed" relationship. I am in no way poly, because it would never work for me -- but that doesn't mean it can't work for other people! The point is, troll, IT'S NONE OF OUR BUSINESS. You and YOUR partner are your business. Me and MY parter are mine.
THE END.
If that's the case, seriously doubt that your "volumes of research" are sound -- more likely your "volumes of research" include your own diaries & self-pitying hating.
And by the way -- it's not "cheating" if both partners agree to it. Cheating is about deception.
P.S. I am monogamous, always have been. I've been cheated on (much like it seems you have) and I am currently married and in a completely "closed" relationship. I am in no way poly, because it would never work for me -- but that doesn't mean it can't work for other people! The point is, troll, IT'S NONE OF OUR BUSINESS. You and YOUR partner are your business. Me and MY parter are mine.
THE END.
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Irish guys are so hot. Thank for the eye candy, and I hope he has a good time during his visit. I'll have to send this to my boyfriend. Our favorite pastime during our 11 years together has been checking out beautiful men.
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The fact that I can toggle the troll off is so refreshing.
Really, the only way to deal with them is to rob them of their voice.
Really, the only way to deal with them is to rob them of their voice.
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Troll taking such vehement exception I suspect suffers huge problems with jealousy and has been "burned" and carries a lot of hurt and pain and rage because of it. I expect it's someone who has a hard time controlling his/her own jealousy, so has to justify the intensity and rightness of it.
I feel sorry for you. I do. But it doesn't make it right. Your level of protest seems (I may be wrong) to have some relation to your own intense feelings. Jealousy at that level makes people act really badly. I don't mean here. But in your relationships.
I understand I may be making wrong assumptions and if so, I'm sorry. But it's a hunch based on how I've heard others with that problem talk. Jealousy can make people do really hurtful things. Just saying..
I feel sorry for you. I do. But it doesn't make it right. Your level of protest seems (I may be wrong) to have some relation to your own intense feelings. Jealousy at that level makes people act really badly. I don't mean here. But in your relationships.
I understand I may be making wrong assumptions and if so, I'm sorry. But it's a hunch based on how I've heard others with that problem talk. Jealousy can make people do really hurtful things. Just saying..
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I think 19 is right about the trolls being from BeliefNet. I also agree there are some sock puppets in there. Ignore the stupid fucker(s), Dan.
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Straight girl in a 2+ year monogamous relationship...and I have no problem pointing out hot (to him) girls to my boyfriend. We understand that while we don't touch, we both can look. Where's the harm in that? We're committed, not blind or dead.
And if someone else has an agreement that some "touching" is allowed (they are not monogamous by joint consent), then why would that be anyone else's business? I'll never get that....
And if someone else has an agreement that some "touching" is allowed (they are not monogamous by joint consent), then why would that be anyone else's business? I'll never get that....
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I'm married. But I am not blind. Neither is my husband. Part of my fun is pointing out to him beautiful ones that he may have otherwise missed. All you haters, relax and get over yourselves. I, for one, appreciated this non-serious, lighten-up posting of a beautiful man enjoying himself on vacation.
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@32: Maybe. Honestly though, if I was in this guy's shoes, I wouldn't be embarrassed or bothered by a stranger "gushing" over my photos (nice thought) in the way Dan has -- definitely enthusiastic, but in a friendly, non-threatening way. Dan's squeeing like a thirteen-year-old girl over his accent, for Christ's sake.
There ARE creepy ways of doing this, and this isn't it.
There ARE creepy ways of doing this, and this isn't it.
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troll #12, you don't know dan, and you never will. i speak as someone who knows him as a social acquaintance, neighbor, and slogger, and you couldn't be more wrong. which is why i laugh hysterically at your nasty lil phillipics, because i know the truth and you don't. ha ha ha ha ha.
p.s.: this better not be you, Poe.
p.s.: this better not be you, Poe.
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Dan--I am incredibly saddened by your stunning display of racism and your lack of sensitivity. "Impossibly handsome Asian dude?" Even in the gay community, the white males are the arbiters of what is attractive in what race.
"I'm having the hardest time imagining an Irish accent from an Asian Irishman, though... . That would be fascinating. He should work just that for all it's worth."
Some of the posters here show the same backwards way of thinking. What is so amazing about an Asian guy speaking with a European accent? Americans are xenocentric in their thinking even with globalization flattening our world.
Shame on you folks.
"I'm having the hardest time imagining an Irish accent from an Asian Irishman, though... . That would be fascinating. He should work just that for all it's worth."
Some of the posters here show the same backwards way of thinking. What is so amazing about an Asian guy speaking with a European accent? Americans are xenocentric in their thinking even with globalization flattening our world.
Shame on you folks.
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Dan--I love your feistiness. As a gay Asian male, I interpreted your description as you not having met another Asian male whom you found "impossibly handsome." Would you have described another Caucasian male is "impossibly handsome?"
For the record, I'm married to a more-than-possibly handsome Caucasian male in a relationship that is "non-monogamous in theory than we are in practice" similar to yours.
I probably shouldn't have focused my ire at you for your posting. It's just that during Pride month, I just feel that race relations in the LGBTQ hasn't progress as much as it should've. You go to bars, circuit parties or rallies, people seem to self-segregate.
Well, I'm babbling so I should stop at this point.
For the record, I'm married to a more-than-possibly handsome Caucasian male in a relationship that is "non-monogamous in theory than we are in practice" similar to yours.
I probably shouldn't have focused my ire at you for your posting. It's just that during Pride month, I just feel that race relations in the LGBTQ hasn't progress as much as it should've. You go to bars, circuit parties or rallies, people seem to self-segregate.
Well, I'm babbling so I should stop at this point.
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I've used the expression "impossibly handsome" in reference to Asian dudes, European dudes, black dudes, etc. This guy wasn't the first Asian dude I've ever thought was hot—and there are gay Asian dudes in Seattle who can attest to that. And I've gushed over the insane hotness of porn director and bondage pro Van Darkholme—Japanese descent—more than once in "Savage Love."
Sorry if my choice of words rankled. No offense intended. I didn't mean to imply that the phenomenon of Asian male hotness was usually impossible. When I say that someone is impossibly hot I'm just registering my delight at encountering a guy whose beauty shocks me.
Sorry if my choice of words rankled. No offense intended. I didn't mean to imply that the phenomenon of Asian male hotness was usually impossible. When I say that someone is impossibly hot I'm just registering my delight at encountering a guy whose beauty shocks me.
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Wow, reading all the comments I have to say that some of you NEED to lighten up! If you don't like what Dan's got to say: DON'T READ HIS STUFF! It isn't rocket science! If only closed minds came with closed mouths and silent fingers, SLOG would be a happier place.
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I choose to read Dan's postings regardless of whether I like the end result or not. We're not sheep that all think alike so there's bound to be disagreements, misinterpretations, etc.
Maybe you need to lighten up.
Maybe you need to lighten up.
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I knew when I saw this post had heavy comments, that somebody got their panties in a bunch about SOMETHING. Because Sloggers can't just admire a set of neat photos of a neat guy doing neat tricks on the street without getting offended about something.
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@ #54, I'm with you. Holy Moses, there seem to be a disproportionate amount of Sloggers lately, experiencing their monthly periods. Chill out, Gurlz.
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How do you think the big dicked christopher frizzelle (by his own admission in print) got hired. That's right right probably on Dan's casting couch. Not to mention the big dicked Schmader, though he must have banged someone else on the staff since he is ridiculously hairy (not Dan's type). So Dan, just how many inches does one need to get a job at The Stranger? roflmfao
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