http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2013/02/19/gods-match-for-you Comments On: God's Match for You? by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Sun, 19 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Sun, 19 May 2013 23:00:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Posted by undead ayn rand]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:28:03 -0800 The Stranger Posted by undead ayn rand]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:21:31 -0800 The Stranger
It is sort of bizarre how God gets credit when you find a good job or partner or cure, but no blame when you get fired, raped, or with terminal cancer.
Posted by DAVIDinKENAI]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 17:43:53 -0800 The Stranger
So instead he would have waited until he gained her trust to rape her. Maybe he would have just offered to drive her home and raped her in his car.

Frankly, almost every single woman has made the mistake of trusting a man too soon after meeting him, largely because there's literally no other way to handle dating.

Even I've made that mistake, allowing some guy I barely knew to drive me home for example. In my case, I was lucky that he didn't rape me and I was lucky that I realized my mistake (without having to pay for it first) and didn't repeat it.

I challenge you to find any woman who hasn't made that kind of "mistake" at some point in her dating life. I also challenge you to find men who don't flip their shit over a woman not trusting them from the word go. There are some, but not many. Most men in this country are not understanding of women's lack of trust of strange men.
Posted by keshmeshi]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 14:03:06 -0800 The Stranger /irony off
Posted by originalcinner]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 14:00:49 -0800 The Stranger
(Who would Jesus Rape?)
Posted by Sandiai]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 13:35:06 -0800 The Stranger see that picture of rapist boy? He's going to be popular in prison.
Posted by this guy I know in Spokane]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 13:18:40 -0800 The Stranger
We don't know that the woman did think she was safe because she was a Christian. The article says that he was arrested for burglary. She might have met him in a public cafe and he might have followed her home and broken into her house. The only thing we know about the role of religion in this crime is that the man met his victim on ChristianMingle.
Posted by DRF]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 13:15:22 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Pope Peabrain]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:54:10 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Margaretta]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:52:10 -0800 The Stranger
Anyone could similarly be disarmed through similar means. If you met me on a backpacking trip, you'd assume it speaks better of me than meeting at a pawnshop and generally you'd be right but still shouldn't turn off your radar or common sense. The insidious thing about some of these perps is that they intentionally go to those venues so they can fly under the radar.

When someone is trying TOO hard to present as a Christian / Green / Artsy / whatever, at a minimum they're a player. And maybe something worse.
Posted by DAVIDinKENAI]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:35:42 -0800 The Stranger Posted by JJinAus]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 11:52:51 -0800 The Stranger Posted by beccoid]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 11:45:41 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Gern Blanston]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 11:07:19 -0800 The Stranger Match.com and eHarmony.

We should be telling the victims that the heathens of Slog will be not-praying for them. "Rape is bad" is something we should all be able to get behind.
Posted by DRF]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 11:07:00 -0800 The Stranger
I just wonder how they got God himself to be their web admin.
Posted by Rob in Baltimore]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 10:58:14 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Patricia Kayden]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 10:53:32 -0800 The Stranger
That's one of the things I try to teach the college students I work with in campus ministry - just because it wears the label "Christian" doesn't make it automatically good. In a lot of cases, that label is just covering up garbage theology, bigotry, and prejudice.
Posted by Sheryl]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 10:43:07 -0800 The Stranger
This comes up even more pathologically in some bizarre murders - perps (men or women) who repeatedly marry and within a year, the new spouse is dead. The perp inherits a house, life insurance and then moves on to another state. Eventually an investigator gets suspicious, old spouses are exhumed and the same toxic metal or rat poison, etc, is found to have been used over months to cause a hard-to-diagnose degenerative disease.

Of the cases I can recall, I think they all met in church - again, trust is won quickly when you're praying to the same god, and the perp gets to see what car they drive, know their true occupation, neighborhood, etc.
Posted by DAVIDinKENAI]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 10:33:23 -0800 The Stranger
"Leave it to Protestants to continue to cutout the middleman, even in sexual abuse."
Posted by DAVIDinKENAI]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 10:23:45 -0800 The Stranger
Thus, the inherent danger of thinking that anything with JESUS on it must be safe. Seriously? Christianity is not a magic totem to protect you from harm.
Posted by Pope Buck I]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 10:19:39 -0800 The Stranger Posted by MiscKitty]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 09:57:17 -0800 The Stranger Posted by FormerSeattelite]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 09:51:45 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Yes, I'm blaming the victim]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 09:43:33 -0800 The Stranger Posted by originalcinner]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 09:43:08 -0800 The Stranger