http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2013/02/12/sl-letter-of-the-day Comments On: SL Letter of the Day: Your Weekly DTMFA Fix by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Tue, 21 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Tue, 21 May 2013 18:15:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Posted by scary tyler moore]]> Thu, 14 Feb 2013 01:45:16 -0800 The Stranger Posted by SoapMacTavish]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:19:26 -0800 The Stranger Posted by koliebo]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 12:33:20 -0800 The Stranger
That's a very good point. She should wait until he shows up with champagne and roses, then slap him with the roses and dump his ass.

At least, in a just world that would work, anyway. Shouting "piss off, loser, I hate you" through the door would probably be a better idea.

@48: A 4 year age gap, even when she's 17, is *not* a reason in itself to believe he's a creep. It might be a bit of a red flag, but it's not a *reason*. Further investigation would be necessary. It's not like practically every 17 year old girl doesn't want an older boyfriend or anything, deluded as that may be.
Posted by gromm]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 11:55:56 -0800 The Stranger
There probably was a Fulvian Arena somewhere in the Roman Empire, but I was indeed trying to refer to the Colosseum, which was indeed called "Flavian" and not "Fulvian."
Posted by DRF]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 10:46:34 -0800 The Stranger Posted by The Head-shaking Lesbian]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 10:34:01 -0800 The Stranger
"That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age."
Posted by daphne24]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 09:52:40 -0800 The Stranger
American school system fail...
Posted by debug]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 08:51:35 -0800 The Stranger Posted by BABH]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 08:41:51 -0800 The Stranger
OMG - seriously, you can do better. I know this because as Dan says, being single is better than being with someone that makes you feel like you aren't worth much. You need to decide what your value is as a human being and refuse to enter into a long term relationship with someone who doesn't value you that much also.

Also, you're 19. Don't get in the habit of staying in a bad relationship waiting for it to get better. Learning how to quickly identify duds is a real skill and practice makes perfect.
Posted by smajor82]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 06:45:43 -0800 The Stranger
Oh yeah, LW, dump him. He is not the boyfriend you are looking for.
Posted by Alanmt]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 05:10:01 -0800 The Stranger
Posted by Global Traveler]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 03:24:33 -0800 The Stranger Posted by lolorhone]]> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 02:14:03 -0800 The Stranger Posted by garumph]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 23:44:47 -0800 The Stranger Posted by alguna_rubia]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 23:13:59 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Krunch]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 22:48:00 -0800 The Stranger Posted by cheakamus]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 22:14:34 -0800 The Stranger Maybe you're his first girlfriend, and he's clueless. Most likely though, he's fucking other girls. Perhaps you're his token under-ager? Dan's right, anyway you spin it, you gotta get out...fast! The longer you wait, the harder it will be. And he will be super sad probably, and he will say he respects you. And in that moment he will. because youll be strong. Good luck Baby Girl!
Posted by SoUt]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 22:11:41 -0800 The Stranger Posted by CyberQuaker]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 21:45:28 -0800 The Stranger Posted by seandr]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 21:34:04 -0800 The Stranger Posted by aureolaborealis]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 21:21:00 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Some Old Nobodaddy Logged In]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 21:19:16 -0800 The Stranger gem of a boyfriend wouldn't be available on Valentine's Day anyway ... 'cuz it falls on a weekday and he's got places to be, baybee.

I only hope she can get away from his slithering grasp, especially if he starts to flail about with protestations of how much she means to him after she tries to DTMFA.

Posted by Helenka (also a Canuck)]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 20:58:46 -0800 The Stranger Posted by montex]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 20:58:41 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Sandiai]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 20:49:56 -0800 The Stranger