Uh, Juan? Rick Warren wasn't interested in "disagreeing without being disagreeable" until he got his way on marriage equality—that is, until same-sex couples in California were stripped of their right to wed and the marriages of more than 18,000 same-sex couples were nullified. Warren couldn't "agree to disagree" on same-sex marriage when it was legal; he couldn't refuse to perform same-sex marriages himself while tolerating the rights of other Californians to avail themselves of the rights and responsibilities of marriage. Only now that same-sex marriage has been banned—only now that Warren got his way—does he suddenly want everyone to make nice.

See how that works?

Rick Warren importuning people to "disagree without being disagreeable" now is like a bully saying "violence is never the answer!" right after he's bloodied some other kid's nose. Listening to people give the bully credit for having his heart in the right place isn't much comfort for the kid with the blood running down his face. And I predict that Rick Warren—and the Mormon Church and the Catholic Chuch—will go right back to being very disagreeable after Prop 8 is repealed and same-sex couples are once again marrying in the state of California. You can bet on it.