I'm a 16-year-old bisexual guy with a preference—at least at this point in time—for guys. I have a girlfriend. I have known her for almost five years. We have been in a long-distance relationship since September 2011. Despite the fact that she moved from where I live up to about four hours north by car, we still manage to have a great relationship. For example, I attended her Prom earlier this month.
However, I also attended my city's LGBTQ Prom this past Saturday. There I met a 17-year-old guy that I found somewhat attractive. He hit on me throughout the night. I gave him my number, not thinking he would take that as an initiative to try to start a relationship with me, but that night and the day after, however, he texted me often, and made me both uncomfortable and enthralled.
My girlfriend—let's call her "Selena"—and I have a very good relationship, but, both of us being bisexual, we have discussed the possibility of being in an exclusive heterosexual relationship with one another whil having smaller relationships with the same-gender partners on the side. She had a friend-with-benefits near the beginning of our relationship that she no longer sees but the topic hasn't been brought up in a while. I am worried as to the outcome of telling her about my "crush." Selena has always enjoyed our talks about each other's same-gender attractions, but I'm incredibly clueless as to how to discuss this to her.
The texts that the boy—let's call him "Dave"—sent me, some of them at least, were sexual in nature, and we discussed possibly meeting up and starting a sexual relationship. He lives very close to where I do and attends a school a block from my house. I am a virgin—both genders considered—and the idea of sex right now makes me uneasy. But I am interested. Still, sex as an idea scares me at this point and I don't think I'd be ready for that sort of thing. As such, this afternoon, I told Dave that I felt we were moving too fast. He agreed. I still, though, felt like I wanted to get to know him better, possibly as a future boyfriend.
I suppose I have two problems:
1. How should I talk to Selena about this? I'm sure she wouldn't be too opposed to the idea, but if she were, I would probably feel a bit inhibited. Should I bring it up as a question or as an idea? I'm sincerely clueless.
2. How can I have a good relationship with Dave in a non-sexual way? He has gone as far as giving and receiving blowjobs, and I would be uncomfortable with both at this point in my life. I like him a lot, but is it a bit too much to ask to be more than friends if he is sexually active and I am not interested in the idea.
Thank you very much.
Not Agreeable Intervals
P.S. My apologies if this problem is a bit juvenile.
My response after the jump.
News of Obama’s usage of the dirty “s” word [NOTE: She means "shit," but she cannot type the word "shit," perhaps because she is Mormon, or an elementary-school student.] came when Huffington Post editor Ethan Klapper tweeted “Obama hot mic just now — ‘I gotta get my sh……’” right after the president allegedly used the full-length version of the obscenity....Fox Nation has muffled audio of the utterance, although I’ve listened to it about ten times and still cannot make out any bad language. And Mary Ann LoFrumento says he never swore to begin with, having tweeted in the aftermath of Klapper’s tweet, “I was sitting close to the President on the platform and he said ‘I gotta get my gift’ referring to his medal of distinction.”
This is the most important issue of our time! Here's the video:

Heather McHugh, the certified genius—by The Stranger and then, a few months later, by John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur—is reading from a wide range of her work on Thursday, May 17, at Kane Hall at 8 pm. It's free. If you care at all about poetry—or humor, or life—you should go.
The Roethke memorial reading is a big deal. This is its 49th year. Past readers: Robert Lowell, Elizabeth Bishop, James Merrill, Seamus Heaney, and other world-famous poets.
The addition of light rail is driving up rents and hastening gentrification in one of Puget Sound's most racially diverse neighborhoods—Rainier Valley—and without aggressive new jobs and housing policies that favor working class families, the fabric of the neighborhood will be destroyed, argues a report released yesterday by the Seattle Alliance for Good Jobs and Housing for Everyone (SAGE).
"Since construction of the light rail land values around the stations have increased dramatically," says the SAGE report. Already, minority populations are dwindling, the report continues, and "The presence of light rail stations in Rainier Valley is likely to cause more gentrification."
While the minority population grew by 47 percent over the last decade in King County (and the white population shrank by two percent), in Rainier Valley, the trend is reversed: Communities of color only increased by 5 percent over that same period—and the white population increased by 17 percent.
The study notes that 23 percent of low-income Rainier Valley residents depend on public transit to get to work (versus only 14 percent of their more affluent neighbors)—and thus would benefit the most from transit-oriented development.
"The report highlights, and we hear it over and over again, that the success of light rail threatens to destroy what we find beautiful in the neighborhood," explains Seattle City Council member Mike O'Brien, a staunch advocate for more light rail who expressed concern not only for low-income residents but for local businesses in the area. "The mix of cultural businesses is critical and they might not exist if real estate triples in the next few years. We're pretty good about housing in the city, but when it comes to affordable retail space, it's definitely a new field for us."
A 21-year-old British waitress, who was reportedly nicknamed "little tits" by her manager (though he denies it), has been awarded 10,000 pounds in a sexual discrimination lawsuit against the pub where she worked.
Miss Broughton, 21, told the panel Mr Stephens asked her if she was wearing a push-up bra to enhance her cleavage after he had been drinking. When the university graduate did not respond, he said: “Well you really should.”Miss Broughton said he then told her the pub, the Rutland Arms in Sheffield, would get more customers and she would receive more tips if she boosted her décolletage.
She told the tribunal how the comments, which lasted over a six-month period, affected her confidence. "I felt upset and degraded and very self-conscious," she said. "I was a bit scared. I didn't want to talk about it to anyone."
As Bethany said in the office, good for her for having the guts to sue that asshole and the asshole pub that decided he would make a good manager of people.
Now his fans are going to have to go through the seven steps of grief all over again!
Texas Rep. Ron Paul (R) has conceded that he cannot win the presidential nomination, but he is not dropping out of the race, his campaign announced Tuesday morning.
So he can't win the nomination, but he's still in the race. It's the Newt Gingrich strategy, then, is it?

Democratic US Representative Rick Larsen just dodged a bullet in WA-02, where Democratic challenger Dick McManus has apparently announced that he is dropping out of the race... or the dance... or something. You read the exact wording of his statement for yourself and see if you can figure it out:
Because I have not raised $1,740 in campaign contrabutions, my name and issues will not be on the ballet.
It's hard to imagine how the McManus campaign was so shockingly derailed, but I can only presume that failing to raise enough money to pay the filing fee might have something to do with it. Also, spelling.
The first part in Derek Erdman's investigative report, which is based completely on SCIENCE.
Surprise, surprise—people, who are fallible, can apparently make mistakes when they kill other people for killing people. And the case in Texas reported on here is just terrible. Take it away, Supreme Court justice Antonin Scalia:
A few years ago, Antonin Scalia, one of the nine justices on the US supreme court, made a bold statement. There has not been, he said, "a single case – not one – in which it is clear that a person was executed for a crime he did not commit. If such an event had occurred … the innocent's name would be shouted from the rooftops."
Start shouting, people, and check out the amazing, exhaustive work done by the Columbia Human Rights Law Review on the anatomy of a wrongful execution.
Is it possible that only this one innocent man has been killed? Snowball's chance in hell. Humans can't even get an eye for an eye right. The death penalty is unconscionable hubris.
From this Sunday's NYT:
COLIMA, Mexico — After her son Alfredo was killed last year at his auto parts shop, Carmen Plascencia de Carrillo noticed that two half sisters skipped the wake and funeral.
“Maybe your son was involved in other things,” Mrs. Carrillo recalled them explaining, to her fury.
A brother of the victim, Rafael Carrillo, found neighbors keeping their distance from him. He was also told not to come to a cousin’s wedding for fear he might pose a risk to other guests. A sister’s food stand experienced a decline in customers.
From what the reporter was able to dig up, Alfredo de Carrillo seemed to be the victim of an extortion racket—some Mexican officials didn't answer the reporter's calls and others were typically vague—but the community is now afraid to get anywhere near his family.
The article is a good step in documenting some of the underreported social damage of the drug war.
But it misses one important point: the drug war isn't about an "underworld" and an "overworld." The drug war in Mexico is part of the world, a single economy that is integrated between government and narcos, and has been growing in that direction since the early 1900s. (For some evidence on this, see here, here [they arrested the mayor, the police chief, a city trustee and nine others, all of whom pleaded guilty], here, here, here, here, and pretty much anywhere else you care to look.)
Superstar books intern Catherine R. Smyka needs her life back, and that means I need a new books intern to start at the end of this month. Could that books intern be you?
Here are the nuts and bolts of it: Internships last three months, and they take up about ten to twelve hours a week or so of your time per week. They are unpaid, though there are lots of free books involved. Duties include assembling the readings calendar, filing the dozens of new books that come into The Stranger's offices every week, and contacting publishers with book requests and review information. Organization is important, accuracy is key, and a good sense of humor helps. Being a reader is a necessity, although favorite genres and topics are entirely unimportant. This is a good gig for booksellers, librarians, people looking for clips to start them on the path to the lucrative field of book reviewing, and people who would like to learn more about different aspects of the publishing industry.
If this is you, or if you would just like more information about the internship, please send me an e-mail at pconstant@thestranger.com. Put "Internship" in the subject line, tell me why you think you'd be a good intern and what you'd like to get out of the internship, and include some writing samples. I hope to hear from you soon.
There's been some coverage of Seattle Mayor Mike McGinn's proposed broadband strategy recently that I'm pretty sure is getting it wrong. "Seattle pulls plug on its broadband network," the Seattle Times' Brier Dudley reported last week about the end of the city's free public Wi-Fi experiment along the Columbia City business district. "Seattle abandons plan for city broadband network," the SeattlePI.com's Scott Gutierrez added yesterday, reporting that the city is "ditching its years-long quest to build a city-sponsored fast broadband network."
Well, not exactly. Yesterday the mayor announced plans to seek a new ordinance that would permit the city to lease out to private partners more than 500 miles of city-owned fiber optic cable to help facilitate faster broadband to poorly served neighborhoods. Which is exactly what the mayor was talking about last year at a May 23, 2011 press conference he held in Pioneer Square:
"Today is a small tangible step," the mayor said, referring as much to his announcement that he would ask the City Council for permission to lease out city-owned conduit as he was to the ditch and work crew in the background. If the Council agrees, the city will put out a request for proposal to telco and cable operators to hook up and serve this four block stretch of Pioneer Square. If no one bids, McGinn said the city would consider "whether we can just do it ourselves."
The city ended up leasing its four-block stretch of Pioneer Square conduit to Comcast, which pulled fiber and is now serving more than 50 new customers in the neighborhood with high speed broadband service. That's exactly what McGinn is proposing for the rest of the 500 miles of city-owned fiber. And that's been his official broadband strategy for at least the past year.
....but that's mostly because people rarely send us obituaries to run. But then someone did, and here it is.

Name of Deceased: Rony Wiesel
Age : 51
Date of Death : 05/04/2012
Last Residence : Seattle Washington
Place of Birth : Toronto, Canada
Work History : Art Director and Writer/Editor at various papers
Education : Reed College - English Lit
Synagogue Affiliation : Seattle Kollel
Hobbies / Interests : Writer, Editor, Property Management and Real Estate

I believe it was Brendan who recently brought up the idea on Slog that a good obituary makes you wish you'd met the deceased. This is a good obituary.
A major figure in Mexican literature is dead at age 83. I love Terra Nostra, his enormous, ambitious novel about the history of the intersection between Mexican and European culture. But that's a difficult, demanding book for a first-timer who wants to get to know Fuentes; if you're interested in starting with him, try The Old Gringo or The Years with Laura Díaz.
A Florida mother who fatally shot her four children before killing herself Tuesday called three of the kids who had sought help from a neighbor back to the house before firing the fatal shots, authorities said.... Three of the children had gone to a neighbor's front door before dawn to say their mother had shot them. The mother then called the children back to the house and killed them.

I'll be reading from the book that I first fell in love with, Jon Stone's The Monster at the End of This Book. Other readers include Sherman Alexie, Congressman Jim McDermott, a Rat City Rollergirl, several poets, a monorail driver, an air force pilot, and many more. During the day, First Book will be holding raffles and hosting a silent auction. Feel free to stop by with your favorite kid for a story (or two or three or seven). It's free and open to the public.
If you're not in the Seattle area or if you're otherwise occupied this weekend, I urge you to make a donation to First Book anyway. Fifteen bucks buys six books for a poor child who otherwise would have none. Literacy is one of the most important gifts we can give children; a love of books is likely to lead to a happy life. This is important stuff, and well worth your $15. I hope you'll stop by on Saturday and say hi.
You really should read GQ's "Seven Stages of Ron Paul Supporter Grief:"
Our past couple moneybombs could have been a lot better, and I know a lot of people are hurting financially, but if this is Ron's last hurrah (I don't think it is, I still think he will become President), let's show him that we are in it to win it and that we will support him all the way to Tampa. Any input? If we could all pledge $10 for whatever the date may be, we could make this special and make Ron's connection with this movement one to remember."
It's funny because they're idiots.
* It's "Kübler-Ross," but Slog headlines do not support special characters. They support comic sans, but not special characters. That's some flat-out injustice, right there.
Not only is he cutting out the bitches and hos (see Charles Mudede) he just went on record saying this:
I am a fan.
...and wanted to ask any HUMP! fans lurking on Slog if there's anything in particular they'd like to see this year. Last year's "EXTRA CREDIT" props included duct tape, Super Soakers, and the number 7. Anything you wanna see this year, HUMPers? Writing this thing up now, so... need to hear from you ASAP.
I hate to blockquote his entire post, but I know he won't mind, so, you know, what Atrios said:
I know all the Very Serious People accepted the narrative the Jamie Dimon was a good one, that JP Morgan was fine no really fine yes just fine of course all fine. But, you know, they weren't. They took TARP money. They went to the Fed discount window and put their mouths to the free money funnel. More than that, numerous counterparties were bailed out.
The top executives at every big bank should have been sacked at a minimum. They aren't wizards, even the "good ones" like Dimon. They're gamblers who almost destroyed the world and will likely do it again soon.
At which point they will be bailed out. Again.
It's not his main point, but it's worth repeating: "They aren't wizards." There's this myth that America is largely a meritocracy, that executives like Dimon earn hundreds of millions of dollars because they're uniquely worth it, but it's just not true. There are hundreds... thousands... perhaps millions of people who could run Chase at least as well as Dimon, if not better. But through whatever combination of timing, good fortune, chutzpah, and yes, talent, it is Dimon who managed to work his way to the top.
And Wall Street isn't the only place filled with incredibly wealthy people who have convinced themselves that they earned every penny through their own genius and hard work. The Seattle area has its fair share of self-important multi-millionaires, many of whom are no doubt very smart and have at times worked long hours, but who somewhat owe their immense fortunes to the accident of being born ten years before the following generation of Microsoft employees, or whatever stock option lottery they managed to win.
Even someone as iconic as Bill Gates: no doubt as smart and driven as he is he likely would have ended up a success no matter what career he had pursued, but would he ever have been the world's richest man had he been born five years sooner or later, or to a working class family? Probably not.
But I digress. Again, the point is that people like Dimon aren't wizards. And we'll never fix what's wrong with our economy by deferring to them as if they are.
Thanks to a stray email we can now confirm that Dow Constantine, King County Executive, has a penis and that Constantine used his penis to have sex with a lady. Constantine was widely believed to have a penis and to have used his penis to have sex with ladies as Constantine lives with a lady with whom he was widely believed to be having sex using his penis. However the stray email that confirmed the existence of Constantine's penis was not written by the woman with whom Constantine lives and was widely believed to be having sex. So we can now report that King County Executive Dow Constantine, age 50, has had sex with at least two ladies in the roughly thirty-five years that he has been capable of achieving and maintaining erections to the point of ejaculation.
Here's what we don't know: We don't know what sort of agreement Constantine has with the lady with whom he lives. Do they have an open relationship? Are they monogamish? Does Constantine having sex with other ladies violate the terms of his agreement with the lady with whom he lives? We don't know. Does the lady with whom Constantine lives have sex with other county executives? We don't know.
Two other things we do know: We know that there were no financial or political shenanigans. So there's no official misconduct to report. And Constantine isn't a Republican—that is, Constantine isn't a member of political party that seeks to regulate the private sexual conduct of other Americans, builds campaigns around the theme of "family values," and attacks opponents for their perceived sexual and moral failings. So there's no hypocrisy to report either.
Summing up: area man had sex with a lady and another lady might be mad at him. Or she might not. We don't know.
And didn't need to.
This is news, apparently, except there's no news in it: President Obama went on relentlessly awful TV gabfest The View this morning, because a weird New York Times poll says that Romney is suddenly doing better with women voters for no good reason at all. President Obama didn't really say anything new about anything on The View, but he did talk about marriage equality a whole bunch. If you want to know more about this television appearance that is currently at the top of every news blog in the universe, go to this website.
Jim Loewen in Salon, riffing on the silly Newsweek cover, points out that James Buchanan, president from 1857 to 1861, was actually, obviously gay.
There can be no doubt that James Buchanan was gay, before, during and after his four years in the White House. Moreover, the nation knew it, too — he was not far into the closet.
So why is it not more popularly known that Buchanan was gay? Loewen's answer is interesting:
One reason why Americans find it hard to believe Buchanan could have been gay is that we have a touching belief in progress. Our high school history textbooks’ overall story line is, “We started out great and have been getting better ever since,” more or less automatically. Thus we must be more tolerant now than we were way back in the middle of the 19th century!
Loewen also knows a bunch about beards. Not beards like women married to gay men, but facial beards. As he points out, it's been a long time since a president had one.
From Fox News, of course:
Former President George W. Bush said Tuesday he is supporting Republican Mitt Romney's run for the White House.
"I'm for Mitt Romney," Bush told ABC News after he delivered a speech on human rights in Washington, D.C.
I don't suppose it should be any surprise that George W. Bush is endorsing Romney. Romney's team is lousy with former Bush aides and employees. His policy advisers are primarily from the Bush White House, his campaign is made up of Bush cronies, and his policies are all George W. Bush policies with a patina of teabagginess slopped over the top. Bush's endorsement is just the blood-red, oozing cherry perched at the top of the shit sundae.
A court in Iran has sentenced four gay men to death. I'm getting emails today from conservative Christians pointing out that whatever they're guilty of doing here—writing anti-gay bigotry into state constitutions, justifying discrimination against gay people in the workplace, making excuses for anti-gay bullying in schools, bearing false witness against their gay and lesbian neighbors—at least they're not, you know, killing gay people like they do over there. Christians are against killing gay people!
Except when they're not.
The Catholic Church opposed a UN declaration that condemned the imprisonment and executions of gay people in the 80 countries. Also standing in opposition to this UN declaration: Tony Perkins' Family Research Council. Perkins' outfit also lobbied against a U.S. House resolution that condemned a proposed "kill the gays" law in Uganda—a law backed by the our homegrown rightwing religious bigots—that would impose the death penalty on gay men and lesbians. And the American Family Association's Peter Sprigg has called for gay people to be thrown in prison here at home.
So, yeah, deranged rightwing theocratic bigots in the USA aren't executing gay people like the theocrats over in Iran are. But only because they can't get away with it.
Presumptive Republican presidential candidate Mitt Romney has a slight edge over President Obama in the race for the White House in the latest CBS News/New York Times poll.According to the survey, conducted May 11-13, 46 percent of registered voters say they would vote for Romney, while 43 percent say they would opt for Mr. Obama. Romney's slight advantage remains within the poll's margin of error, which is plus or minus four percentage points.
Though this gay donor switched from Rmoney to Obama...
"I feel that I no longer wish to support your presidential campaign and ask that you please return the maximum contribution that I gave to you last year," Bill White wrote in a letter addressed to the former Massachusetts governor and obtained by CNN.How in the world could you support Rmoney in the first place? How could you believe even for a minute that his policies will create jobs and repair the economy? Rmoney is not only on the wrong side of history for gay rights, but also plain economic thinking."You have chosen to be on the wrong side of history and I do not support your run for president any longer," White added.