http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2013/02/17/sl-letter-of-the-day-baby-talk Comments On: SL Letter of the Day: Baby Talk by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Sun, 19 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Sun, 19 May 2013 15:45:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss I agree that it's probably not actual ageplay, people who slide into this as a habit greatly outnumber those with that kink. In this guy's case his other gf, who doesn't like sex, had encouraged him. I think it worked well for her, but I wish him luck getting laid regularly ever again.
(Of course, what to do with my *other* bf, who wants me to brat so he can spank, is a whole other question.)
Posted by Moggadeet]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 21:15:03 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Sandiai]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 15:13:18 -0800 The Stranger Posted by lhbbcp]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 11:32:42 -0800 The Stranger
If there isn't a subset of sexual practices that you both find deeply satisfying and can agree to call "our normal sex" (where neither person feels they're doing the other a favor), then I don't think you're sexually compatible in the long run.
Posted by EricaP]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:29:46 -0800 The Stranger ------------
I'd say that's the most likely.

And I'd say that those who don't like it aren't really reacting to the child-sex aspect (which may or may not be present), but just to the thing itself. I don't like it when I see someone talking to her dog that way, either. We've all known people who get kittenish in certain circumstances, because at some point in their lives they were given the impression it was cute. It's an erroneous impression.
Posted by agony]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:08:34 -0800 The Stranger
That said I can imagine that for some people it wouldn't be fun and cozy, just weird, even in the situation I describe. If so, by all means, follow Dan's advice.
Posted by Liam3851]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 05:33:52 -0800 The Stranger
It is speaking to them simplistically, nonsensically (Jabberwalky not included) and talking down to them I object to.
Posted by Machiavelli was framed]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 00:44:29 -0800 The Stranger
I'm not a baby talk guy my self and I might have "visceral disgust." too. Not sure.
Posted by cracked]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 00:38:59 -0800 The Stranger "It is possible to have a literalist partner subtly browbeat all playfulness out of you, or jab by jab beat mannerisms out of you that make them feel threatened"

Lol wut? Make them feel threatened? How? I fall on the side of the cringers: I don't want to feel like the parent of my partner, even in nonsexual situations. I want an adult, too, who's mature and competent and fully articulate. Baby talk especially (which, I'm interested everyone has latched onto, given it's not specifically mentioned in the letter) is one of those annoyances which I don't think I could compromise, it seems just to provoke visceral disgust (to me).

I also think there's a big difference between acting immature or bratty or verbally stunted and being playful. I think most people who would wince at the former aren't curmudgeons who hate all fun.
Posted by shurenka]]> Mon, 18 Feb 2013 00:14:45 -0800 The Stranger
http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2004/d…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_talk

I don't know. WAA's boyfriend just sounds insecure.


Posted by Sandiai]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 23:56:36 -0800 The Stranger
It is possible to have a literalist partner subtly browbeat all playfulness out of you, or jab by jab beat mannerisms out of you that make them feel threatened, just as people in our society are often threatened by mannerisms they think are "gay", whether done by gays or straights.
Posted by cracked]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 23:47:16 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Machiavelli was framed]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 23:36:38 -0800 The Stranger Posted by seandr]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:20:05 -0800 The Stranger Posted by undead ayn rand]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 20:14:00 -0800 The Stranger Posted by vennominon]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 20:07:20 -0800 The Stranger
I'm actually kind of curious how the partner is acting like a five year old, but it's probably much more in a childlike enthusiasm and simplicity of language than the cutesy-wutesy or broken grammar that people seem to be discussing. Unless the letter writer is also unfamiliar with five year olds.
Posted by uncreative]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 19:53:13 -0800 The Stranger Posted by mr. herriman]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 19:26:25 -0800 The Stranger
"You are not a LOLcat", written to "I, Anonymous" by somebody who was apparently friends-of-friends with a public baby-talker. This pretty much sums of the rage it inspires in some people:

http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archive…

Posted by eclexia]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 19:25:54 -0800 The Stranger
The 'disgust' response is rather primal and visceral, so someone who is feeling/thinking "YUCK" is prone to over-reacting in a comment thread.

Sometimes a person's comment is just trolling, being provocative deliberately, to get attention.

And sometimes someone likes playing the role of devil's advocate, or likes to point out contradictions or hypocrisy or just another angle on a situation, and those sorts of responses to a Letter Writer might seem nastier than they were intended, especially to someone who prefers to empathize and sympathize.

So, yeah--Letter Writers who are selected for SLLOTD should steel themselves for some harshness in the comment thread. They would be wise to sift the comments, seeking out what's helpful (some of which might not be particularly 'nice') and disregarding that which seems mean-spirited or trollish.
Posted by Functional Atheist]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 19:15:01 -0800 The Stranger Posted by rob!]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 19:00:47 -0800 The Stranger "Whose little sweetie are you?"

A woman giggles and says, "Your little sweetie!"

"Whose little hands are these?"

"Tee-hee! Your little hands."

"And whose little feet are these …and whose little ankles …and whose little knees?"

Feeling himself beginning to blush furiously, Caspar calls through the door, "When you get to the umbrella, it's MINE!"
Posted by rob!]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 18:58:21 -0800 The Stranger Posted by bedelia]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 18:49:21 -0800 The Stranger Posted by JJinAus]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 18:37:30 -0800 The Stranger Posted by agony]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 18:26:30 -0800 The Stranger
His intention was not to flay the skin off my body and pour salt on the wounds, but that is what it felt like to me.

We came up with a shortcut way to communicate when it happened that was non-shaming and loving. I would look at him with all the love he wanted to see and I would say "kumquat." Sweetly and nicely.

And we would both laugh. It worked a charm.

Posted by bareboards]]> Sun, 17 Feb 2013 17:00:35 -0800 The Stranger