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Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Heavy Handed

Posted by on Wed, May 20, 2009 at 3:11 PM

It turns out that Larry Stickney, the state’s emerging guardian of marriage, has had some marital problems of his own. From my article in this week’s paper:

88fc/1242858184-stickney_via_phb.jpgAnti-gay crusader Larry Stickney, whose organization, Protect Marriage Washington, filed a referendum on May 4 to repeal Washington State's domestic-partnership bill, wrote on his website that allowing gay marriage "will demolish the historical understanding and definition of marriage as that of uniting a man and a woman for life."

But Stickney himself—married three times and divorced twice—has not been united in marriage "for life." And, during his second marriage, his wife made serious allegations of domestic abuse.

Records from the Kitsap County Superior Court show that in 1994, Stickney's then-wife Cheryl alleged that he "badly injured" her twice, breaking her eardrum by hitting her in the ear. She also accused him of "[stealing] and destroy[ing] things belonging to my son and myself."

[Photo via Pam's House Blend]

In addition, Cheryl declared to the court, “This last time I thought my jaw was broken but it wasn’t. It, however, is still not adjusted right.”

Stickney, who didn't return calls seeking comment, retorted to the court that Cheryl was lying and attempting to make him “look like a real scoundrel.” He wrote that Cheryl “is very feminist in her outlook,” adding that she “lacks respect and is very rebellious towards me and refuses to give me the authority and support that I, as the father of our two small children, need to run a functional household.”

But despite empirical knowledge that traditional marriage is not synonymous with stable unions, Stickney contends on his website that the referendum is necessary because “happiness and well-being of both the parents and the children are best served by the family unit.”

But a Kitsap County judge in the mid-'90s thought the Stickney family was better off without Stickney in the picture. Despite his pleas, the judge issued a restraining order against him, granting Cheryl temporary custody of the two children and requiring Stickney to stay away from the family home. Several months later, Cheryl filed for divorce.

"People are human and people makes mistakes," says state Senator Ed Murray (D-43), sponsor of the domestic partnership bill. Indeed, embittered divorces are commonplace—even without gay marriages—but the portrait of Stickney illustrates a man who is on no position to claim moral high ground against the sanctity of anyone else’s marriage. Taken together as a group, Protect Marriage Washington, including state Representative Matt Shea and Gary Randall, are hypocritical ship of crusaders.

“I wouldn’t necessarily pry into anyone else's life," says Murray, "but they have invited it.”


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Vince 1
This will make a great commercial!
Posted by Vince on May 20, 2009 at 3:13 PM · Report this
Urgutha Forka 2
America is the land of the hypocrite
Posted by Urgutha Forka on May 20, 2009 at 3:16 PM · Report this
It is an enduring mystery why these characters with a full on, old growth Douglass Fir sticking out of their eye would be so eager to point out motes in other's.

Judge not, lest ye be judged. In print, on television, and here on SLOG.
Posted by Westside forever on May 20, 2009 at 3:21 PM · Report this
Baconcat 4
Posted by Baconcat on May 20, 2009 at 3:21 PM · Report this
I like how you can still make your point without cussing or name-calling. In fact, it makes your point stronger.
Posted by paulus on May 20, 2009 at 3:22 PM · Report this
StillNon 6
I wish the idea of "if you want to protect marriage, abolish divorce" would get pushed more to underline their hypocrisy.
Posted by StillNon on May 20, 2009 at 3:27 PM · Report this
very bad homo 7
Once again proving that this has nothing to do with the sanctity of marriage, and everything to do with hating gay people.
Posted by very bad homo on May 20, 2009 at 3:33 PM · Report this
krzysz 8
Hipocrasy is fun for everyone!
From the NYT profile of the Catholic League's chief asshat William Donohue:
In Mr. Donohue’s world view, atheism is nowhere near as bad as apostasy: he has been most vicious in attacking Catholics who support abortion rights, and he admits it. “I hate them,” he said.

And then two short paragraphs later:
Before taking up the cause, Mr. Donohue, a divorced father of two grown children who lives in Mineola, on Long Island, was a sociology professor at La Roche College, a Catholic college in Pittsburgh. (emphasis mine)

When did divorce become Catholic doctrine?
To paraphrase Luke: Bigot, hate thyself!
Posted by krzysz on May 20, 2009 at 3:38 PM · Report this
krzysz 9
Excuse me: hypocrisy
Posted by krzysz on May 20, 2009 at 3:39 PM · Report this
keshmeshi 10
Ooh, ooh, I just figured it out. He looks like Vigo the Carpathian.
Posted by keshmeshi on May 20, 2009 at 4:15 PM · Report this
So did Larry the Looker have anything to say about that judge who didn't give him the authority and support that he needed to run his, um, household? I'd doubt it. Bullies tend to cave around people they can't control.

And yes, Mr. Stickney, gay marriage will erode the foundation of your holy union, not those love taps you give your wife. By all means, keep spouting that Promise Keeper bullshit. If you say it enough, it has to be true!
Posted by rickibot on May 20, 2009 at 4:20 PM · Report this
@10: Totally, he is Vigo...especially after devouring Egon whole, then beating up Dennis the Menace and stealing his hair...
Posted by rickibot on May 20, 2009 at 4:35 PM · Report this
elenchos 13
Maybe he's right though. If gays had had full benefits when he hit his wife, I bet she would have gotten a broken jaw. If gays had been getting married, he would have taken her head clean off in one blow.

But that's the past. Larry Stickney has a new, and probably more valuable, wife now. If gays start getting married and then he beats her to death, who would be to blame for that? The gays, or those of us who voted for gay marriage? Or both?

Not that it would make a difference to poor Larry, deprived of yet another wife, whether it was the fault of the gays or gay supporters.
Posted by elenchos on May 20, 2009 at 5:04 PM · Report this
Luckily he won't really need the 'moral high ground' to win.
Just lots of money...
Posted by Stay Tuned..... on May 20, 2009 at 6:13 PM · Report this
Catalina Vel-DuRay 15
Men who wear those kind of necktie chain thingys are always morons. Always.

And really: What's the point of wearing a dress shirt and necktie with a jacket like that? He looks like bag boy at a particularly sad supermarket.
Posted by Catalina Vel-DuRay on May 20, 2009 at 7:12 PM · Report this
reverend dr dj riz 16
stys, motes and logs..
it's christian thang...
Posted by reverend dr dj riz on May 20, 2009 at 8:13 PM · Report this
reverend dr dj riz 17's 'A'...christian thang...
Posted by reverend dr dj riz on May 20, 2009 at 8:15 PM · Report this
scary tyler moore 18
that HAIR!!! that is a crime against humanity in itself!
Posted by scary tyler moore on May 20, 2009 at 8:43 PM · Report this
BombasticMO 19
Fucking hilarious. I love Ed Murray's veiled comments.
Posted by BombasticMO on May 20, 2009 at 8:47 PM · Report this
Greg 20
Pretty hypocritical, especially considering this guy had two dads: Chris Farley and Hagar the Horrible.
Posted by Greg on May 20, 2009 at 9:59 PM · Report this

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