Savage Love My Boyfriend Doesn’t Like Me to Write About Our Sex Life…
posted by October 8 at 9:50 AMon
…and I’m sure Slog readers don’t want to hear about it either, and I’m not going to go into specifics or anything here, and I’m certainly not going tell you people where I was last night when I should’ve been at home watching the debate. But in response to this post at Feministing about me supposedly advising all women everywhere “to have sex when they don’t feel like it,” I’d like to say this: I advised Wanna Want More to do exactly what me and my boyfriend have been doing for fourteen years. While we’re pretty evenly matched libido-wise, there are times—when I’m wrapping up a book, when he’s beat from schlepping our kid and the neighbors’ kids around town—when one of us just isn’t up for it.
And at those times, Feministing, a cheerful and indulgent milking goes a long way toward keeping a your partner content. But for the record: the advice I gave WWM applies to same-sex relationships and to straight relationships with a low-libido male and a frustrated female. Please make a note of it.