Slog - Comments on Savage Love Letter of the Day http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40 I am a 38 year old straight male in a long-term relationship. We have had two children together, and they are still quite young. I am not sure what killed the physicality and intimacy of our relationship (many things, likely), but as it stand, my spouse and I have been physically disconnected for years. This led to rather sleazy adulterate behaviour on my part. We recently discussed the topic at length (at which time I informed her of my indiscretions), and have decided to remain together for our children (we work well together as parents, and actually make pretty good... Copyright 2008 Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:20:30 -0800 Mon, 25 Aug 2008 10:53:02 -0800 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=3.34 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Comment by Mr. Poe Throw it in her butt.

]]> Mr. Poe http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111583 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111583 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:24:13 -0800 Comment by tsm Not that there isn’t an equal or greater number of frustrated married women

You don't really believe that, do you? Come on! Open that can o' worms again.

]]> tsm http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111584 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111584 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:24:31 -0800 Comment by but ultimately a last resort. oh, and welcome to slog Rape is fun.

]]> but ultimately a last resort. oh, and welcome to slog http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111588 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111588 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:26:58 -0800 Comment by elenchos Turgid prose is what led to the disconnectedness and the adulterationist behaviors on the part(s) of those parties of which we have identified as participants in the aforementioned relationship about which we and the English language are being tortured to our deaths with.

Turgid fucking prose, my friends. Don't let it destroy your family too.

]]> elenchos http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111613 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111613 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:34:57 -0800 Comment by alan What elenchos said. I.e., ATH would have a lot better luck with the ladies if he didn't sound like Frasier Crane.

]]> alan http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111621 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111621 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:38:01 -0800 Comment by Fnarf They should set up a scene. "Run across" each other somewhere, pretend they don't know each other, flirt, go to a bar, date "secretly", and "go back to my place". All the spice of adultery plus the benefits of reconnecting their marriage, etc. etc.

Or what Poe said. Either way.

]]> Fnarf http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111622 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111622 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:39:47 -0800 Comment by tsm Perhaps they should have Pina Coladas, @6.

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]]> w7ngman http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111652 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111652 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:55:28 -0800 Comment by Will in Seattle @7 for the insightful win, at least until the cops arrest the spurned babysitter who guns down the entire family.

]]> Will in Seattle http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111657 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111657 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:58:11 -0800 Comment by Callie You guys are fucking hilarious. I love you elenchos.

]]> Callie http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111679 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111679 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:07:02 -0800 Comment by rocket scientist As a rocket scientist, I can say with authority that the solution is to try having sex and reconnecting with eachother. It just might work. Fnarf actually had a decent suggestion for something specific to try. Unless the author is trying to say without saying that although he is hot stuff, his wife is nasty and that's why he just can't get it up.

]]> rocket scientist http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111684 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111684 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:09:42 -0800 Comment by harold there is nothing in that letter but pure bullshit. There is no existing world that person is describing.

]]> harold http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111719 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111719 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:28:06 -0800 Comment by Jason Josephes There's a dating service for people who want to have affairs. He should start there.

]]> Jason Josephes http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111724 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111724 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:30:50 -0800 Comment by i'm very attractive, too. dan, he's not JUST attractive. he's VERY attractive.

& a monster of self-regard.

]]> i'm very attractive, too. http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111743 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111743 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:42:09 -0800 Comment by Lauren He didn't seem to have any trouble finding someone to cheat on his wife with the first time. Why not try the same technique?

Or perhaps a courtesan? (oh wait, they're called escorts now.)

]]> Lauren http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111778 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111778 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:58:44 -0800 Comment by w7ngman I DON'T UNDERSTAND I'M LIKE THE PERFECT CATCH YET I CANNOT FIND ANY WOMEN.

Oh wait, that's right, I'm emailing Dan Savage for run-of-the-mill dating advice and am therefore a social retard.

]]> w7ngman http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111796 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111796 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 16:05:32 -0800 Comment by city kitty hahahaa elenchos! hahaha!

]]> city kitty http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111842 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1111842 Savage Love Fri, 22 Aug 2008 16:26:20 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO Ashleymadison.com

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1112626 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_40#c1112626 Savage Love Sun, 24 Aug 2008 10:20:42 -0800 Comment by darekso you were quite preachy in this one dan...

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