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Also, as a Bisexual man, I am distressed that Dan Savage has imported his Homosexual values into my head.
There ought to be a law.
NOTHING!!
she has been ECSTATIC for, what, TWO whole weeks?!
Danny! you are a GENIUS!
and FOOT RUBBING? O.M.F.G.....
three-ways? not true?
are you ashamed of the adultery you advocate?
(did the HATERS mention the doorknob licking?
it adds such a humanizing touch...)
Did they credit you with "monogamishit"? no? sue their asses...
don't be shy. or buttsore. embrace the slut.
Plus, no hormonal bc to mess with women's libidos, no pain-in-the-neck condoms, and no worries or fears about accidental pregnancy. Sex becomes much better. MUCH.
definitely the cure for what ails society.
why didn't someone think of it sooner?
fuck skipping to Gommorah. SPRINT!
and the best part is how well vasectomies protect against STDs.
dumbass.
isn't it true that most men who have been with you have been inspired to run right out for a vasectomy?
even the so preciously cute teeny tiny self-selected sample of affluent lesbian couples in the study you trot out every few months separated more than heteros.
could it be possible that egalitarianism isn't all that, and "happier" doesn't mean what you pretend it does, and less sexually restrictive (aka slutting around) is not the path to nirvana after all?
also don't use words like 'pogrom' if you don't know what they mean.
your cheap ignorant hysteria is an insult to actual pogrom victims.
totally.
and without all that nifty decadence the STD rate would still be in the single digits. boring.
LIBERATION!
That's what they want. The idea that men and women, men and men, women and women, four men and three women, WHATEVER, could be happy and authentic and confident and empowered, well, that just scares the shit out of them. It's not so much the haters hating, it's the fearers fearing - and that's expressed as hate.
At least that's this 50-something straight white guy's take on it.
what a delusional pile of horseshit.
children raised by their married biological parents do far better in life than children raised in any other situation.
and children living in households with unmarried adults are at much greater risk of abuse and neglect. just like danny points out in his gloating "Every child Deserves..."
adultery is a sure precursor to divorce. foot rubbing optional.
No doubt,
grateful to have gotten a shot at a woman who did not "view his desire as another thing (she) had to find time for in the day."
the prospect of desert may make the prospect of slogging through tasteless gruel bearable but at some point hubby is going to decide he deserves desert every night and skip the bland tasteless dry sour offerings at home
It is such an easy operation (though I will say my doc said I had a really large vas deferens that required a double clip before cauterization. So I had that going for me. Which was nice (I guess. Never really was able to capitalize on such a gift)) and I had zero side effects. And it has worked - still no kid #5.
I canNOT understand guys who whine about messing with their junk or that they would be less a man. It is as though they think that they are cutting out your balls. I look at it this way: if your partner has had children with you and, in many cases, was on the pill for many years when you were trying NOT to have children, why not ante up and get the ol' vas tied off. Way easier than continuing medication and certainly way easier than a tubal.
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Mr O, in the spirit of your post, you ought to be claiming that "your" Bi Ideas took root in Mr Savage and trying to sue him for plagiarism. Opportunity missed.
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And parallel tracks, perhaps, but not hand in hand. Pushing hand in hand buys into binormativity, and leaves same-sexers at risk if the birth rate gets unacceptably low (see: Russia).
Dan, a bit disappointed by your tepid response to LaBarbera here, especially if you feel your family has been attacked, and on a national stage. Other than the astonishingly disrespectful and dismissive 'supposed husband' and 'non-family' comments, which shows how bigoted, narrow and repressed an idea Labarbera has of what constitutes a family, everything he said is factually true - you DO advocate for straights being more like gays. You invented the term monogomish, for god's sake.
Every day The National Press Club airs on public radio stations all across the country + CSPAN. You maybe have a lot of extra/new people checking you out at the moment who have only known you as the It Gets Better guy, who have just learned that you have a kid and are in an open relationship. You have yet another opportunity to frame and educate about this, to a new crowd. Monogamish doesn't necessarily equate with being 'promiscuous' or 'reckless'. It can save and strengthen relationships, especially the long term married types Pete advocates for.
The woman's letter is great, but posting a fan letter is a bit lame in response to being attacked. Why not re-state your case and come out with guns blazing, as you do over so many issues?
because it is Danny's shameful little secret that he advocates "less sexually restrictive" (aka slutting around) for EVERYONE.
which is EXACTLY what the HATERS have said about him all along.
Our Little Danny would rather lose his nuts than admit that Maggie et al are RIGHT.
why do you suppose Danny is so oddly quiet about legalizing poly relationships?
it would fit in EXACTLY with his claimed positions on poly and marriage equality.
but Our Little Danny dare not allow the HATERS to say; 'see, the filthy homosexual pervert wants to TOTALLY destroy marriage!"
hence Our Hero's cowardly silent sulking on the subject.
when it comes to Poly our Little Danny is a Cowardly Hypocrite, silent in the face of Injustice he has a perfect platform to fight against, a veritable Moral Midget.
Our Teeny Tiny Moral Coward is EXACTLY what Dr King had in mind when he said 'In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends...'
so ironic that Danny is the same bigoted cowardly moral mutant he so loudly rails against.
perhaps his pet name for himself is ASSHOLE BIGOT......
Why would Dan bother expending more energy than he needs to on these assholes? It would just be a pissing contest.
but when the HATERS out him on his poly activity in a prominent national forum he does not defend his family or beliefs, he merely meekly mews and then posts this drivel from a deluded shrew.
no wonder Terry has to look elsewhere when he wants a Real Man in his bed...
Also: vasectomies. While it does show a willingness on the man's part to take responsibility for BC, given that pregnancy is only one form of STI, it's probably not enough to really address what you have to worry about in a multi-partner scenario. Honestly, pregnancy is pretty far down on the list for me - so why get a vasectomy if I'm likely to wear a condom anyway? When we are done having children, I might consider this to relieve my wife of hormonal BC (though she professes to prefer it for cycle regularity).
no doubt your sperm WOULD be an infectious agent...
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right answer, indeed. because no woman would want to carry your spawn, for sure.
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totally. its not like Danny writes books about his family or anything
We joked all the way home that he was a whore trying to avoid the consequences of his dirty, dirty actions. :)
Well.
You can bet your trolly ass that if it had been a bunch of 13 year old xtian schoolgirls Dan would have given them WhatFor!
So there.
Its not like Danny did nothing.
He was soooo angry he licked all of the doorknobs and toilet seats in the men's room at the National Press Club.
.
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of course, he does that everytime he is in WashingtonDC but this time he REALLY meant it!
spark99@37 condoms don't do much to prevent the spread of herpes, sadly. Or gonorrhea or HPV. Mostly they're good against HIV, chlamydia, hep B and hep C, I gather. Regular testing is important as well, and open, non-judgmental conversations about test results, and having some tolerance for risk.
And I love the analytical jump from Dan's son to Dan's sex life with his faux husband. This leap always gives me pause: since when do any children of any parents know what are the typical, er, ins and outs, of their parents' sex lives?
Our side immediately replies with, quite rightly, the data documenting that the children of gay parents do just fine, and in some studies better than straight parents, in no small part because the children are wanted and planned for.
But why don't folks point out that it's inappropriate and damaging for any child to know whether or not mom likes bondage, or dad likes being pegged, or mommy and daddy have "man-on-top-get-it-overwith-quick" sex, or whatever? Whether it's the most vanilla sex ever of the permanently and righteously monogamous or group BDSM in dungeons, it's NOT the children's business.
I've always thought that this argumentative slip implies, ffs, that monogamish couples, whether gay or straight, fuck before their children! It's just another reason why these arguments are hateful and dishonest bullshit.
And I really wish someone would publicly call them on it. "So, Senator Vitter, how do you discuss your diaper fetish with your 4 children? Your diaper stash is a threat to your children! You cannot be a parent!"
But I take issue with you calling pregnancy an STI.
This is of course a great coping mechanism for people who are miserable but can't bring themselves to make the changes they'd need to make to be happy.
http://aje.oxfordjournals.org/content/15…
"Among 429 participants with known Gc/Ct exposure, consistent condom use was associated with a significant reduction in prevalent gonorrhea and chlamydia (30% vs. 43%)."
So, yes, condoms reduce the possibility of transmission, but a third of the participants still managed to get gonorrhea or chlamydia from their partners despite using condoms consistently.
The CDC doesn't address this directly but admits that it doesn't know how good condoms are at protecting against the spread of most STIs
"epidemiologic studies have shown that condom use reduces the risk of many other STDs. However, the exact magnitude of protection has been difficult to quantify because of numerous methodological challenges."
One theory is that an individual will end up with bacteria on their hands during foreplay, before putting the condom on, effectively inoculating the outside of the condom with bacteria. Oral sex will also play its part too.
Ah, to be young and punk.
I hapen to be both a woman and a slogger and most of the women I've talked with about hormonal BC just hate it. Still, some of them like it, and all together that minority surely amounts to "many women".
Peace.
@52 - that's just awesome.
If the supposedly natural, universal, eternal, godly monogamous heterosexual marriage is such a bedrock thing, why are these nutjobs acting like it's so fragile? Don't they believe in it?
This is the challenge of hate propaganda -- hard to warn people about the seductiveness of something evil without making it sound really cool.
They're basically implying that gays have more fun, are more adventurous, and get to make sex a bigger part of their lives that straight people do. Must be why the "gay agenda" is so popular. : - )
It's really sad that these bigots can't just come out of the closet and embrace their true sexual selves. Talk about compensating.....