http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2013/01/02/she-is-so-raped-her-puss-is-about-as-dry-as-the-sun-right-now Comments On: "She is so raped. Her puss is about as dry as the sun right now." by Cienna Madrid en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Mon, 20 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Mon, 20 May 2013 05:00:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss
For example, you did this by stating that these fools would only be "hated by at least half the world." Others in the comments did this by stating that the fact that some girls lie about being raped means that we cannot know for certain when any girl tells the truth about being raped.

Both are lies - damned lies.

Broad generalities tend to weaken the argument to the point of undoing it. If you're angry say you're angry, don't exaggerate the guilt of an entire gender to express your anger.

Violence in response to violence only makes you part of the cycle. If you want to be part of the solution, you cannot be part of the problem.

By making this situation a "we versus them" situation defined by nothing more than gender, you have completed the cycle of violence by putting ALL men in the category of being equal to rapists and ALL women in the category of being rape victims...who apparently must rely on the big, bad world of men to change because women are just too weak and helpless to expect it and demand it.

In regards to rape culture...

Rape culture is NOT the result of ONE gender. Rape culture is a byproduct of a fucked up society that raises its children, specifically its heterosexual children, to compete for status and rank by virtue of "winning" the mate that everyone else wants.

Americans are obsessed with winning - at any cost - no matter the game.

In this fucked up culture, women and men from the "right" families with the "right" looks and the "right" social affiliations and the "right" financial achievements are told that they are "better than" other women and men.

Women and men who rank as "less than" these trophies of humanity are valued as less than in every way.

Thus, when you set women and men in a competition for social rank and status based on winning the trophy mate, anyone ranked less than the trophy may be used and discarded by anyone ranked better. Trophy men become "entitled" to use, abuse and discard lesser ranking women sexually and lesser ranking men socially. Trophy women do much the same.

In this game anyone can move up or down in rank by their perceived association with or representation of prevailing value factors, which in America include among other things wealth, social status, religious affiliation, education, career, age, sexual desirability, military service and physical ability or disability. The higher you rank the more entitled you become and the more your behavior mirrors this sense of entitlement.

Rape culture is just one part of the greater failure of our nation's culture. If you want to heal the nation, you have to treat the whole society and its failed culture of entitlement and exploitation from yesterday's plantation lords to today's media superstars. Treating one part or one symptom won't cure the patient of this systemic disease.

Posted by I Am The Walrus]]> Tue, 08 Jan 2013 05:00:07 -0800 The Stranger Posted by fotoeve]]> Sun, 06 Jan 2013 01:53:25 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Sarah in Olympia]]> Sun, 06 Jan 2013 00:12:19 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Bonefish]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 19:22:29 -0800 The Stranger
The Big Red is the football team these high schoolers are in.

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/01/03/ha…
Posted by i'm pro-science and i vote]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 17:08:46 -0800 The Stranger
This happens more often than some may think, just doesn't always get a) recorded and b) published online. The guys in this video, hell millions of guys like the ones in this video, are going to land good careers, get laid often, marry beautiful people etc. Figure that one out

I sure hope everyone seen and heard in this video will be forced to stand trial. An earlier commenter said something about how, at least someone in the video spoke out about how raping this girl wasn't cool. Fuck that, if your buddy just raped someone you call the cops and do everything you can to help the victim and get her the hell out of there
Posted by i'm pro-science and i vote]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 11:42:16 -0800 The Stranger
He was bringing up how sports culture (which many men belong to) contributes to the culture of entitlement everyone is blaming for events such as these. If you indeed believe that male entitlement leads to rape, the sports culture is the incubator of many males and often where they get a large portion of their male role models, for better or for worse. It should be examined.

If you want to change the culture you can not just ignore a large segment of the culture, just because you do not like sports, and you should not simply ignore someone trying to expand an understanding of the topic just because of their gender.
Posted by Theodore Gorath]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 11:24:06 -0800 The Stranger
Patronizing, minimizing, and trying to stop the debate - you call that being an ally ?

I'm not saying you're a rapist, though. But you say you do feel uninvolved in what happens to 51% of human beings. You were born out of a woman, may I remind you. No female can turn her back on every male's issue. And no male can turn his back on every female's issue.

If you don't feel solidarity nor compassion for an abused majority - then you're a definite enemy.
Posted by sissoucat]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 08:00:28 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Lissa]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 23:37:51 -0800 The Stranger About Victims

44% of victims are under age 18
80% are under age 30

Sexual Assault Numbers

Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted
There is an average of 207,754 victims (age 12 or older) of sexual assault each year

Reporting to Police

54% of sexual assaults are not reported to the police
97% of rapists will never spend a day in jail

About Rapists

Approximately 2/3 of assaults are committed by someone known to the victim
38% of rapists are a friend or acquaintance

Posted by harriettubman]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 23:01:24 -0800 The Stranger Posted by diner mo]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 20:18:03 -0800 The Stranger
Maybe the phrase "rape culture" just offends people. The more accurate phrase would be something like, "the choices/feelings/perceptions of half our population as a result of the likelihood of sexual assault, the experiences of our friends and ourselves with sexual assault, the way assault victims are treated by the media/justice system, and the constant exposure to various elements of culture that reinforce the idea that women lack autonomy and/or exist primarily for the sexual gratification of men". Or something like that.
Posted by wxPDX]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 16:40:43 -0800 The Stranger
So, it's in men's best interest to tell the jerks and rapists who make women feel unsafe to knock that shit off.
Posted by clashfan]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 15:11:34 -0800 The Stranger Posted by pheeeew!crack!boom!]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 15:02:20 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Lissa]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 12:00:21 -0800 The Stranger
@66 is unnecessary, but does point directly to a symptom of rape culture--men always have to be acknowledged in the discussion to soothe their sensitivity to being associated with the gender that perpetrates 99.99% of rape and sexual violence. Ugh, get over yourselves. Got a problem with other men making women fear men in general? Take it up with other men. Speak up when a douchedick spouts rape apologia. Hold yourself and your friends accountable for your words and attitudes. Rape culture devalues women's autonomy and voice--help your sisters out. The kinds of guys who don't respect women do respect other guys; that's how the culture will change.
Posted by femwanderluster]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 10:27:54 -0800 The Stranger
Thank you so much for your rant.

Yes, being a female means knowing, from early childhood on, that one is at high risk of being snatched and never heard from again. Getting older, one is told about rape. As adults, rape is always a possibility for us, strongest when out with "bad persons". And if we do happen to meet those "bad persons" and become a victim of them, we're told we haven't been careful enough.

Removing the "bad persons" from society is never considered as valid an option as telling females to be extra cautious.

Besides, don't worry about shaving your legs. Real men and real women don't obsess over someone else's pilosity. Natural, hairy legs, as nature intended : gorgeous.
Posted by sissoucat]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 08:03:31 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Eva Hopkins]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 04:39:43 -0800 The Stranger "NEWS ITEM: Hai you guys, look at this horrible facet of/product of rape culture, brought to us by Anonymous. That poor girl, those asshole football player guys."

THREAD: "What rape culture? Let's talk about sports. If you wanna talk a culture, clearly this is a SPORTS culture, not a rape culture.
And if you disagree, you're a radical feminist."

What am I, on Rush Limbaugh's site by mistake or summat?

I had this discussion with my older brother, who is a smart, good-hearted sort of guy. He didn't understand the idea of rape culture or how rape permeates so much of a woman's life. I gave him the example of computers. They have main processes/programs & subroutines.

Scenario: you have left a club, late at night, in the city. You need to walk to the Metro/subway to get back home. As you walk onto a long block, someone turns the corner & is now on the same block, side of the street opposite you, but walking towards you.

A man in this situation: his main process is calculating the route & putting his body in motion. I can't presume to know what their subroutine is, but my brother would likely be analyzing the show, did he like the choice of songs by the band, did he find the trip/ticket price/show to his liking.

After a brief subconscious check of person across the street for potential threat or to see if they know them, the main train of thought takes back over if neither of those things happens.

A woman in the same position, once the person across the street has been spotted, is likely a whole host of alarm bells pop up as a complex set of subroutines. Immediately the calculations begin.."if person across the street begins to approach me, how close am I to the nearest storefront/taxi/other escape route? Are the shoes I'm wearing good to run in? Do I have my hand on my cel phone/keys/mace/etc?"..& it's not a conscious thing. Most women I've talked to about it acknowledge a certain degree of basic unsafe-feeling they have if they go out at night alone. Maybe not all neighborhoods & maybe not always, but frequently. That coworker that looks at you too long could be a rapist. So could the guy who took you out for drinks. The cashier at the grocery store. Anyone.

The entitlement that comes with sports culture is part of the problem. But rape culture is out there. I don't mean the kinky stuff people get up to in their consensual free time, either. It's not sex-negative to talk about this.

I have worked for many years in comic books & was told earnestly that there was no sexism in the comic book industry, by a male college somewhat younger than myself. He'd never seen it, he explained, so it couldn't be real. Good on him if ppl have magically somehow sorted all that out, but is statement is a typical male reaction to the idea of rape culture. It doesn't exist, because it doesn't happen to you.

I hope that poor girl is getting some serious psychological care. Imagine this being out there int he world, & it's about you. I don't like the "public square" aspect of what Anonymous has done but it's forcing actual examination/conversation. Maybe it will help a few other young people avoid this situation in either role.

If agreeing that rape culture exists makes one some angry radical crazy feminist, BTW, fine, that's who I am. And I forgot to shave my legs this week, so let me confirm that assumption also. ;)


Posted by Eva Hopkins]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 04:37:37 -0800 The Stranger
Surely there must be enough people in America who would want to go to something like that.
Posted by James Hutchings]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 03:48:40 -0800 The Stranger Male privilege=making everything male-centric.
But wank on, by all means.
Posted by femwanderluster]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 19:40:04 -0800 The Stranger

Posted by You Are A Parody of Your Espoused Viewpoint]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 15:13:29 -0800 The Stranger Posted by youngisone]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 12:42:46 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Mister G]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 11:09:28 -0800 The Stranger
@58 gets it.

Posted by femwanderluster]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 10:55:41 -0800 The Stranger