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Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Savage Love Northern Michigan University

Posted by Dan Savage on Tue, Mar 24, 2009 at 8:21 PM

Some of the questions asked by NMU students tonight...

Is it okay to talk to other people about your relationship problems w/o the partner getting mad?

Is there a moral limit to multiple orgasms? What are the relationship risks when it starts getting into the 8-to-1 or 10-to-1 area?

It it okay for girls to wear the pants in the relationship?

How do I ensure that the jar I put in my ass doesn't break?

What do guys really think about girls when they try to control every aspect of their lives?

In your opinion what is the best flavored lube?

Some of my answers: It's not only okay, it's imperative; morality doesn't factor in (jealousy perhaps, insecurity seemingly, but not morality); your question presumes that there's a girl in every relationship (but the answer is nevertheless yes); when it comes to putting jars in your ass there are no guarantees; that they own them—and guys who think they own girls wind up physically abusing girls, so DTMFASAP; does someone makes an Anderson Cooper flavored lube? If so, that's my favorite.

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Thank you for coming :)

Posted by thor on March 24, 2009 at 8:35 PM

My pleasure, Thor. Had a blast.

Posted by Dan Savage on March 24, 2009 at 8:48 PM

Anderson Cooper flavored lube? I guess if it exsited one should try it before rejecting it. Not sure of the appeal though.

Posted by kim in portland on March 24, 2009 at 8:56 PM

I was right with you till the last question. Anderson Cooper flavor? Dan? Are you just trying to get on (long lost) Mr. Poe's good side? I thought your tastes ran distinctly younger.

Posted by Reverse Polarity on March 24, 2009 at 9:01 PM

I'm so excited for when you come to Bellingham!

Posted by AC on March 24, 2009 at 9:02 PM

Dan,
Forgot to tell you when you were with us for dinner... The Sensations flavored lubes from Pure Romance are awesome. And it heats up when you blow on it. Just a suggestion. Thanks for coming all the way up here! It was fun.

Posted by VOX Ladies @NMU on March 24, 2009 at 9:08 PM

Oh Dan! Ohhhhhh Dan! I am so geared up for your mayoral campaign. I've been combing the Slog archives for your best writings. I want the citizens of Seattle to know the real Dan Savage. Compassionate, thoughtful, empathetic, generous, OH Dan!!! I can hardly wait for the campaign to begin. I'll be there for you Dan. I'll be there for you every day promoting your past musings on matters large and small to the citizens of Seattle.

Must I report my expenditures to your campaign if we don't collude on the message?

Posted by Michelle on March 24, 2009 at 9:31 PM

Oh Gawd Thor. You got a personal response from Dan. I so envy you.

Posted by Bobbie on March 24, 2009 at 9:42 PM

RP@4: I, too, thought PoeBait.

Posted by Big Sven on March 24, 2009 at 9:51 PM

ps- he ain't comin' back. Deal.

Posted by Big Sven on March 24, 2009 at 9:52 PM

I read your Anderson Cooper comment to my husband and he wondered how you knew what Anderson Cooper tasted like....

Posted by Brooke on March 24, 2009 at 9:54 PM

You're a really good writer.

Posted by Srs on March 24, 2009 at 10:09 PM

Daaaan.....your response to the question about sticking a jar in your ass seems to indicate you haven't seen the video that kid was referencing.....clearly you don't spend enough time on /b/ at 4chan.org.....

Posted by Anonymoose on March 24, 2009 at 10:23 PM

good thing you didnt go to tech, it would've been all masturbation questions.

Posted by art on March 24, 2009 at 10:49 PM

Oh I have a feeling(and a remembrance) that he has seen it. It's been on Slog before.

Posted by onemanonejar on March 24, 2009 at 10:49 PM

@ art: Damn that was a good burn. I almost went to tech. 'shudder'

Posted by gabriel amadeus on March 24, 2009 at 11:45 PM

I posted the same thing on every thread. Why do I keep getting banned????

Posted by Michelle on March 25, 2009 at 1:22 AM

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because you're boring and monotonous?

Posted by Michelle is a pretty name on March 25, 2009 at 5:28 AM

Dan,
If you numbered the questions and answers it would be easier to match the answer with it's question.
You could even just hit return after each answer and it would be easier to separate and pick out the answers.

Posted by fred on March 25, 2009 at 5:35 AM

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Thanks for coming, Dan! You were fantastic. I look forward to getting extra credit papers on your talk from my students . . .

Posted by nmuprof on March 25, 2009 at 7:21 AM

Jesus, Dan, you've got groupies. Yikes.

Posted by Fifty-Two-Eighty on March 25, 2009 at 7:59 AM

@13 Anonymoose. Your comment indicates you don't read Slog regularly. Check the archives, rookie.

Posted by Your Server on March 25, 2009 at 8:01 AM

da yoopers, eh? ya.

Posted by wilbur@work on March 25, 2009 at 9:06 AM

I wish so dearly that I didn't know about the jar thing. I want to be able to un-see that video.

Posted by Greg on March 25, 2009 at 10:25 AM

If i only had a flame thrower.... I'd score the earth with aphrodiseicasms.

Posted by revrendlovefist on March 25, 2009 at 10:46 AM

Hey Dan, the "jar in my ass"question guy was my boyfriend, and having you reference 1guy1jar in front of the NMU student body brought him more joy than actually putting a jar in his ass would.

Posted by Collie on March 25, 2009 at 12:31 PM

@7 I am getting pretty fucking tired of reading the exact same comment from you in every post. YEAH, OK, I GET IT. Get over yourself.

@13 Dan covered 'The Jar' when it first happened, I'm certain he was aware of the context of the question.

@ the sentimental 'Anderson Cooper = Mr. Poe bait' theorists: I think Dan's been trying to ride that big gay white pony for quite a while. Or am I just projecting?

@Savage: Run Fagmo Run!

Posted by Jim Bexley-Speed on March 25, 2009 at 12:50 PM