http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=15701114 Comments On: Savage Love by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Wed, 19 Jun 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 19:30:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss
@12 @38 (slinky) pointed out very well that penetration can be a very emotional boundary and that being under the influence is a fast track to poor decisions.
As as shy person, drinking a bit (not too much) helps me be more social and assertive with women. However, it is a slipery slope to poor decision making.
For a guy, loosing the "anal virginity" is probably emotionaly much closer to a girl loosing her virginity. To have this happen with a sex worker is traumatically for sure.

@57 also distinguishes quite well the difference between being gay and liking anal penetration and being fucked.

I totally can relate to this. I'm not a dominant male and I like when girls are on top (pun intended).
I haven't tried pegging but is definitely something I want to try. First I need to get a girlfriend but that is difficult due to my shyness. I only tried masturbating with a finger in my ass and it feels great.
As for the trans-porn, I also find it very hot but I had a similar reaction for WSOWS when I discovered trans-porn and that I got really aroused with it.
In the end, the most exciting thing is the power dynamics and that only makes me a kinky straight guy.
Posted by eroszouk]]> Sun, 20 Jan 2013 13:39:54 -0800 The Stranger Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Sat, 19 Jan 2013 23:11:36 -0800 The Stranger
WHY, however, did the VA LIE to me about nutrition over 19 years after I left the U.S. Navy? Processed foods, bread, pasta, rice, and potatoes were all killing me! At least I know now, and am doing something about it.
I don't know if I've actually lost any weight, but I certainly have lost inches that count--particularly around my former Buddha belly over the past two and a half weeks! One day, I can have dark chocolate again.
Best news of all: I recently dined out---and got carded---at age 48!
Our server got a good tip--it was a Kodak moment when she looked at my driver's license.
And I found my favorite Brad Pitt flick this weekend, too!!
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Sat, 19 Jan 2013 23:07:58 -0800 The Stranger
(I am a bi woman who is part of an FFM triad, fwiw.)

However, I'm not a gay man -- is this common parlance in your circles, Dan? I'm fairly active in the in-person and online poly circles, and "triad" and occasionally "trio/threesome" are the terms I see in use. "V/Vee" would be a 3-person relationship where one person is involved with 2 others, but they aren't involved with each other.

I use "triad" and think a threesome is something you DO, not something you ARE (it's 3 people fucking, but not necessarily 3 people dating -- and plenty of triads aren't into threesome sex.) With that said, if that's the term that someone else is happy/comfortable with, more power to 'em.

Gay male poly people -- is "triad" or "throuple" the term you use most?
Posted by AndiPants]]> Fri, 18 Jan 2013 12:10:53 -0800 The Stranger Nice reference to Jimi Hendrix lyrics "Fire", released Sept. '69.

The kids, indeed.
Posted by Texas10R]]> Fri, 18 Jan 2013 06:26:39 -0800 The Stranger
Maybe a 'Dan goes Down Under' tour could help the campaign?

Posted by aez]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:55:28 -0800 The Stranger
Any straight dude in this experience would've done the same, and questioned it.
I don't think he thinks he's gay, he just thinks what he did was gay.

If you're straight and you end up on drugs and booze, (I've been high on coke and whiskey and done some strange things), you'll
Without a doubt question yourself. It's fucking normal. Not all men are going to be cool and open-minded enough to look back and say "yo, I took a dick in my ass! Awesome.". It's just not the way out society works. And on top
Of that many trans sex workers state that the men who visit the
Are usually straight men lookin for something new. All the people saying otherwise are gay men who have a lot of self-hatred issues.
Posted by Rythan]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 06:25:00 -0800 The Stranger Posted by DaveyMan]]> Tue, 15 Jan 2013 14:46:20 -0800 The Stranger
WHERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRE'S the BEEF???
@143: Okay. I'll buy that.
@144: I do have to admit, I like the fingernail polish. The red meat penis is quite the hypnotic distraction for me.
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Tue, 15 Jan 2013 14:08:05 -0800 The Stranger Posted by EricaP]]> Tue, 15 Jan 2013 12:03:48 -0800 The Stranger The ad is for people like me who find it strangely sexy....

Posted by migrationist]]> Tue, 15 Jan 2013 11:32:42 -0800 The Stranger red meat penis in the Smitten Kitten ad?
Is it SUPPOSED to be hypnotic (to sell red meat penises)?

I'm getting enough red meat at home, however carnivorous!
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Tue, 15 Jan 2013 02:15:01 -0800 The Stranger Posted by EricaP]]> Mon, 14 Jan 2013 19:38:39 -0800 The Stranger
Posted by petthecat]]> Mon, 14 Jan 2013 13:08:40 -0800 The Stranger Posted by quinkygirl]]> Mon, 14 Jan 2013 11:58:14 -0800 The Stranger Posted by vennominon]]> Mon, 14 Jan 2013 08:35:59 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Dms sm]]> Mon, 14 Jan 2013 08:24:31 -0800 The Stranger Posted by EricaP]]> Sun, 13 Jan 2013 21:12:36 -0800 The Stranger
I'd rather focus on whether we are being useful and kind. Hiring a sex worker is useful to the sex worker, obviously. We have no reason to think WSOWS was unkind during the evening, so I give him the benefit of the doubt there.

But when people in the trans or genderqueer community complain that others only see them as freaks who are unsuitable for real relationships, I don't argue with them. I try to listen and learn. (Apologies for the sanctimony.)
Posted by EricaP]]> Sun, 13 Jan 2013 21:11:25 -0800 The Stranger
I was hoping that Ms Erica, who seems perhaps the most just judge in this area, would opine on the "objectification vs nice date" idea that originated in #106, as I really don't know what to make of that.
Posted by vennominon]]> Sun, 13 Jan 2013 20:33:18 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Harimad]]> Sun, 13 Jan 2013 15:55:12 -0800 The Stranger Posted by DickSwank]]> Sun, 13 Jan 2013 07:11:16 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Lisa Lynn 61]]> Sat, 12 Jan 2013 19:08:07 -0800 The Stranger Posted by EricaP]]> Sat, 12 Jan 2013 12:10:47 -0800 The Stranger Posted by EricaP]]> Sat, 12 Jan 2013 12:07:54 -0800 The Stranger