Have you considered that maybe, just maybe, your ex- isn't a major asshole? Perhaps, just throwing this out there, the guy who raped you is a major asshole, and the second guy is actually just a normal guy who did something that wasn't ok with you, and you unloaded all over him like he was the same as the first guy. Not saying that what guy#2 did was ok, just perhaps is wasn't as bad as what #1 did, and maybe you might be overreacting?

I don't know. Just wondered if you'd thought about it.

@1 could be, but thats just speculation at this point.

What he needed to do was DEFRIEND him and keep him self distracted. Eventually that sense of infatuation and obsession fades. Ex's should NEVER stay in your social media, it will just drive you mad. Makes it easier to pretend they never existed.

Re: Earlabia - CBC ran a story about cosmetic surgery available to fix the gaping holes when regret sets in.

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/re…

@1: that seems like some massive over-interpretation to me. NEN never said this guy was as big an asshole as rapist guy. This ex could very well be a major asshole in his own right. "Doing something that isn't okay with him", depending on the thing, could *certainly* have revealed him to be a major asshole.

@1: Nothing's impossible, but it is slightly bizarre that you're downplaying the perfectly valid answer that attraction ISN'T ALWAYS HEALTHY.

People are still "attracted" to people who abuse them on many levels. Still being attracted to exes is not a sign that an ex is a good person.

i hope the dude got some therapy for issue #2.