A dominant woman has some advice for submissive married straight guys:
First of all, weâre going to assume that if youâre married and looking for play outside of your marriage, youâre trying to cheat on your wife. Maybe thatâs fair and maybe itâs not, but there are an awful lot of men who are in fact looking to cheat, so itâs not an unreasonable assumption to make.
What do you do about this? Well for starters, donât cheat. How do you prove youâre not cheating? Be completely up front about your situation and ideally introduce potential doms to your wife. I realize that wonât work for everyone, but it really is the best way to convince a dom youâre not a cheating asshole. If you canât introduce people to your wife, be prepared to get to know them really well over a long period of time before theyâll even consider putting play on the table.
Weâre also going to worry that weâll be treated like a dirty little secret. Some people do enjoy a bit of secrecy, but an awful lot of people are going to want to be acknowledged as an important person in your life. You donât have to tell everyone you have a new dom and that you call her Mistress Lash (donât do that, that would be weird), but whatâs so bad about âThis is my friend ____â or about just having coffee together with no kink once in a while?
You're invited to go read the whole thing. Unless you're a submissive married straight guy, in which case you're ordered to go read the whole thing.