Savage Love Savage Love Letter of the Day
posted by September 18 at 14:56 PMon
Hmmm, written before but perhaps my concern is either too weird or not weird enough.
Since my husand and I have been together he has never comforted me when I am emotional and cry. I would go to him for a hug and comfort but he always refused. After years of being hurt by this I finally confronted him for an honest answer. He said that when I cry he gets an erection, and immediatly feels like a sexual freak and so keeps me at a distance.
Any way we can deal with this other than ignoring it and me never getting comfort? We are really at a loss.
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P.S. We have a great frequent sex.
Hey, this is weird: I get erections in cabs, pretty much for no reason, and it makes me feel like a sexual freak.
But I still get in cabs.
Since you know he gets erections that he can’t help when you get emotional, tell him that you’re not going to hold those erections against him. Swear you won’t resent him for getting hard. Then tell him, however, that you do resent him for withholding physical affection when you need it most.