Slog - Comments on Savage Love Letter of the Day http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74 hey dan your a big cocksucking queer, roughly how many dicks have you had stuffed up your asshole???? italiandon I get fewer letters like this than readers might expect. But I get enough of 'em that one deserves, at some point, to be the SLLOTD. Congrats, italiandon! Now I'd like to draw the attention of less hateful readers to the jealousy that seethes just beneath the surface of italiandon's note. Most straight boys admire men who have a lot of sex partners; men that get a lot of ass are players and studs. But straight men, being men, intuitively realize... Copyright 2008 Fri, 24 Oct 2008 13:50:15 -0800 Sat, 25 Oct 2008 20:35:13 -0800 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=3.34 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Comment by frank rizzo yes, and only half of a lucky pierre exists.

]]> frank rizzo http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182752 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182752 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 13:57:12 -0800 Comment by elenchos Ha, see there you go with the gay recruiting again. Incorrigible.

]]> elenchos http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182753 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182753 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 13:58:30 -0800 Comment by Tiktok The more energetic the homophobic attack, the deeper in the closet the attacker resides.

]]> Tiktok http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182755 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182755 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:00:44 -0800 Comment by The Daily Show Remember, it's not gay if you're the guy.

]]> The Daily Show http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182760 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182760 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:05:29 -0800 Comment by bobbo Oh snap.

]]> bobbo http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182762 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182762 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:05:49 -0800 Comment by Mr. Poe Sex just isn't a problem for us. We're not sorry.

]]> Mr. Poe http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182765 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182765 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:06:55 -0800 Comment by Vince Italiandon! What a potty mouth! I grew up around guys like you. They always wanted me to sneak out at night and suck their dicks. Poor greasy little fascist. Dans right. You know you want it, but you haven't got the balls.

]]> Vince http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182767 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182767 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:09:48 -0800 Comment by jackseattle Straight tops have to work sooooo hard to get what they want

]]> jackseattle http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182768 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182768 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:11:04 -0800 Comment by w7ngman Seriously, though, how many?

]]> w7ngman http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182770 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182770 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:11:33 -0800 Comment by Original Monique @6: Same with *most women, except society always tried to make us feel like guilty whores. Fuck society.

*The smart ones that know whats up.

]]> Original Monique http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182777 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182777 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:16:30 -0800 Comment by kitschnsync italiandon, despite his homophobia, might be jealous of that guy. Hell, he might want to be that guy.

Why Do All These Homosexuals Keep Sucking My Cock?

]]> kitschnsync http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182778 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182778 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:18:06 -0800 Comment by ellarosa that man has to be swished away, you mean.

]]> ellarosa http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182779 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182779 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:18:09 -0800 Comment by Fnarf He also appears to be a little confused on the mechanics of cocksucking, which is just sad.

]]> Fnarf http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182782 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182782 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:20:49 -0800 Comment by Dave M More like "italianclosetcase" IMHO.

]]> Dave M http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182786 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182786 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:22:12 -0800 Comment by Aislinn @10: Amen.

]]> Aislinn http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182790 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182790 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:24:37 -0800 Comment by hillpagan ONE can be a health-imperiling number.

]]> hillpagan http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182792 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182792 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:25:49 -0800 Comment by Julie in Chicago He says it like sucking cocks and having them stuffed up your ass is a bad thing. Fail.

]]> Julie in Chicago http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182795 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182795 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:27:07 -0800 Comment by Lavode @9: You beat me to the punch. Well said!

]]> Lavode http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182801 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182801 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:30:27 -0800 Comment by Ziggity @16: Tell it to Sarah Palin, wanker.

]]> Ziggity http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182802 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182802 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:30:44 -0800 Comment by jrrrl Hey Dan, aren't you supposed to answer questions of the day? Please provide a number.

]]> jrrrl http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182804 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182804 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:31:12 -0800 Comment by UNPAID BLOGGER The whole top/bottom thing is a really interesting concept that has some sort of biological basis, which is why you see female dogs sometimes hump male dogs as a form of domination... I believe that's why for straight men it's considered acceptable to be a whore; they've shown their control over many other people, whereas a female who does the same has shown weakness by giving away control to many men.

(I've tried to actively break my own mental conformity to that concept, but there was still a time when I dated a complete top and couldn't help feeling I was giving up control just by bottoming exclusively.)

]]> UNPAID BLOGGER http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182806 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182806 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:32:02 -0800 Comment by Lavode Speaking of Gays,

This just in, hopefully it will get a mention in an actual posting, rather than just a comment:

Apple donates $100,000 to oppose Proposition 8

]]> Lavode http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182809 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182809 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:33:47 -0800 Comment by tomasyalba The gay male top—the gay suckee, the gay fucker—doesn’t exist, that man has to be wished away.

Channeling Mudede really nicely there! Great post.

]]> tomasyalba http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182816 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182816 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:37:48 -0800 Comment by michael strangeways A lot of fancy, Mudedian talk to avoid answering the question...

]]> michael strangeways http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182844 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182844 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:50:40 -0800 Comment by i heart julie in chicago maybe he's genuinely curious and you're being mean.

]]> i heart julie in chicago http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182845 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182845 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:50:52 -0800 Comment by Fnarf @25, I think you're right. He's just asking for a number to shoot for. So to speak.

]]> Fnarf http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182855 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182855 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 14:55:44 -0800 Comment by Womyn2me um.
I cant help but be slightly interested in the answer myself and I'm a lesbian. is that wrong?

]]> Womyn2me http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182886 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182886 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:12:27 -0800 Comment by Fnarf Well, Fidel Castro has reportedly fucked 35,000 women, and Dan's got to be AT LEAST twice as promiscuous as that, right? So, 70,000? And he's 39, so he's been sexually active for thirty years, so 2,500 or so a year, about? Like, eight a day? Is that about right, Dan?

I may be off a little, but God damn, I'm jealous of you shirtlifters.

]]> Fnarf http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182893 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182893 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:21:52 -0800 Comment by Wowzer Google never ceases to amaze me. Being a little slow on the uptake, I was like "what's SLLOTD"? Some trendy gay sex acronym I don't know about? LOL? So I Google it. And the first hit that comes up is this very Slog post.

How dey do that?

]]> Wowzer http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182902 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182902 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:28:25 -0800 Comment by Fnarf Google is super in love with the Slog, I've noticed. Many times I've googled something I've seen in a post here, only to have the item itself come up, even just minutes later.

]]> Fnarf http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182920 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182920 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:42:49 -0800 Comment by Anna @21: My friend is a top, and he claims that tops outnumber bottoms, which makes dating difficult because he absolutely REFUSES to be a bottom. Is that actually true?

]]> Anna http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182922 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182922 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:43:44 -0800 Comment by emma's bee Yes, Dan, we know you're a top. So, fulfill his fantasies and give him the answer he is REALLY seeking?

]]> emma's bee http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182929 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182929 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:48:17 -0800 Comment by brian 31, Maybe it's just the guys I "get together" with, but my experience is exactly the opposite.

]]> brian http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182931 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182931 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:49:14 -0800 Comment by Geni The guys CLAIMING to be tops outnumber the guys admitting to be bottoms, gay or straight. But get 'em under the sheets, and suddenly they want to be put in a diaper and paddled.

The homophobes who obsess over buttsecks never seem to realize there is a significant percentage of male homosexuals who don't engage in any penetrative sex at all. I actually know quite a few guys who only do mutual masturbation or what I'd call dry-humping. Fallout from AIDS.

]]> Geni http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182937 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182937 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:57:47 -0800 Comment by RS @31 - It varies regionally. In the midwest where a lot of my friends are from, there's a lot of pressure to be a top (a lot of denigrating of bottoms). But in San Francisco, the running joke is that the City is 97% bottoms (because the bottoms from the midwest move here). Or maybe it's just that there doesn't seem to be as much of a stigma in admitting to like bottoming here. Not sure if it's true, but it does seem that my friends who are tops are in high demand and those of us who are bottoms have a lot of competition.

]]> RS http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182988 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1182988 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 16:35:16 -0800 Comment by J @23 & @24 beat me to it, but oh well:

Dan, when did you give Mudede your blog login?

]]> J http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183024 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183024 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 17:08:27 -0800 Comment by Ayden/VA I love SLOG.

It can distract me from anything.

]]> Ayden/VA http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183060 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183060 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 17:56:27 -0800 Comment by copper seattle = too many tunnels and not enough trains

bring it on italiandon

]]> copper http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183062 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183062 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 17:58:11 -0800 Comment by john I think this is an overanalysis.

Italiandon's a closet.

]]> john http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183077 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183077 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 18:36:07 -0800 Comment by Tracy That may be, 39, but this is the best response to a homophobic hate letter that I've ever seen.

]]> Tracy http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183097 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183097 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 19:41:27 -0800 Comment by Sean Dan, I love posts like this. When it comes to sexual politics, you are the one. Thank you.

]]> Sean http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183135 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183135 Savage Love Fri, 24 Oct 2008 21:56:30 -0800 Comment by Sigmund Freud stuffing sicks up our assholes

Hm, you have had over 10 hours to change that, yet you have not.

]]> Sigmund Freud http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183158 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183158 Savage Love Sat, 25 Oct 2008 00:18:59 -0800 Comment by Ben Dan, excellent points well made as always, but you didn't answer! Approximately how many guys have you had sex with (any type of sex, please provide a reasonable range, not some cutesy "between 1 and 1000" range)?

You're a "public" figure who's makes a living with sex advice, so I think this question is fair game for your fans!

(And no, I'm not a homophobe. I'm out, a little younger than Dan's age. I don't keep exact count but it's probably 50-75 guys including BFs, one night stands, 3-ways, and random encounters at sex parties. Over 150 if you included "light" sexual contact at sex parties that didn't lead to orgasm or involve genital contact (such as grabbing a guy's arm or having my arm grabbed while stroking one out myself).

]]> Ben http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183178 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183178 Savage Love Sat, 25 Oct 2008 08:13:31 -0800 Comment by Jon Brock there is a serious grammatical epidemic affecting (at least) seattle. is it so hard to learn the difference, and correct use, of "your" versus "you're"? [rhetorical]. of course, i'm referring to the idiot from the actual SLLOTD, when he says, "...your a big cocksucking queer". i trust that you know the difference dan.

]]> Jon Brock http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183193 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183193 Savage Love Sat, 25 Oct 2008 09:39:41 -0800 Comment by Greg Yeah, straight men are jealous that gay guys get so much play. Is that wrong?

]]> Greg http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183304 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183304 Savage Love Sat, 25 Oct 2008 15:13:30 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO I've sucked a lot of dicks (and I do me a lot), but have yet to give up my ass.

I'm saving myself for Mr. Right.

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183308 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183308 Savage Love Sat, 25 Oct 2008 15:21:26 -0800 Comment by Tracy @46: you suck your own dick a lot? Like in Shortbus? Awesome.

]]> Tracy http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183403 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/10/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_74#c1183403 Savage Love Sat, 25 Oct 2008 20:35:13 -0800