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Posted by Miss Georgina peckett]]> Sat, 16 Feb 2013 22:10:55 -0800 The Stranger Posted by dcd6406]]> Thu, 10 Jan 2013 11:44:36 -0800 The Stranger I hope you get the help you need. I would also like to be helpful. I have been working with people with developmentally disabilities for more than 25 years. Presently I do Quality Assurance for the entire agency. My dream is to make a difference for the people with mental illness by providing similar structural care in terms of residences and vocational services. Its high time that we need to kick start this process. If you have confidence in me, please email me at pdasgupta@aabr.org or call me at 917 - 420 - 6844. I would really like to help. Sincerely, Pamela Dasgupta.l
Posted by PamelaDasgupta]]> Thu, 10 Jan 2013 06:43:33 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Retta]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 20:36:08 -0800 The Stranger Posted by wakeupamerica]]> Tue, 01 Jan 2013 16:26:31 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Wyatt's Mom]]> Sun, 30 Dec 2012 07:40:48 -0800 The Stranger Posted by stressedoutmom]]> Sat, 29 Dec 2012 06:50:45 -0800 The Stranger Posted by stressedoutmom]]> Sat, 29 Dec 2012 06:45:30 -0800 The Stranger Posted by tmcrorie]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 17:56:43 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Help500]]> Wed, 26 Dec 2012 11:13:23 -0800 The Stranger Drastic? Unfair? I know nothing about Adam Lanza or being Adam Lanza's mother. I refuse to watch or read any media reporting any tragic affair as such. I am a sole survivor. The only one left besides him in my family. Tonight, I spend Christmas Eve by myself again. Somewhere away he spends the same night in maximum security. As for the mental health community, could they have stopped it? No! Resounding NO! No guns. Just a murder's outrage. The person portraying to be Adam Lanza's mother has more knowledge of her child's mental illness than I or any others here. Offsetting his outrages and highlighting what she describes as a genius in him, I feel with certainty is a character of denial of the danger of the situation she describes. Mental illness is a cruel disease. Proper treatment should be sought responsibly. A desperate woman who drives her child to the hospital and summons police, I feel, should seek professional intervention to assist her in choosing treatment options. She needs to be strong, aggressive, and never turn her back. If you suspect your child has mental illness seek private healthcare providers since you state you have benefits. Search responsibly. Be prepared for shots in the dark. One drug, two drugs, or even the combination of multiple drug cocktails. Second, third opinions, when a treatment is not working, where do your options stop? The patient must admit and accept shortcomings with no feelings of guilt. The patient must be willing to accept and follow treatment whether in confinement or outpatient. Choices are tough. If you have to call the police and file charges to get anything done, choices are tough! My mother and sister hid the brutality of my nephew for years. Even from me. Choices are tough. After my sister's boss went to the houses when my sister did not show up for work,
my nephew awoke to a resounding knock. When asked where my mother and sister were, he answered, "They are next door. Dead." After he killed them in my mother's house, he returned next door, to go to sleep. No guns. No treatment. But in the end, the police were called. A report was filled out. Charges were filed. A trial took place. One young man sentenced to life in prison without any chance of parole. Two women slain. One laid face down in her blood to drown. And one's head placed on her favorite pillow with a dog leash still around her neck. With tears, I weep, choices are tough!
Posted by rtb159]]> Tue, 25 Dec 2012 03:29:11 -0800 The Stranger My husband sent me this post I am Adam's mom. I have not read it until today. As my husbadn know the little boy in the picture looks just like my beautiful son when he was a little boy! He is now 22 and suffers from mental illness. He's been diagnosed with anxiety disorder, depression, spectrum disorders, he's been hospitalized fro treatment ( whihc traumatized him more than helped him) They did nothing for him. They wanted our insurance: since it is good. I have fought for him to get services throughout his teen years from threatening to sue the school if they did not provide services and an education to getting him out of the hospital, he's had psych evals, neuropsych's changes in medication, etc. etc. And he still does not get all the services he needs. The mental health profession does not provide the services that people need. Society needs to change and stop blaming (parenting?)Obviously you don't get it. Try fighting the system for someone who has a mental illness, then give your opinion! My son also has a high IQ, a better vocabulary then his mom that holds a masters degree + and a deep love of books. He also writes poetry and stories. Due to his OCD he has had problems with acheiving higher education and a drivers license. It has been a long hard road for our family but we have persevered. Don't even get me started with gunlaws! I don't own a gun and will not allow them in my house! Every waking moment with this child is like walking on egg shells. I remember those days! My heart goes out to this mom who posted this link. Remember the joy!
Posted by non judgemental]]> Sun, 23 Dec 2012 07:50:43 -0800 The Stranger
At the risk of sounding badly - informed, callous, ignorant, insensitive, irresponsible or otherwise bound up in the tenacious grasp of some other undesirable personal attribute, I submit that the Newtown perpetrator wasn't any less healthy than most people his age; furthermore, anyone claiming that mental health professionals can stop these kinds of acts by improving the public's access to their 'services' is, at best, proposing an undercooked fast food entree in a world where the myriad choices one can make in life is represented by a vast gourmet menu written for an almost limitless range of palettes and tastes. On the fringes of this spectrum, there will always be people who refuse eat what is good for them, and those who will try to force others to eat what isn't. Or put another way: those who value self - control and those who value self - aggrandizement by their control of others.

What people call mental illness is as poorly understood today as it has ever been, despite what experts want us to think. There is compelling evidence to support this. A careful review of psychiatry's sordid history by its critics will reveal its abysmal and embarrassing track record. The attempts to control behavior by medicalizing it have largely failed, especially where it has counted the most. Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold were mental health clients; even the most experienced psychiatrists will admit that they cannot predict who might go off on a violent spree. So, do we just drug everyone deemed depressed, odd, troublesome or suspicious? Come to think of it, doctors have been administering ever - increasing amounts of psychiatric drugs to kids for decades; they now number in the tens of thousands. Seen any improvement in the 'patient' yet?

Of all the medical specialties, psychiatry the least scientific as well as the most demeaning. This shouldn't surprise anyone. Their primary function has always been to promote and enforce the ever - changing dominant ethic -- vis-a-vis the lawbreaker traversing the criminal justice system or the child traversing his family upbringing and compulsory public education -- not about curing physical illnesses verifiable by objective tests. People under 40 probably won't recall when homosexuality was considered a mental illness. Today, it's a civil right. How is such a bizarre metamorphosis even possible? It's a matter of convenience: The concerns of the shrink are almost universally focused on the least powerful, least organized and poorest members of society. Homosexuals, once viciously hounded at every level, increased their political power and social legitimacy over many years; psychiatry responded by becoming increasingly less interested in persecuting them. Eventually, they eliminated the 'diagnostic criteria' for this 'serious mental illness' from the DSM in 1973. It should be obvious that this isn't how scientists should approach their subjects; it's how bigots approach their scapegoats, cowering in retreat to save face only after they begin to recognize their own defeat. As Henrik Ibsen put it: “Was the majority right when they stood by while Jesus was crucified? Was the majority right when they refused to believe that the earth moved around the sun and let Galileo be driven to his knees like a dog? It takes fifty years for the majority to be right. The majority is never right until it does right.” Today, the majority believes in a thing called 'mental illness' (never mind that they don't even bother to define 'mental health') and are convinced that forcibly 'treating' it with neurotoxins is doing right. Thomas Szasz was correct when he observed that "scapegoating is the metabolism of society."

As a result of psychiatry's innumerable meddling interventions, society's foundational institutions have been corrupted to their core. The line between health and behavior is now so blurred by so many conflicting and competing interests -- propelled by intellectually dishonest rhetoric if not outright lies -- that people no longer take seriously the idea that bad behavior is a problem of ethics and morals, neither of which are amenable to the laws of physics. It is physics which ultimately guides honest medical practice, but to point out the metaphorical fallacy of mental illness today is to invite ridicule for being "unscientific", or presumed to be calling for a return to more fundamental religious dogmatism. (Ironically, clergymen often unwittingly defer to mental health professionals when confronted with troubled parishioners.) With the very concepts of free will, self - discipline and personal responsibility having been so thoroughly undermined by the ascendancy of Scientism and the belief that bad behavior is generated by out-of-control biological 'events' in the brain (with no corresponding belief whatsoever about the biological 'cause' of exceptionally good behavior), the chances of these positive values being restored in our lifetime, or even our children's, are so slim as to be non - existent. There is simply way too much corporate money, political power and the momentum of misguided public sentiment behind the mental health movement now.

On the other hand, if we want to continue living in an increasingly paranoid, dystopian society of snarky little backstabbing, Halo - trained amateur 'bioethicists', where people -- pretending to be doctors who hardly know wtf they're doing, poisoning clients who hardly know how they should act -- deciding who is mentally healthy, who is mentally sick, who will take what meds (with a one-way ticket to hell for the recalcitrant), good luck to us all. God and his fan club have been rendered moot in the face of such monumental, pernicious and widespread stupidity.

Finally, allow me to point out that a political experiment very similar to the one currently underway in the U. S. has been conducted before: State - sanctioned psychiatric control of deviants was the first ingredient in the cauldron where the most vitriolic social engineering concoction of the 20th Century was brewed. They called it "National Socialism". Few people saw the pharmageddon they were about to be served up then, either.

Further reading, which may guide the reader toward some of the underlying reasons for the failure of the mental health movement:

http://www.szasz.com/leifer.html

http://www.psychotherapy.net/interview/t…

http://m.newyorker.com/arts/critics/atla…
Posted by zarnivad]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 23:41:32 -0800 The Stranger
At the risk of sounding badly - informed, callous, ignorant, insensitive, irresponsible or otherwise bound up in the tenacious grasp of some other undesirable personal attribute, I submit that the Newtown perpetrator wasn't any less healthy than most people his age; furthermore, anyone claiming that mental health professionals can stop these kinds of acts by improving the public's access to their 'services' is, at best, proposing an undercooked fast food entree in a world where the myriad choices one can make in life is represented by a vast gourmet menu written for an almost limitless range of palettes and tastes. On the fringes of this spectrum, there will always be people who refuse eat what is good for them, and those who will try to force others to eat what isn't. Or put another way: those who value self - control and those who value self - aggrandizement by their control of others.

What people call mental illness is as poorly understood today as it has ever been, despite what experts want us to think. There is compelling evidence to support this. A careful review of psychiatry's sordid history by its critics will reveal its abysmal and embarrassing track record. The attempts to control behavior by medicalizing it have largely failed, especially where it has counted the most. Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold were mental health clients; even the most experienced psychiatrists will admit that they cannot predict who might go off on a violent spree. So, do we just drug everyone deemed depressed, odd, troublesome or suspicious? Come to think of it, doctors have been administering ever - increasing amounts of psychiatric drugs to kids for decades; they now number in the tens of thousands. Seen any improvement in the 'patient' yet?

Of all the medical specialties, psychiatry the least scientific as well as the most demeaning. This shouldn't surprise anyone. Their primary function has always been to promote and enforce the ever - changing dominant ethic -- vis-a-vis the lawbreaker traversing the criminal justice system or the child traversing his family upbringing and compulsory public education -- not about curing physical illnesses verifiable by objective tests. People under 40 probably won't recall when homosexuality was considered a mental illness. Today, it's a civil right. How is such a bizarre metamorphosis even possible? It's a matter of convenience: The concerns of the shrink are almost universally focused on the least powerful, least organized and poorest members of society. Homosexuals, once viciously hounded at every level, increased their political power and social legitimacy over many years; psychiatry responded by becoming increasingly less interested in persecuting them. Eventually, they eliminated the 'diagnostic criteria' for this 'serious mental illness' from the DSM in 1973. It should be obvious that this isn't how scientists should approach their subjects; it's how bigots approach their scapegoats, cowering in retreat to save face only after they begin to recognize their own defeat. As Henrik Ibsen put it: “Was the majority right when they stood by while Jesus was crucified? Was the majority right when they refused to believe that the earth moved around the sun and let Galileo be driven to his knees like a dog? It takes fifty years for the majority to be right. The majority is never right until it does right.” Today, the majority believes in a thing called 'mental illness' (never mind that they don't even bother to define 'mental health') and are convinced that forcibly 'treating' it with neurotoxins is doing right. Thomas Szasz was correct when he observed that "scapegoating is the metabolism of society."

As a result of psychiatry's innumerable meddling interventions, society's foundational institutions have been corrupted to their core. The line between health and behavior is now so blurred by so many conflicting and competing interests -- propelled by intellectually dishonest rhetoric if not outright lies -- that people no longer take seriously the idea that bad behavior is a problem of ethics and morals, neither of which are amenable to the laws of physics. It is physics which ultimately guides honest medical practice, but to point out the metaphorical fallacy of mental illness today is to invite ridicule for being "unscientific", or presumed to be calling for a return to more fundamental religious dogmatism. (Ironically, clergymen often unwittingly defer to mental health professionals when confronted with troubled parishioners.) With the very concepts of free will, self - discipline and personal responsibility having been so thoroughly undermined by the ascendancy of Scientism and the belief that bad behavior is generated by out-of-control biological 'events' in the brain (with no corresponding belief whatsoever about the biological 'cause' of exceptionally good behavior), the chances of these positive values being restored in our lifetime, or even our children's, are so slim as to be non - existent. There is simply way too much corporate money, political power and the momentum of misguided public sentiment behind the mental health movement now.

On the other hand, if we want to continue living in an increasingly paranoid, dystopian society of snarky little backstabbing, Halo - trained amateur 'bioethicists', where people -- pretending to be doctors who hardly know wtf they're doing, poisoning clients who hardly know how they should act -- deciding who is mentally healthy, who is mentally sick, who will take what meds (with a one-way ticket to hell for the recalcitrant), good luck to us all. God and his fan club have been rendered moot in the face of such monumental, pernicious and widespread stupidity.

Finally, allow me to point out that a political experiment very similar to the one currently underway in the U. S. has been conducted before: State - sanctioned psychiatric control of deviants was the first ingredient in the cauldron where the most vitriolic social engineering concoction of the 20th Century was brewed. They called it "National Socialism". Few people saw the pharmageddon they were really being served up then, either.

Further reading, which may guide the reader toward the reasons for the failure of the mental health movement:

http://www.psychotherapy.net/interview/t…

http://m.newyorker.com/arts/critics/atla…

Posted by zarnivad]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 23:20:09 -0800 The Stranger
Not sure if anyone asked you this but has your son even been tested for high functioning autism? Straight A student, inflexible with rules, goes off the handle when challenged, freaks out much like a young child would (even when beyond normal tantrum age). Your son just seems like a textbook case of a high functioning autistic that has gone untreated too long. Keep in mind most drugs used to treat childhood mental illnesses would actually make an autistic child worse, more sensitive to stimuli, more violent reactions. It forces them to overload faster.

If he hasn't been tested this group helps families with autistic children get the information and support they need. http://www.autismspeaks.org/

Hope this helps, only those in the same situation can truely comprehend the affect this has had on you and your family.
Posted by bfeat]]> Thu, 20 Dec 2012 10:59:07 -0800 The Stranger Posted by sissoucat]]> Thu, 20 Dec 2012 10:00:10 -0800 The Stranger Posted by jenniferevette]]> Thu, 20 Dec 2012 04:58:35 -0800 The Stranger
Re: I Am Adam Lanza's Mother

Thank you...thank you for sharing this incredibly painful story. I felt like you were telling the story of my life. For many years we suffered and everyday was filled with school counselors, prinicpals, PPT's, IEP's, Social Services, several psychiatrist's, group therapy, inpatient programs in the nations "best" metal facilities. Multiple diagnosis ranging from ADD, ADHD, ODD, PDD-NOS ... Ultimately binders of information, meetings gathering all of the key people from school administration alongside Dr's. Unfortunately, with all of that, our lives were very similar to yours.

MENTAL HEALTH must be addressed as the key underlining issue that leads to these tragedies.

Everyone would agree that assault rifles should and must be banned. No doubt, end of story. That still does not solve the issue.

Thank you again...I am sure many, many families are struggling alongside you with similar answers provided to your question --- When I asked my son's social worker about my options, he said that the only thing I could do was to get Michael charged with a crime. “If he’s back in the system, they’ll create a paper trail," he said. "That's the only way you’re ever going to get anything done. No one will pay attention to you unless you’ve got charges." ----

I received that answer as well. I too agree that jail is not the answer. I am also fairly certain that given your lack of options, there are times when you know it will be "easier" and "safer" .... similar to the school's "baby sitting" program. I am at a loss for words at this point as this was my life.

This must change!

Thank you again and I truly hope that a positive change will happen for you and your family soon.
Posted by Mom13]]> Wed, 19 Dec 2012 20:18:46 -0800 The Stranger
MENTAL HEALTH must be addressed as the key underlining issue that leads to these tragedies.

Everyone would agree that assault rifles should and must be banned. No doubt, end of story. That still does not solve the issue.

Thank you again...I am sure many, many families are struggling alongside you with similar answers provided to your question --- When I asked my son's social worker about my options, he said that the only thing I could do was to get Michael charged with a crime. “If he’s back in the system, they’ll create a paper trail," he said. "That's the only way you’re ever going to get anything done. No one will pay attention to you unless you’ve got charges." ----

I received that answer as well. I too agree that jail is not the answer. I am also fairly certain that given your lack of options, there are times when you know it will be "easier" and "safer" .... similar to the school's "baby sitting" program. I am at a loss for words at this point as this was my life.

This must change!

Thank you again and I truly hope that a positive change will happen for you and your family soon.
Posted by Mom13]]> Wed, 19 Dec 2012 20:15:07 -0800 The Stranger
Sincerely:

A man who never was the way boys were supposed to be.
Posted by dwightmoodyforgetsthings]]> Wed, 19 Dec 2012 14:00:08 -0800 The Stranger