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Monday, March 23, 2009

Gay Bars in Chicago Ban Bachelorette Parties

Posted by on Mon, Mar 23, 2009 at 1:08 PM

Hard to argue with their reasoning...

They've become a familiar sight in gay bars: women holding bachelorette parties. The bride-to-be is often easily identifiable. She's the one wearing either a veil or tiara or feather boa or phallic-shaped blow-up hat, and is surrounded by women who begin the night somewhat reserved but metamorphose into pelvis-thrusting vamps as their blood-alcohol levels rise.

The women come to celebrate without having to worry about straight men pawing them. The gay men are there because, well, they don't want to be around a lot of women.

For years, some bar owners have tried to accommodate both groups, but that's becoming increasingly difficult. With California's vote last November in favor of the gay-marriage ban known as Proposition 8, some gays are saying that bachelorette parties at their bars are becoming more than a minor nuisance. They're a constant reminder that gays don't have equal marriage rights.

Perhaps an exception could be made for bachelorettes who make a large donation to a gay organization fighting for marriage equality—and show up with a receipt to prove it. But I have to agree with the bar owners: celebrating your upcoming wedding in a bar full of people who can't marry—particularly if you're wearing a necklace of little plastic penises—is an asshole move.

And Trice? Gay men don't go to gay bars because we don't want to be around women. We go to gay bars because we want to be around each other—because we need to be in space where gay is the default assumption, not straight. Lots of gay men bring our female friends to gay bars. I don't recall the last time I was in a gay bar where there were no women.

And some gay bars are for women.


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New York gay bars have become a complete drag lately because they are populated by at least 30% Sex-and-the-City wannabees, i.e. drunk straight girls who just want a place to act like there are no rules of social behavior. After a few drinks, these chicks start twirling around like bad ballerinas, knocking people's drinks to the floor, etc. Not to mention the high-pitched SHRIEKING!

Just to give you one example of a recent experience I had with a drunk straight chick in a bar in Ann Arbor, one such woman – without any provocation, just for the sake of entertainment – decided she would slap me hard across the face, apparently to see what I would do. When she say my reaction, she leaned over to her other drunk friends and said, "Oooh, look, he's getting mad!" I could have had her arrested and sent to the drunk tank for the night, but just opted to leave. Perhaps that was a mistake.

I agree that drunk straight chicks are "CLASS A COCKBLOCKERS." They show no respect for gay men, whom they seem to view as second-class toys, playthings for their entertainment. In what other social situation could a demographic group move into an establishment, harass the locals, and then be shocked (shocked, I tell you!) that the locals objected?

For those armchair Libertarian economists out there, I have to tell you that the presence of these miscreants in gay bars does a lot of keep gay men at home, not spending $$$, or moving on to new establishments that the bad girls have not yet discovered. So there is really no net gain to allowing such rude, obnoxious, and - yes, let's say it - anti-gay behavior to persist.
Posted by artist2hear on July 10, 2010 at 7:53 AM · Report this
I'm standing in a line at G Bar in New York with 40 other gay men waiting to get in. Drunk straight chick (with her shamed gay friend in tow) marches from the back of the line, saying: "I don't have to wait in this line, I'm STRAIGHT!" The bouncer sent her right back to the end of the line, which erupted in CHEERS!

Moral of the story: drunk straight chicks really DO believe they are in a socially and morally superior position and that they should be given unearned privilege wherever they go. Their patronizing, tired, outdated sneering at gay men is such a downer that I just don't want to be around it.

And, in addition, Sex and the City (both movies) sucked. The bad girls love it only because they think it validates their lack of understanding of the basics of social behavior, respect for others, and common decency.
Posted by artist2hear on July 10, 2010 at 8:11 AM · Report this

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