Slog - Comments on Savage Love Letter of the Day http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56 I'm a straight female. My boyfriend and I were together for almost 6 years, and then we broke up for a year. Now we're back together and the sex is better than ever; he's not nearly as inhibited as he used to be. He's also apparently developed some new kinks, which is great. But one of them confuses me: he wants to lick my armpit. Is this normal? I'd feel really self-conscious. Is this just some weird hangup on my part that I need to just get over? And if I do let him lick it, am I obligated to... Copyright 2008 Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:36:51 -0800 Fri, 26 Sep 2008 10:37:11 -0800 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=3.34 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Comment by yeah! srsly!
The area between the breast and the upper arm is possibly the SEXIEST sweetness ever!
On guys too, it's a great place to cuddle up!

]]> yeah! http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150709 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150709 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:43:10 -0800 Comment by yesiree LET HIM LICK YOUR ARMPIT.
seriously
you will not regret it.

armpit licking is awesome!!!!!

]]> yesiree http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150711 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150711 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:44:38 -0800 Comment by whatevernevermind I "seriously" should have avoided Slog entirely today.

]]> whatevernevermind http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150716 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150716 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:51:38 -0800 Comment by Long Dong Silver Arrr, matey, I'm surprised nobody has made mention of the gay pirates of Amsterdam. Mr. Poe, your thoughts sir?

]]> Long Dong Silver http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150719 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150719 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:53:18 -0800 Comment by Ben Dan, the boyfriend probably knows what happened to the boyfriend during the year they were apart.

]]> Ben http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150721 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150721 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:54:29 -0800 Comment by schnoodle @1 - Absolutely!

I just had a similar conversation with my man the other night! I started talking pheremones, and Dan Savage quotes (about liking how someone's spit tastes, etc.), and finally just blurted..."baby, I love the way you stink!" And I stuck my nose in his armpit.


]]> schnoodle http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150725 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150725 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:56:52 -0800 Comment by w7ngman Just don't wear anti-perspirant, for the sake of the moisture content of your partner's mouth.

]]> w7ngman http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150726 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150726 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:56:55 -0800 Comment by Chris in Tampa On September 18, 2008, Dan Savage wrote:

"Nothing shrivels the ol' dick quite as quickly as the "What?!?" bomb.

There the guy was, boned for you, and he was brave enough to put his desires out there, to make himself vulnerable (which is what the ladies are always saying they want, right?), and you lobbed the ol' "What?!?" bomb at him and made him feel like a freak. Is it any wonder that he quickly moved on to "other things" and, one would hope, better sex partners?
...
So here's what you missed out on, RIT: a safe and unique sexual experience with a guy who isn't afraid of his own desires but is, it seems, too easily spooked by the odd "What?!?" Who knows? Maybe he was "the one," but your reaction to his kink prompted him to go off in search of more indulgent, less-sex-negative partners.

Your loss, I'd say."

Dan Savage was wrong then and he's wrong now. Can the American People ever trust Dan Savage again after ruining this young girl's life???

]]> Chris in Tampa http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150727 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150727 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:57:01 -0800 Comment by Sean More unshaven female armpits, please.

]]> Sean http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150738 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150738 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 17:04:10 -0800 Comment by OH "Divine I am, inside and out, and I make holy what I touch, or am touch'd from,
The scent of these arm-pits aroma finer than prayer,
This head more than churches, bibles, and all the creeds.

If I worship one thing more than another it shall be the spread of my own body, or any part of it." --Walt Whitman, "Song of Myself"

]]> OH http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150749 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150749 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 17:12:48 -0800 Comment by violet_dagrinder Amen

:swoon:

]]> violet_dagrinder http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150753 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150753 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 17:17:40 -0800 Comment by what's the big deal? If PU doesn't want to go there, she doesn't have to, but really, what a benign request. PU's concern is yet another indication of how many women think their bodies are disgusting. It makes me sad. Geez, it's just a little sweat. I'll bet PU's armpits are pretty damn clean--given her gross-out response and all, she probably showers frequently and loads up on hygiene products. Sweat, unless it's in excess or has been allowed to age, really isn't that bad. It's certainly preferable to all that nasty petro-chemical-stinky-pseudo-flowery-carcinogenic crap packed into "personal products" like deodorant and body lotion. I'm not sayin' women should stop showering. I am saying that barring some medical condition, if you shower once or twice a day your sweat's probably just fine, safe for consumption, if you will. And again, what a benign request. Why not try it? Really, with everything else that's going on in the world worrying about this really wastes your time. Women waste way too much time worrying about being gross and miss lots of other interesting and fun stuff in the meantime. So yeah PU, and I mean this in the nicest possible way, do yourself a favor and get over it.

]]> what's the big deal? http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150814 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150814 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:21:50 -0800 Comment by Darcy @7: Oh, Christ, seriously. Rubbing alcohol with a sort of piquant Manly Evergreen flavor, mmmm.

]]> Darcy http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150832 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150832 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:42:45 -0800 Comment by puzzlegal Ewwww.

Not the sweat, the chemicals. Don't you guys use antiperspirant, or deodorant? I wouldn't want someone I liked to lap up my aluminum zirconium tetrachrolohydrex.

]]> puzzlegal http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150925 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150925 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:54:36 -0800 Comment by smiller555 wow. dan savage and I totally agree on something. fancy that.

]]> smiller555 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150927 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150927 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:57:50 -0800 Comment by Helena puzzlegal wrote:
"Ewwww.

Not the sweat, the chemicals. Don't you guys use antiperspirant, or deodorant? I wouldn't want someone I liked to lap up my aluminum zirconium tetrachrolohydrex."

So wash first. If your SO likes armpit, I bet he'll be happy to wait while you sluice off the chemicals.

Sheesh.

]]> Helena http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150964 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1150964 Savage Love Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:00:10 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO I gotta say, I'm with the "armpits are gross" crowd. Of course, I'll stick my face/tongue in all sorts of other places on the human body. I guess I've succumb to a lifetime of deoderant ads.

Maybe next time I'll give it a whirl.

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151013 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151013 Savage Love Fri, 26 Sep 2008 07:19:18 -0800 Comment by Rotten666 I love the way my lady stinks. Pheremones, baby!

]]> Rotten666 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151037 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151037 Savage Love Fri, 26 Sep 2008 08:37:27 -0800 Comment by behrmark I'd never done the armpit thing until I was dating this hot musclebear who shyly disclosed his love of having his pits licked. So I dove in and it was as much a turn on for me as for him. Once licked his pits in the middle of an amusement park ride too. But that aside, don't knock it til you've tried it.

]]> behrmark http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151039 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151039 Savage Love Fri, 26 Sep 2008 08:41:19 -0800 Comment by Jeremy from Seattle @15 Of course I find you in THIS thread! Not my particular fetish, but I definitely see the attraction and I think for this girl a simple, "Yes its totally normal and you should embrace it." would be best for her.

I'm too ticklish for it personally, but I sometime grab my wife's armpits from behind during "coitus."

]]> Jeremy from Seattle http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151040 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151040 Savage Love Fri, 26 Sep 2008 08:43:21 -0800 Comment by Wurm @9

unshaven armpits on men or women is just.... yack.... blarg. *shudder*. You're more than welcome to those hairy pits :P

]]> Wurm http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151195 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/09/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_56#c1151195 Savage Love Fri, 26 Sep 2008 10:37:11 -0800