Alison Stevenson writes at Vice:

I don't suck dick. That's the deal, plain and simple. I know this statement is sure to enrage heaps of men, and even women, who consider blowjobs a mandatory part of anyone's sexual repertoire. I totally get that. Here's the thing, though: I fucking hate it. I've never enjoyed cramming a penis in my mouth. Now, before you go and report me to the MRA, I want to clarify that this does not at all mean I hate penises. I don't think they are ugly, or gross. The standard penis has quite a practical and sleek design, which I greatly admire. As much as I love my vagina and all its parts, I do often find myself jealous of how worry-free the penis seems to be. If you tried talking to a penis about daily discharge, menstruation, pH balance, or pap smears, the penis would have nothing to say in return.

Here's the thing that has people flipping out on Twitter and in the comments thread: Alison won't suck your dick, but she pretty much insists on having her clit sucked.

I currently have a man in my life who I'm not exactly dating, but who comes over about once a week to eat me out. The only thing I give him in return is a pat on the back for doing a good job. Some might think this arrangement is strange, but I prefer to think of it as pretty damn close to perfect. It was on our second date that I first gave him the opportunity to suck on my clitoris. After thanking him for giving me a ride home, I simply said, "Want to come up to my place and eat me out?" He gave me an enthusiastic yes, and we got to it. I sat on his face until I came, then sent him home. This has been our arrangement for a little over two months now. If you're wondering why we don't have sex, it's because I have made a promise to myself not to have sex until I'm in a relationship. While this guy is obviously very generous, the chemistry is not really there when it comes to the little things, like conversation.

Since starting things with him, I have resolved to never suck a dick again. I have also resolved to refuse getting romantically involved with any man who doesn't want to eat me out.

The internet is pretty angry with Alison Stevenson right now. But I'm not.

I once told a guy whose girlfriend wouldn't suck his dick that "oral sex comes standard, any model that arrives without it should immediately be returned to the lot." That line is sometimes cited as evidence of my terrible, no good, very bad sexism: Dan Savage told all women everywhere that they have to suck dick—even the lesbians! But the very next letter in that very same column was from a woman whose boyfriend wouldn't eat her pussy. And my advice for her was exactly the same: "Oral sex comes standard, any model that arrives without it should immediately be returned to the lot." The fact that I ordered all men everywhere to eat pussy—even the gay men—never makes it into the outraged tumblr posts about that time I ordered all women everywhere to suck dicks.

Anyway...

I still believe "oral comes standard," but I don't have a problem with Stevenson's piece in Vice or her "no recip" approach to oral sex. So long as she can find guys who love eating pussy and don't care about getting their dicks sucked—or are free to get their dicks sucked elsewhere—Stevenson's one-way approach to oral sex isn't a problem.

Just one quibble with the piece...

I sat on his face until I came, then sent him home. This has been our arrangement for a little over two months now. If you're wondering why we don't have sex, it's because I have made a promise to myself not to have sex until I'm in a relationship.

Oral sex is sex. What Stevenson means, of course, is that she isn't having PIV sex with this guy. Her piece concludes with a call for women to be more assertive about what they want. Totally agree with her on that. But it will be easier for women to ask for what they want if "sex" isn't understood to mean "vaginal penetration."