Man, I'd just shoved a bite of cupcake in my mouth before reading "Love is making out with someone after you've blown a load on his/her face." There is cupcake all over my keyboard. I nearly choked. It was worth it :)
@9: I fear that Dan2012 would have been far less silly, gross, and entertaining. Dan's done some wonderful growing and he has a larger audience and is occasionally very supportive and caring, but he's also either gotten cautious about his language or more aware of his influence, and the humor has occasionally been sacrificed.
Heh. Another example of Mr. Savage giving someone to cry about, "Oh I don't like all that vulgar language." Well here he goes technically using no coarse language and technically answering the question while actually getting a laugh.
I think Dan may be confusing post-coital lust for love but that's just me. Maybe it was a clumsy way of saying that even with flaws, you see the wonder and greatness of another person.
As someone married almost 30 years (how did that happen?), I offer this as to being in love and knowing the "one" :
If that person matters to you in a way others don't.
If that person makes you laugh or smile or be happy in a way others don't.
If that person's flaws/bad habits don't annoy you the way they would in another person.
That person's smile/kiss/touch/voice thrills you (and consistently so).
But mostly two things:
- you feel only acceptance and love with this person. You can show your true face to that person without fear of being rejected or laughed at.
Not anger or even worse, contempt. Love means never holding the other person in contempt.
- that person has your back. Meaning, you trust that person. If you don't believe that person will stand by you in good and bad, he/she is not the one. If YOU won't stand by the person in good and bad, you aren't in love.
Westello @15: after almost 20 years with my partner, I love him dearly, but it's not all roses. Love for me is that he's my best friend. When his quirks annoy me, I just ride them out as his downsides are so minimal compared to his upsides and I know that with no reservation. And he accepts my quirky -- and often annoying -- self for who I am. We respect each other's independence, privacy, and autonomy while at the same time functioning as a unit. That's love. Along with, of course, a sex life we're both happy with.
... a score of zero in tennis?
or even several someones a day.
I think Dan may be confusing post-coital lust for love but that's just me. Maybe it was a clumsy way of saying that even with flaws, you see the wonder and greatness of another person.
As someone married almost 30 years (how did that happen?), I offer this as to being in love and knowing the "one" :
If that person matters to you in a way others don't.
If that person makes you laugh or smile or be happy in a way others don't.
If that person's flaws/bad habits don't annoy you the way they would in another person.
That person's smile/kiss/touch/voice thrills you (and consistently so).
But mostly two things:
- you feel only acceptance and love with this person. You can show your true face to that person without fear of being rejected or laughed at.
Not anger or even worse, contempt. Love means never holding the other person in contempt.
- that person has your back. Meaning, you trust that person. If you don't believe that person will stand by you in good and bad, he/she is not the one. If YOU won't stand by the person in good and bad, you aren't in love.
A His girlfiend taps him on the backside and says "You're in, love."
A His girlfiend taps him on the backside and says "You're in, love."
Nothing in Dan's description precludes there being other lovers with whom sharing breakfast and juices is as sweet and nice.