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Monday, February 9, 2009

At Large University of Lethbridge

Posted by Dan Savage on Mon, Feb 9, 2009 at 8:44 PM

Some of the questions asked by U of L students tonight...

What is the most common sexual problem with human females?

I recently connected w/a friend of my boyfriend's on Facebook. Through this conversation I found out that my boyfriend hadn't told this friend about me and that they had had two three ways together in Toronto last month while my boyfriend was visiting. I've dumped my boyfriend's ass but have started getting friendly with this friend who spilled the beans. Would it be stupid of me to explore this further?

What do you suggest for a single gay male in a small town with an almost hopelessly divided gay community split along lines of the trendy & stylish and the not-so-much?

How do you negotiate a long-term monogamous relationship when one partner is kinky the other is repulsed by kink?

I've never had drunken or otherwise inebriated sex. In your opinion, am I missing out on anything?

When Sue Johanson was here she spoke against trying anal sex, due to damages, etc. What would you tell people?

Some of my answers: human males; no; move to a bigger city with a larger gay community (it will still be hopelessly divided, of course, but in a big city it's easier for the trendy & stylish to ignore the not-so-much and vice-versa); you don't; yes; don't fuck Sue Johanson in the ass.

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That's fascinating. Do you remember when you wrote this?

So in stupid fucking credulous hack Tom Banse’s fair & balanced report on the DEA, National Guard, and Washington State Patrol’s busts of marijuana farms, we only hear from the Washington State Patrol and a drug task force director. And, as per usual, the obvious followup questions are not asked: the Washington State Patrol says they’re making real inroads in the war on pot. Hell, they’re having a banner year. Is it true? Is what they’re doing working? Are the tax dollars being spent on this war on pot having any effect on the supply or price of pot?

Well, it needed some edits.

So in stupid fucking credulous hack Bethany Jean Clement’s fair & balanced report on NARN, foie gras, and Lark, we only hear from the owner of Lark and Anthony Bourdain. And, as per usual, the obvious followup questions are not asked: Anthony Bourdain says foie gras is totally humane and cruelty free. Is it true? Is Lark's foie gras provider actually humane? Is there even such a thing? Is there some other reason that California and a dozen European nations have are banning the production of foie gras?

What's that phrase you use so often for journalists that produce biased, slanted, salacious, misinformed op-ed "reporting"? You got it, its'...

Stupid fucking credulous hack.

Posted by In your own house, nonetheless on February 9, 2009 at 8:54 PM

@1: Yeah, I'm sure if you keep posting the same comments over and over and over and over and over, eventually Dan Savage will do whatever it is you want.

Posted by excellent strategy on February 9, 2009 at 9:07 PM

@2: Yeah, Dan would never do anything childish like that. He'd never post anything like "Marlee Ginter Might be Blowing Goats" over and over and over and over in the hopes that he'd gets his way. Nope, not Dan.

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=mar…

Posted by Maybe Bethany's just a Damn Fine Journalist? on February 9, 2009 at 9:26 PM

so dan what are your speaking fees?

Posted by Non on February 9, 2009 at 9:32 PM

Stupid fucking brainless vegan

Posted by MyNameIsNobody on February 9, 2009 at 9:33 PM

only because i totally wish someone would be willing to fly me somewhere and give talks...talk about awesome.

Posted by Non on February 9, 2009 at 9:33 PM

@3: I'm sorry that you missed my point entirely.

Posted by excellent strategy on February 9, 2009 at 9:34 PM

Dan, thank you for doing the Lords work.
http://www.sexinchrist.com/fist.html

Posted by Jesus on February 9, 2009 at 9:43 PM

@7, you had a point?

Posted by I wouldn't have noticed on February 9, 2009 at 10:12 PM

@9: Yes.

Posted by obviously not on February 9, 2009 at 10:51 PM

@10, and it would be....

Posted by Not that I care, but trolling you is so easy on February 9, 2009 at 10:58 PM

You guys will make a really cute couple once you get your issues worked out.

Posted by this guy I know in Spokane on February 10, 2009 at 12:12 AM

"I've never had drunken or otherwise inebriated sex. In your opinion, am I missing out on anything?"

Yes. Pregnancy scares and HIV scares.

Posted by eclexia on February 10, 2009 at 12:14 AM

please accept this tissue, mr. sad stockings.

Posted by while listening to this song i'm playing on my tiny violin on February 10, 2009 at 12:15 AM

Sue Johanson spoke at Western and it was a huge letdown. One token mention of lesbianism but the whole night was a big heterofest.

Posted by Jake on February 10, 2009 at 12:29 AM

@8: Wow. Wait 'til the ex-masturbators read that!

Posted by TVDinner on February 10, 2009 at 12:35 AM

When Science rules are we going to get honest information about the medical consequences of anal intercourse?

Posted by Seymour Butts MD on February 10, 2009 at 5:21 AM

it is not like queer guys have been butt fucking for hundreds of years - worldwide - city, country and on mars

no shit mc ghee

Posted by Smith and more Smith on February 10, 2009 at 5:43 AM

@8, pretty heavy stuff from a bunch of Bible-thumpers. I did submit a comment, listing Slog as "where I heard about them." Betcha that gets their panties in a bunch.

Posted by Fifty-Two-Eighty on February 10, 2009 at 5:48 AM

18
do you have a point?

Posted by other than the one on top of your head on February 10, 2009 at 6:42 AM

@ 18: Actually, I'm not so sure about that. I'm no expert on historical sex practices, but I think frottage was the more popular form of homosex in antiquity.

Posted by elf on February 10, 2009 at 6:47 AM

Did you get to hang out with their women's Rugby team? Best in the country!

Posted by rugby on February 10, 2009 at 6:54 AM

Sue Johanson rocks! I listened to her radio show and TV show during my teens and early twenties.

No stupid moralizing, and the (sometimes kinky) advice comes from such a sweet old lady! Good times.

Posted by Karla on February 10, 2009 at 7:12 AM

@8 Thanks. That's my new favorite website. The section on three ways was very helpful. I forwarded the link to my wife.

Posted by Youth worker on February 10, 2009 at 7:26 AM

Sue Johanson looks like she'd smell like pee.

Posted by Hoyt Clagwell on February 10, 2009 at 7:48 AM

that's your upper lip, hoyt

Posted by Your Name Here on February 10, 2009 at 8:22 AM

Dan, I want to know your "no, seriously, here's the real answer" to the question about most common female sexual problem.

Posted by EmilyP on February 10, 2009 at 9:07 AM

ROFL @ "human males"

Perfect.

Posted by violet_dagrinder on February 10, 2009 at 9:08 AM

I think the important thing to ask about the 2nd question is: Is that friend still friends with your boyfriend? Probably says a lot.

Posted by Gloria on February 10, 2009 at 9:09 AM

@27: urinary tract infections.
Oh, that reminds me, I keep seeing ads on TV for UTI (universal technical institute). apparently they teach you to fix cars.

"You'll love UTI!"

lol

Posted by waffre on February 10, 2009 at 9:26 AM

Perhaps the issue for women is the misguided idea that because sex is natural it should be easy. Everyone has to figure out what turns them on, and how to achieve satisfaction for themselves. Then, a woman has to communicate her particular needs. Perhaps, the above only applies to the women I know?

Posted by kim on February 10, 2009 at 9:45 AM

Thought provoking material, thanks 8.

Posted by kim on February 10, 2009 at 9:51 AM

Sigh...I still find it completely unfair that female biology made sex so much more complicated than males. Oh well.

Posted by Sarah N on February 10, 2009 at 10:04 AM

ha! that actually works surprisingly well -- tell the girl their guy is cheating, then flirt away hero! actually, it rarely works out for the lying snitch and the girl, but does usually end things between the girl and ex-boyfriend even if said indiscretions were not verified.

Posted by infrequent on February 10, 2009 at 1:06 PM

No, Dr. Sue went on a super-weird tirade against anal (which she referred to, throughout the lecture, as "bum sex")- it was a strange strange and very hetero evening.

Posted by queerion on February 10, 2009 at 10:39 PM

sue came to my old school (UBC) a few years ago and did the exact same thing. very strange, wierd, boring hetero evening. somebody asked if there was anything really really crazy and kinky that she would never do and she answered she'd never even been curious about anything with a woman. later in the night there were a couple of questions about lesbian or gay sex to which she answered that she didn't know and didn't have much experience with that sort of thing.

totally one of those "I mean, i'm not against it or anything..." vibes all night. very weird.

the rest of her advice was either totally boring or actually wrong and dissapointing. I had been stoked to see her and was totally let down.

Posted by jo on February 10, 2009 at 11:00 PM