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      <title>Comments On: SL Letter of the Day: The Hole Truth
    
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      <![CDATA[I dunno, but if it were me I'd bet on the guys who'll think it's hot and disclose, like @8 said, after intercourse #1. <br />
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It makes sense, since she wrote this letter just after finding out and is probably still processing the news, that she's contextualizing this as a liability. But this is just as easily viewed as a total asset, and you'd think Dan would have pointed that out. Hot damn.
        
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      <![CDATA[@13:  disclose this to people before you even meet them?  how is that called for?  jesus, no--you have this convo when the discussion of future family plans comes up.  and how well have you thought this thru, now i think of it?  two vaginas does not imply fertility problems.  when did she ever indicate that?  the baby comes out one or the other of them, and if that's a problem with that scenario, there's this thing we've safely had for decades now called a "caesarian section," duh.
        
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      <![CDATA[I disagree with Dan and agree with #13. If this means she has an issue with fertility, then I think she should  put "I have risks with infertility" on her online dating page. This isn't something that is really fair to spring on somebody who might have their own plans, especially if they've assumed your normal and invested a lot of time in you.
        
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      <![CDATA[My friend had two uteruses, and she didn't find out about that until she got pregnant in the one that wasn't fully functional. It's fair to say that was a nightmare.
        
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    <author><![CDATA[PCM]]></author>
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      <![CDATA[I want someone to compose and perform a theme song for the new sitcom <i>My Two Vaginas </i>and post it on YouTube. I'm thinking something that tells a story, like for <i>Green Acres</i> or <i>The Brady Bunch. </i>If someone does that, I'll die a happy man.
        
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    <author><![CDATA[rob!]]></author>
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      <![CDATA[Uhhhh.... two thumbs up—way up (consensually, of course)??
        
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    <author><![CDATA[mr. herriman]]></author>
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      <![CDATA[My old best friend had this! She didn't know until she was like 20. She wasn't bothered by it, but she was fascinated. And it answered the question that had been bugging her forever - why tampons seemed to work so well for everyone else but not for her ;)<br />
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Far as I know she never bothered to disclose to casual partners, only boyfriends, and none of them freaked out.
        
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    <author><![CDATA[college dude from madison]]></author>
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      <![CDATA[A wonderful couple did a hilarious AMA about their experience with this on Reddit about this recently. Fucking great stuff. <br />
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I would disclose after intercourse #1, after he's seen that you're totally functional and that nothing seems out of place. Might be a little mind-blowing for pillow talk, but a "hey, by the way..." would fit in pretty easily (hehe, fit in)
        
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      <![CDATA[I would find it hot and fascinating.
        
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      <![CDATA[<br />
Wouldn't most guys find this insanely hot?  Because of the obvious double, in fact triple penetration possibilities?  <br />
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      <![CDATA[Yeah, I think think should come up earlier than 3 months (depending on how soon into a relationship you have sex). Ideally around the time you start having PIV and are exploring each others bodies, and present it as an interesting quirk of your body and not a big deal and it won't be one.
        
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      <![CDATA[I know this is an old letter. But isn't it the kind of thing that could come up somewhat naturally, during the "how do you like to be touched/what gets you off" conversation? I mean, everyone has that fairly early (definitely earlier than three months) right?
        
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      <![CDATA[(waits patiently for a proper "2 dicks" comment)
        
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      <![CDATA[Eeny meeny miney moe.
        
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      <![CDATA[Good luck finishing the book!!
        
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